We are willing to guide the other half with our own strengths and advantages, and warm the other half with our own efforts and enthusiasm, because love needs support and encouragement.
Through the efforts of both sides, the gap between the two will continue to narrow. And those couples who know how to give to each other, their emotional balance will become more and more balanced.
In life, if one party's efforts will never be rewarded, or even need to endure the shortcomings and shortcomings of the other party for a long time, then this marriage is better to give up as soon as possible.
0 1. Xiaoya always thinks that a confident and independent woman is the most attractive, so she is always better than other girls. Although her family is not bad, she has never asked for a penny from her family since she entered the society for the second month.
After four or five years of hard work, she has some savings. Her parents knew that she wanted to buy a house, so they took out 300 thousand to support her. In this way, Xiaoya soon had his own house. In the workplace, Xiaoya's resolute work style makes her seem a little cold, so boys are reluctant to approach her.
Because Xiaoya and I have some business contacts, there is a young man named Zhang Wei who has always admired Xiaoya. Although Zhang Wei's income is not high and his ability is average, his thoughtfulness and carefulness just send some warmth to Xiaoya's indifferent heart.
02. However, after falling in love for half a year, Xiaoya's heart, which had just been covered with hot air, was poured with a basin of ice water. "My son wants to find a good wife and mother", "I don't want to give a bride price in the future" and "I must live with my elders after marriage" ... these are the information revealed by Zhang Wei's mother.
Xiaoya is very disgusted with the relevant requirements for her to give up her career. Finally, through Zhang Wei's long-term mediation, the two talents got married smoothly. However, after marriage, Xiaoya found that Zhang Wei's career was stagnant for a reason. She constantly encouraged Zhang Wei and gave him many useful suggestions.
But no matter how Xiaoya enlightened him, Zhang Wei was always disgusted. While taking charge of the main expenses at home, Xiaoya felt very tired in the face of her husband who refused to make progress and put up with her mother-in-law's rejection, and those beautiful expectations for marriage were slowly disappearing.
03. But the days have to go on. Sometimes Xiaoya would subsidize Zhang Wei's living expenses, but later she learned that Zhang Wei had lost all his money in gambling. Xiaoya is becoming more and more insecure. Every time she goes home, her mother-in-law always treats her coldly, and sometimes even deliberately leaves some housework for her to do.
Xiaoya's patience is wearing thin. Once when she came home from work, she found that her mother-in-law and Zhang Wei had not left her a meal. Zhang Wei is playing games and ignoring her, while her mother-in-law is lying in bed watching TV after taking a shower. Xiaoya wearily asked Zhang Wei to give himself a bowl of jiaozi, but the other party's reply was: "Busy playing games, don't bother."
Xiaoya's long-standing resentment was suddenly released. After a quarrel, she decisively filed for divorce. Mother-in-law did not "persuade peace" after knowing it, but said, "I just want to find a daughter-in-law who is stable at home. We have lived in this suite for a long time, and it is ours. Now that you ask for a divorce, you have to go out clean! "
Xiaoya thought it was ridiculous: "You are so ignorant. This is the house I bought before I got married. this is nothing to do with you. Hurry up and pack up and leave tomorrow morning! "
Girls will feel a lot of security after buying a house, but they should also remind all girls not to have too much psychological superiority just because they own a house, which is not good for business feelings. Of course, Xiaoya has done a good job on this issue. She didn't look down on Zhang Wei because of real estate.
Two people in a marriage must have the ability. As the relatively "weak" party in marriage, you must try your best to catch up with your lover. If the gap keeps widening, this long-term unbalanced love will face many problems.
A person who works hard in his career and understands his lover better within his family will certainly be able to manage his marriage well. And those boys who are not motivated and responsible, or even grow up under the protection of their parents for a long time, are really not worth entrusting for life.
Marriage has a great influence on life. Whether a girl can find a responsible lover and meet a reasonable mother-in-law basically determines the quality of life in the future.
If you love the wrong person and feel endless injustice and torture in your marriage, learn to stop loss in time.