Matters needing attention in communication between students
Personality inequality
Students are equal in personality, so they should respect each other. People who are proud or feel inferior may artificially widen the distance with other students and affect the normal development of classmates' relationship.
Gossip
Students should be cautious in getting along with each other and gossiping behind their backs, which is the most taboo thing among students. The correct way is not to pass it on or say it yourself. When you hear what others say, you should carefully analyze the truth and falsehood, don't be credulous and blindly follow, and develop the good habit of thinking diligently and observing everywhere.
Talking hurts people.
A good word warms three winters, and a bad word hurts June. We should consciously cultivate the ability to respect others. Be gentle and elegant, pay attention to the beauty of language, and avoid being self-righteous, rude and sarcastic.
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There are always some good friends who study and live in a class group, but they avoid long-term contact with several good classmates and don't get along with others. Especially when there is a contradiction between the interests of small groups and collective interests, priority should be given to the collective interests of classes and the interests of individuals or small groups should be given up.
Unfair comparison
When students communicate, they will inevitably compare. The key is to compare what is ambition, what is self-confidence and what is vanity. If it is better than ideological progress and learning progress, this is of course good; But if it is better than matter, it is not desirable.
Communication skills in classmates' communication
Understand the nuances of communication.
Communication is no longer limited to oral communication, but has become an effective way to contact people. There are many factors that interfere with and distort the transmission of information, and the content and meaning of information are often misunderstood in the process of communication. Understanding this subtle difference will make you more aware of the necessity of self-improvement.
2. Speak your mind
When the information is conveyed, most people will be ashamed to express their ideas for fear of not meeting the expectations of society. People tend to keep their ideas in conversation. The main purpose of effective communication is to express your ideas in a specific environment.
Keep eye contact.
Every speaker thinks that the way to attract the audience is to keep eye contact with them. Looking at the other person's eyes when talking often attracts their vacillating attention to the conversation. If you want to improve your communication skills and attract your audience's attention, remember to look him in the eye when you speak. Eye contact can make the speaker's attention invisible. Without eye contact, verbal communication is even completely useless.
Body language is also important.
The expression of body language itself does not need spoken language. It can communicate through individual's special action habits, expressions and physical behaviors. Effective communication needs the cooperation of oral communication and body language to achieve amazing results in the audience. In order to convey a given message, rich gestures, vivid expressions and body language are the best ways to convey information.
A deadpan expression will only lead to the boredom of the audience, while a changeable expression will get good results. If you want to improve your communication skills, you should observe the way others speak. Talk to yourself more, practice body language in front of the mirror, find out your own shortcomings and correct them.
5. Be good at listening
Communication is not a one-way process. Listening is as important as speaking. In fact, most communication experts believe that the ideal communicator listens more and talks less. Talking can relieve the troubles of interpersonal relationships, which sounds exciting, but sometimes you can succeed just by listening. It can not only enrich your communication experience, but also get more compliments from others.
Express clearly
Some people's pronunciation always confuses the listener. This is very important in communication, so we should pay attention to it. Clear pronunciation will make the information more effective. This requires not only a deep understanding of oral pronunciation, but also efforts to improve pronunciation defects.
7. Pronunciation standard
When giving a speech, the speaker must have a standard pronunciation to achieve the expected effect. Many times, because of poor pronunciation, even the speaker will meet the laughter of the audience. Wrong pronunciation often leads to misunderstanding of the information to be conveyed. If your pronunciation needs to be improved, don't be shy to ask for help. We need to correct our pronunciation to ensure the effectiveness of communication.
8. Increase your vocabulary
Communication skills include constantly updating your vocabulary. Many times in public, due to improper use of words, I finally have to face embarrassment. This is like building a house without laying a good foundation, which will only lead to the collapse of the house. Learning new words is a valuable way to improve your communication skills. It can not only improve your oral expression ability, but also help you communicate better. One-stop narration can help you express your ideas successfully and attract the attention of the audience effectively.
The importance of communication skills in classmates' communication.
The survey found that students are sensitive to interpersonal relationships, and good interpersonal relationships are very important for the healthy growth of students. If a person can live in a warm collective environment and establish a harmonious relationship with classmates and teachers around him, he will eliminate loneliness, feel safe and keep his mood calm and stable. Otherwise, they will feel lonely and depressed, which will affect their study and life and their mental health.
