The friend at the beginning of the article is such an example. She said that other students were playing, I was studying, other students were eating, I was studying, other students were on vacation, and I was still studying. Others seem to have a hard and tiring learning process, but I enjoy it. For example, look at those students playing basketball. They were sweating in the hot sun. Are they tired? Are they bitter? If you ask them, the answer must be neither bitter nor tired. They enjoy the joy after every successful pitch and dunk, which is different from my love of learning. I think there is nothing wrong with learning to make me happy and enjoy. Why else did I choose to stay on campus as a tutor?
Indeed, happy learning is not what we seem to understand, and some parents still have great misunderstandings about it. I think happy learning means playing with learning, even if you don't want to learn, you don't have to learn, there is no pressure. But it actually hurts the child. If one day he wakes up, it may be too late, and he will also blame his parents for their inaction. How can you be happy if you don't suffer when you should suffer, and if you are happy, you will never leave?
What happened to the children under happy education? In today's society, everyone is under great pressure, both adults and children. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be relaxed and happy. But the premise is that the "happy education" you advocate can make children stand on their own feet in society after leaving home and can quickly adapt to the fierce competition and rapid development of society.
There is a practitioner of the theory of "happy education" and a distant relative of mine. His education of children is completely different from ours. Once, because I saw my son being forced to study and do problems all night by the teacher's surprise training before the exam, I left a sentence: "Stop learning!" I took my son, who had just entered the third grade that year, home. After taking my son home, it took him less than half a year to walk through the whole school year of grade five in primary school and enter middle school at the age of ten.
This efficient use of time allows sons to have much more play time than ordinary children. When my son/kloc-was about 0/4 years old, three bestsellers had been published. Are you surprised to hear that? This father also has a certain background. Researcher of adolescent psychological counseling and family education. He has been engaged in it for more than 20 years and has his own unique educational philosophy. One of his educational ideas is "playing more time", which has been reported by major media. Moreover, his resume is also excellent. Strictly speaking, he can achieve the six skills that media people need, all of which can be topped up and completed very well. Everyone has such experience. Only with such strength can he dare to undertake the education of his children. His son can succeed, but this father has the ability! Therefore, this is what we ordinary people should see clearly and realize! If you have this ability, so can you, can you?
I am not a beneficiary of happy education myself. I come from the countryside and my family is average. My mother accompanied me a lot, but it was also a tiger mother education. There are many extra demands on me since I was a child. I won't go to the remedial class without any holidays. Learn almost everything and do everything. However, after a monthly exam, my score was only 15. When I got home, my mother scolded me. I couldn't help shouting at her: "You only know the score. Do you know that I am your child? " Mother said, "Because you are my child, you can't do so badly in the exam!" " ""then I will go, I will go! "I had a big fight with my mother. I was going to run away from home, but I was beaten by people. Naturally, you should study hard afterwards. Although I am not so happy, my mother has been urging me to go to school more often. After I went to college, I got a job. Looking back, I suddenly felt: "It seems that everything is not so bad! "
There is also a best friend I have always admired. Her home is similar to mine. According to the educational model, her family can be regarded as "happy education". I was in the remedial class, she was playing, I was scolded for my unsatisfactory exam results, and she accompanied her mother to go shopping. My mother was a tiger mother and her mother was a cat mother. I really envy her!
But once when chatting, she said that she envied me very much and she was not happy at all! I asked why, and she said, "My parents don't care about me. Otherwise, I will go to such an ordinary university and only be a clerk after graduation. " I really envy you! "At that time, I looked surprised ... I envied her and she envied me. Teacher Xiao Pei said that the biggest problem of happy education is that it can only be applied to families, but not to this society. Parents can respect their children and let them have a happy childhood, but society will not accommodate adults with poor abilities. Yes, only by thinking clearly about what kind of person you want to raise your children can you know what kind of education you should receive now?
What is happy education? A professor in Tsinghua said indignantly, "The biggest scam of education in China is happy education, useless academic qualifications and the release of children's nature. Education is a challenge and requires a lot of effort! " Artist Liu Huan mentioned the word "regret" several times when referring to her daughter's musical talent. He and his wife have been adhering to the "happy education" and don't want to force their daughter to do things she doesn't like. At the stage when she likes playing the piano but doesn't like practicing it, she chose to compromise. Now Liu Huan said with emotion: "I regret that I didn't insist on letting my daughter learn music since I was a child!"
I have heard such a sense of powerlessness: "I could have." Yes, I could have tried, but I gave up easily. I could have! Therefore, the way of happy education still needs parents to be clear, and they can't ignore it, and no matter what the key is, they can do whatever they want. The original intention of happy education is to respect children's natural interests, guide them to subsidize their studies, and let them enjoy their childhood and time outside their studies and grow up healthily and happily. However, in order to succeed in happy education, parents need to have certain persistence and principles. It is systematic and needs long-term educational practice. Either you relax today or you give your children a happy education. Through hard work, children have improved their grades, enhanced their self-confidence and felt very happy. Isn't it a pleasure to learn more about society and common sense through study? Isn't it a happy thing to know more friends through various activities at school and at home? Give children a "happy" childhood, where did you get such a narrow definition!
In order to achieve the goal of happy education, it is far from enough to reduce the amount of study. Other supplements should also be added, such as educational games and activities. Only by reducing the burden in a planned, planned and guided way can it be regarded as happy education, instead of blindly reducing the amount of learning just by looking at how much children have learned. In the long run, it can only be regarded as "stealing the column"! The so-called "happy education" is to make the learning process happier, and the result points to better growth, not as simple as not giving children learning pressure. A complete happiness education is more about testing parents' quality and ability. If not, let the children study and live normally. It is ok to relax properly, but we should grasp the "rudder", grasp the scale and not deviate from the original intention of happy education.
In the early morning, my mother came to talk: a second-born mother who started writing in the early morning, I wrote my heart by hand, and everything was my parenting experience with my children. I hope my parenting experience can bring you some help. (The picture in this article comes from the Internet. If there is any infringement, please contact to delete it. )