Teacher's love is the eternal theme of class teacher's work. Teaching and educating people can't be without love, and the education of love can't be without the wisdom of art and education. Only the teacher's love with educational wisdom is the true love for students.
Brief case description
XX, male, 13. Family conditions are better. Before I knew his name, he began to greet me-playing with his mobile phone without hesitation, and putting it in his pocket after being criticized by me, without showing any remorse; On the first day of school, when the flag was raised, he was openly late and tried to join the team, even though I told him not to be late the day before. I was angry and yelled at him severely, but he didn't refute me with a look of indifference.
One afternoon, in the self-study class, sweet music suddenly sounded, and he secretly brought his mobile phone to school. In fact, I learned from my heart-to-heart talk with my classmates that XX's mobile phone never leaves my body. He also has many former friends. They always talk on their mobile phones from morning till night. I feel that if he can get rid of the habit of relying on mobile phones and concentrate on his studies, he should be able to make progress in his studies. So I talked with him seriously for a long time, encouraged him and tried to get him out of the virtual world. At first, he was determined to change his past lifestyle and devote himself wholeheartedly to his studies. But this day he brought his mobile phone to school again, and it only lasted for two days! When I was talking to his parents, I found that he was refuting his mother in extremely rude and excited language. In the communication with his family, I learned that he always took losing his temper and getting angry as a way to vent and fight for something unsatisfactory when he was growing up, and always ended in his victory. As a result, he tasted the sweetness in repeated excesses, but his temper became more and more violent.
One day in math class, XX was once again criticized by the math teacher for playing mobile phone in class. English class is criticized by English teachers; No teacher is satisfied with his performance. . . .
XX's home is far from school. One night, his mother called and learned that he didn't come home after school or his relatives' home. His mother is in a hurry. After I called many classmates' homes to ask questions, she came home with a black face and said that she had hurt herself on the road and was not afraid of pain, so she insisted on going home. The next day, I praised him, but it took me a few days to know that he was injured by someone else. I criticized and educated him, accusing him of not caring about his feelings and those of his family, but he still looked indifferent. And asked me to stay out of this matter and let him solve it himself. I contacted his mother and solved it in the best way.
XX can be regarded as a family with learning difficulties in the class. He can't excel academically, so he always chooses other ways to get psychological satisfaction. For example, being naughty in class and not paying attention in class, he tried to get a feeling of "being different" through such performance, attract the attention of teachers and students, and seek psychological balance. In his education, I found that he was extremely naive and wanted to try something new. It is also to show his personality. But at the same time, I also noticed that some of his outlook on life and values are biased. He will think that the teacher's education is very difficult for him, and he will think that appropriate punishment and education are the embodiment of the inhuman management of the school. Through talking with him and getting close to him, I gradually learned that family income has increased due to the enhancement of economic strength. Parents will try their best to meet the various requirements of students in life, so as to gradually develop their willful and competitive personality, less tolerance and sympathy, and more domineering and competitive. The overindulgence of all the stars in the family has made him develop a spoiled and selfish character, and his frustration ability is weak. Through talking, I found that he likes to express himself very much, and he can do whatever the teacher arranges him to do wholeheartedly. When he finds that his classmates have violated the rules, he can sometimes tell the teacher and arrange him to be a sports committee member according to his characteristics.
What impressed me most was that I had to hang banners in my class. I didn't call him at that time (in fact, I never expected him in my heart), but he took the initiative to stay and say to me, "Teacher, what can I do for you?" I agreed without hesitation, and I was very moved. He really worked hard and did a good job. I really think that in the education work, we should spend some deep-seated efforts, that is, we must not lose our affinity and be strict! It's hard to change him if he just preaches.
As the saying goes, Rome was not built in a day. Not all students grow up like this in one day. Therefore, I think that students like XX can only be outsmarted if they want to change their study, life and behavior habits.
Because, with the rapid development of the country and the opening of information, students' interest in new things becomes very easy and extensive, and their knowledge is also expanding with the times. Most of them have a strong sense of rebellion and pursue their own individuality, but they lack team spirit relatively. A large number of students will have this situation. Parents and teachers oppose what they do, and the more they want to do it, some students even try their best to nail their ears and smoke in pursuit of absolute difference.
The post-90s generation was born in the 1990s with the rapid development of computer virtual technology, and grew up in the 2 1 century of knowledge explosion. They spend more time in front of computers and televisions than their parents. I have to face such a group of teenagers.
For a stubborn student like XX, I don't think we can expect to forcibly twist his temper, nor can we. Sometimes you have to be quiet, and sometimes you know that students will hit a wall if they go on like this. Instead of stopping them, you pay attention silently. Wait until the students have suffered, and then secretly help or make suggestions.
It is necessary to discover the bright spots in students in time, encourage and stimulate their inner kindness, and let them have a loving heart. When he does something good, he should be praised and rewarded in time. At work, I found that students nowadays like to be praised and paid attention to. They always want to be the focus, and they always want to make suggestions and express themselves in class management regardless of their own abilities. In view of the students' mentality, I often let each student take charge of some things in the class according to his own ability and specialty. In my opinion, letting students handle some things freely, on the one hand, gives them an opportunity and stage to show their abilities, on the other hand, helps to cultivate their sense of collective honor and responsibility, and helps to improve the common problems of post-90 s students, such as indifference, excessive ego and pursuit of individuality. Just like XX, he is good at acting, likes to show off and is good at sports, so I put him in charge of sports activities in our class, from formation and queue arrangement to action learning and overall standardization, so it is not easy for him to do a good job in organization. Through these activities, his attitude towards people and things has undergone some gratifying changes. He has become more persistent and responsible, and his self-control ability has been improved to a certain extent. He became a person who cared about class honor. Although he still has many shortcomings, he has a good temper, and the class Committee unexpectedly agreed to recommend him when evaluating Lei Feng activists in the class.
Of course, students will inevitably make mistakes when their youth is surging. It is necessary to help students distinguish the nature of mistakes, prevent students from repeatedly teaching and refusing to change, turn a deaf ear to some students' educational persuasion, let them know the seriousness of mistakes, and take necessary measures when school rules allow. At the same time, inform the parents to cooperate with the teacher.
We should give full play to the central role of teachers and cooperate with parents to improve the educational effect of students.
The only child born after 1990s is a very special group. They are confident, they are innovative, and they dare to show off. They are proud, they are rebellious, they are arrogant. How to communicate with them heart to heart and how to create a stage for their healthy growth is a topic that our teachers must face and never go out of date.
Only two months ago, because I went out to study and was not at school, I came back to see the weekly diary written by XX: (not published for the time being) There was a sentence that moved me very much: "Teacher, when will you come back?" ..... Teacher, nice to see you again on Monday! "I also know how to use your respectful name.
This is what he wrote to the intern teacher to change. I was very moved after reading it. An educator once said: No one has the power to change another person, but if you are willing to accept him as he is, you will give him the power to change himself.
I think I have achieved initial success.