According to the incomplete statistics of Beijing Youth Psychological Counseling Center, more than 50% of students' counseling questions involve interpersonal communication. The editor of Science for Middle School Students receives letters from students every day. "Students are most concerned about interpersonal communication. Of the 15 student letters a day, at most 13 are asking questions and puzzles in this regard. "
In the hotline consultation records of middle school students, interpersonal problems are the most reflected problems, accounting for 24% of the total, while the learning problems that should be the first in students' minds rank second, which is a major feature of the hotline consultation records of middle school students. Among interpersonal problems, making friends accounted for 32%, ranking first, classmates accounted for 27%, family problems accounted for 2 1%, and teacher-student problems accounted for 14%.
Students' common psychological troubles are generally manifested in the following aspects: academic problems: lack of learning motivation, improper learning methods, weariness of learning, exam anxiety and so on. Emotional problems: inferiority complex, anxiety, depression, impulsiveness and emotional imbalance; Interpersonal problems: interpersonal discomfort, poor social communication, individual psychological atresia, indifference and loneliness; Puberty problems: sexual physiological disorders, sexual psychological problems; Self-awareness: inferiority, arrogance and vague self-knowledge; Bad behavior habits: fighting, stealing, smoking, drinking, playing truant. Analyzing these problems, we can easily find that interpersonal relationship is not only the problem itself, but also the cause of many problems.
How can I master my speaking skills?
Good expression ability is an inevitable requirement of modern workplace. If you have profound ideas and amazing plans, but you can't express them, the effect will be greatly reduced, so first-class ideas should express first-class, so let's study together! The following is what I have compiled for you about how to master speaking skills.
The inside information is very deep. Why this in the first place? Because people with empty heads will definitely not have many profound ideas and innovative ideas. So know more about your own industry or major, and you can also know about related industries when you have time, and arm yourself with knowledge.
Be brief and to the point. Now is the information age, people pay attention to efficiency, and no one wants to listen to long speeches. Therefore, directly expressing your thoughts to the meaning and quoting classics can certainly show your knowledge, but it is easy for people to ignore your true intentions. So speak concisely.
Nice scene. If you want to convince others or need help, you must tell the scene well. For example, you can praise this person's merits, or his hobbies, or his family and so on. However, when it comes to the scene, it is best to get down to business and be sincere. Hypocrisy can be seen through at once.
Cautious language. Caution is definitely not derogatory. Since ancient times, there has been a saying that "disaster comes from the mouth", especially in modern times. If you don't know the other person's situation, don't talk nonsense, because you don't know which sentence will touch his sore spot. If you are not careful, don't say anything. Reduce the network vocabulary in spoken English. You can use some buzzwords when you talk to your relatives and friends, but don't bring these online expressions in your workplace conversation. Because it will reduce others' trust in what you say and make you unreliable.
Ways and skills of talking with people
Look at the opportunity when you speak. You can't say it too early before the opportunity comes. When the opportunity comes, you should say it, and it is not good to say it. Therefore, it is better to talk more than to talk less, and it is better to speak well if you talk less. People with moral cultivation are afraid of saying the wrong thing, so think twice before speaking; People with faith are afraid that what they say can't be fulfilled, and they dare not say more and promise easily; People with wit and talent are afraid of secrets and dare not talk much.
Although not many people can speak, the words are pertinent and appropriate, and the effect is great. Therefore, it is better to speak well than to speak less. When people get along with each other, it is impossible to remain silent all the time. Even the most silent person has to say a few words when necessary. Speaking is a necessary tool to communicate each other's feelings and convey their hearts. It's not a skill for you to talk to acquaintances and exchange their feelings and meanings. Being able to talk to strangers, confide in each other and meet each other after a brief encounter is your real skill.
Although this makes the purpose of speaking reach the highest level, it is particularly important not to hurt people. As the saying goes, "those who gain the Tao help more, those who lose the Tao help less, help more, the world follows fate, help less, and their loved ones betray." "This is the way to talk. When young people join the WTO for the first time, they should talk less and talk more, and be careful not to be careless. Before exporting, they should think about the people who listen to you. If he is willing to listen, he will say it from his mouth. If he doesn't want to listen, he might as well not say it.
And that he doesn't want to hear. There is a cliche that he doesn't want to hear; Once said, familiar, he didn't want to listen; Contrary to his mental state, he doesn't want to listen; Contrary to his claim, he didn't want to listen; It has nothing to do with him, he doesn't want to listen, and he doesn't want to listen to those who conflict with his interests; Unlike his level, he doesn't want to listen; He doesn't want to hear about his scars; He doesn't want to hear his privacy; The last thing I want to hear is sharp and vicious words.