Integration has applications in biology, marketing and computer science. Integration has its unique significance in psychology, and there is even a discipline called integrated psychology. The integration of psychology I understand is to comprehensively balance the therapeutic techniques with the various characteristics of one's own mind and achieve a harmonious and unified state. For the integration of consultants themselves, there are mainly the following points.
One is people and consultants.
When you are a consultant, don't forget that you are an ordinary person. Humanism can basically be integrated into all schools of psychology, and in fact most consultants do the same. Psychoanalysis has basically fully recognized the emotional technology of humanistic therapy, and cognitive behavior has also joined the humanistic therapy technology in the later stage.
The second is rationality and sensibility.
We need to be emotional with visitors, and also need rationality to help visitors analyze, and at the same time prevent ourselves from being too emotional and falling into the emotions of visitors. I think I am a more emotional person and need to learn some logical thinking training to be rational.
The third is relationship and technology.
I believe that high-quality relationships have the ability to heal themselves, and psychological counseling is to pay for a limited high-quality relationship. Technology is like a routine in martial arts. According to the characteristics of each visitor and the timing of consultation, different technologies are needed.
The fourth is compassion and wisdom.
This may be a concept in Buddhism. There is a saying in Buddhism that is both sad and wise. Sorrow refers to great sorrow for the world and everything; Wisdom refers to a profound insight into the world. These four words mean that a person should not only have great compassion like a bodhisattva, but also have great wisdom to know the world. I think this is the personality background that a good psychological counselor needs.
The fifth is knowledge and experience.
Knowledge and experience are the most precious wealth in life. The former enriches your mind, while the latter delights your mind. My graduation thesis is about knowledge production. Knowledge is summed up from information, and wisdom is higher than knowledge. How can we turn knowledge into wisdom? I think it is the need of first-hand experience and the need of applying what I have learned. For psychological counselors, whether they go to the supervisor for personal experience, the experience brought by various experiences in life can make the psychological knowledge in books more vivid.
Sixth, love and hate.
In the past, we always emphasized the positive energy of love, but the feeling of hate also helped us to establish boundaries. I think the hate here is not a feeling of hatred, but the maintenance of self-boundary. Because many obstacles in the world are in the name of love, especially family relations. I used to read in Wu Zhihong's books that many college students who want to commit suicide mainly can't express their hatred for their parents, because China culture doesn't allow it. If you express your love for your parents again, your suicidal thoughts will be alleviated.
The teacher said that others will love and hate the important things in life. I think this concept can be extended. For example, some people love and hate imaginary people or imaginary enemies, so they will pursue fame and fortune (want more people to love her), or they will always be jealous and want to surpass others (out of hatred for others). At the same time, a person will love and hate himself. For example, many articles on chicken soup for the soul emphasize loving yourself. Why can't many people do it? Because a person can't fully accept himself, he still hates himself. So these all need attention and balance.
The seventh is to accept and change.
There was a time when I felt that I had many problems to change, so I told my friends that I needed to change this and that. Every time my friends and I argue from various angles, there is no need to change. I think it's strange. I really think I need to change. But I gradually realized that I can change slowly with a relaxed mood on the basis of accepting myself, otherwise more haste, less speed.
Eight is meeting and separation.
Everyone else in this world can only accompany you for a while. Psychological counselors, in particular, are only temporary crutches for visitors, and ultimately they need to let visitors have the strength to walk on their own. So we met to be apart. When we met, we tried to make this fate meaningful. When we are separated, we should cherish and bless each other and forget each other in the Jianghu from now on. But even if we are separated, the lessons we bring to each other will last forever. In other words, only when we are separated, the influence we bring to each other will really ferment slowly over time, become nutrients in our lives and nourish our growth.