? Yingying and Xiaoyue are cousins and their father is a brother. The two girls were born in the same year and are generally older. Yingying is the second child in the family, with an elder sister above, a younger sister below, a younger brother and four brothers and sisters at home. Yingying is clever and clever, and her big eyes sparkle and make people love her. There are many children at home and no one cares about her. She grew up in the mud all day.
There is a brother on the abortion, who was admitted to a good university early and found a decent job, which became the glory of the family. The family pinned their hopes on Xiaoyue, hoping that she would struggle for breath and get out of the countryside and get rid of poverty as soon as possible. Abortion said: "As long as I can remember, countless people around me have told me" I want to go to college! Go to college! Go to college! "
The two girls are about the same age. They go to school together and are often compared. From small to large, everyone casually said, "Yingying looks good." "Yingying is smart!" Abortion, listen, don't talk. "I don't remember anyone saying that I look good, and I don't remember anyone praising me." Abortion said, "Maybe I'm really too ordinary."
? In primary school, they went to school in the same class. Yingying studies well, is among the best in her class, runs fast and is the main force of the sports meeting. Teachers like it and family members often show it off. Abortion is generally learned, hanging around twenty or thirty students in the class, with no specialty and obscurity. The sports meeting will not work; On Children's Day, I can't dance, I can't sing, and no one is looking for her. Xiaoyue said: "I hate festivals the most, because I want to stand with Yingying when I want to go home, listen to relatives' intentional or unintentional comparisons and listen to parents' criticisms."
? In junior high school, Yingying's family moved to the city, Yingying went to the best junior high school, and Xiaoyue was still in the village. In high school, they were admitted to the same high school in the city. Both girls studied hard, and finally they were admitted to a middle school. Abortion said: "I have worked very hard. I have worked very hard and want to be admitted to the same university with her. "
Abortion said, "we are almost the same. Why does everyone think she is smarter than me? " "I have been living in her shadow all these years. Whenever relatives and friends mention her, they always mention me by the way. "
Abortion said: "The pressure is really great. Everyone told me, "Look at other people's children ..." "If you don't get into college, you will be poor for life." "Your parents are not easy. You must live up to expectations! "
Xiaoyue said: "I feel crushed every day!" Compare with others every day, with cousins, with Yingying, and with the bright future in the mouth of parents. ""I have been comparing. Every time I feel that I can't do it, I can't work as hard as others. I feel inferior and miserable. "
Abortion said: "I hate being a child, very tired and depressed!" " "At this point, her tears could not help but flow down.
I listened to what the abortion said, and I was particularly distressed by this girl. Looks like it really touched a nerve. Having been friends for so many years, I saw her cry for the first time. This hard-working and serious life, the strong woman in my eyes has such a painful childhood experience. I was speechless for a moment and didn't know how to comfort her.
? I said, "You are fine now, with a good job and a good family!" " "Abortion said with a wry smile:" Yingying worked in Shanghai and found a boyfriend who graduated from a prestigious school and settled in Shanghai. You see, I am a small clerk in a small county, but I am still not as good as her in the eyes of others. "I said," why is it better than that? Everyone has their own way of life. " Abortion nodded: "Yes! Why compare! "
Abortion's daughter Cherie ran over and asked, "Mom, what's wrong with you?" Xiaoyue wiped a handful of tears and said with a smile, "Nothing, mom is fascinated!" " "Abortion said," my daughter, I won't compare her with others, as long as she is healthy and happy. "
? Yes, "I hope she is healthy and happy!" " What a beautiful wish. Childhood is such an important stage in life, and the pain left by childhood often affects life. Just like abortion, behind a strong woman is the shadow of her childhood that she doesn't want to look back. The phrase "other people's children" really hurts.
? Is there comparability between people? Say yes or no, everyone is born with their own unique characteristics, and the education and social economy they receive the day after tomorrow are different. Everyone is unique. However, living in a group, people can't help comparing with the people around them, such as looks, money, status and so on. ?
? It is easy to make oneself psychologically unbalanced, causing anxiety and affecting normal work and life. Just like abortion's childhood, she has no sense of security and is always particularly inferior and anxious. In fact, anxiety itself is not because she is not good enough, but because she values others too much and loses herself.
? The parents who had an abortion came from poor families, and we can understand this feeling of expecting the girl to be born in phoenix. However, this eagerness is not encouragement and urging, but always compares one's own children with "other people's children", which brings endless pressure to one's own children. Poor abortion, in this environment to achieve today's achievements, it is not easy.
After listening to her story, I also told myself in my heart: I must not hurt my own children with "other people's children"; Parents who can't compare with others. It is the fate of our life that our children come to us. As parents, we don't ask him to make great achievements, just try our best.
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