Concerned parents can also take the initiative to attack, pay attention to "nip in the bud", try to avoid some objective factors that prompt children to lose their temper, try to remind and explain the truth in advance, and try not to be "easy to get".
What if the child refuses to go to kindergarten?
Parents often face the problem that their children refuse to go to kindergarten. Lighter people want you to try your best to coax, and then go out reluctantly; In severe cases, children may make a scene, and even if you beg, you won't give in. What should you do in such a situation?
It is normal for children to refuse to go to school at the beginning of school, mainly because they have not adapted to leaving their mother's arms and living in a strange place. So when school starts, many kindergartens only have 1 and 2 hours of classes a day, and even have parents to accompany them. Generally speaking, within a week, children can adapt to kindergarten life; Some more "extroverted" children may enjoy the collective life in kindergarten in just one day.
As for a period of school, children suddenly don't want to go for the following reasons:
* Children can't keep up with their studies.
The current kindergarten curriculum content is also quite difficult, and some "slow-hot" children may not be able to catch up; In particular, some people are in poor health and sometimes feel uncomfortable. Parents will ask their children not to attend classes, miss more classes, and can't catch up with the progress, so they are more resistant to returning to the park. Therefore, parents should always pay attention to their children's learning situation to avoid him falling behind others and generating negative emotions.
* Have problems getting along with peers.
Some children, due to introversion or other reasons, don't get along well with other companions in the park, and even are "squeezed out", so they will feel unhappy. If you can't get psychological counseling, you will have the idea of hating going back to the park.
Therefore, if you see a child suddenly resist going back to the park, you should contact the teacher to find out the reason, or talk with the child to understand his inner world, so as to help the child in time.
* Unwilling to go back to the park after the long vacation.
This is the most common situation. Sometimes, after a long holiday in kindergarten (ranging from 3 to 4 days to 1 to 2 weeks), many children are reluctant to go back to kindergarten, because during the holiday, parents may arrange a lot of activities or take their children on a trip to other places, and the children are bored, naturally do not want to go to school and are bound by a regular life.
In addition, during the holidays, parents may allow their children to stay up late and get up late, and naturally they don't want to get up early the next morning. After the holiday, it will certainly be difficult for them to get up early and go to school.
Therefore, every time you take a long vacation, parents should pay attention not to arrange too intensive activities to avoid children playing too crazy. And one or two days before the end of the holiday, it is best not to go out to play, and try to stay at home and rest. At the same time, let the child go to bed early, and let him return to the garden to return to a regular life. In this way, children will not resist returning to the park after a long vacation.
Various reasons for not going to kindergarten.
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2006-2- 16 13: 1 1:00
Although kindergarten is a warm and happy group, children sometimes don't want to go to kindergarten. Do you need a reason not to go to kindergarten? Of course I know. How else can I ask the kindergarten teacher for leave? Come on, let's listen, the reason why children don't go to young children is not sufficient.
What do you think about whether the baby can go to kindergarten? Tell me your opinion!
The most boring reason: my deskmate doesn't chat with me. (Wang Yingnan)
The saddest reason: my pet meow died. (Tan Yong)
The most pitiful reason: there are always no toys that kindergarten wants to play with. (Chang Yanteng)
The most absurd reason: aliens will invade the earth, I want to cheer for Altman! (Cha Wenying)
The most embarrassing reason: my mother insisted that I dress myself and wash my face. (Fan Tao)
The most childish reason: I want to know what it would be like without me when the teacher called the roll. (hairy spear)
The most boastful reason: I'm going to participate in the Olympic Games! (Chen Su)
The most aggrieved reason: I have the flu and I want to go to kindergarten. The teacher asked my father not to take me. (xinmeile joint-stock company)
The most spoony reason: I didn't watch Teletubbies at night, and there was a replay the next morning. I must watch it. I can't miss an episode! (gross)
The most filial reason: I want to celebrate my grandfather's birthday, otherwise he will be unhappy. (Zhao Wei)
The noblest reason: when I was in kindergarten, I met an old woman crossing the road, so I learned from Uncle Lei Feng to help her cross the road, cross one road, and then cross another road ... as a result, it was dark. (Xuanwei)
The most realistic reason: I don't like taking a nap, pretending to sleep is boring, and I will be scolded by my aunt when I move around. (Aring Zhang)
The most embarrassing reason: I ate too much last night and my stomach hurt. Today, I just want to go to the toilet, not to the kindergarten. (Cao Tie)
The most decent reason: go to primary school first to see what is going on, and then go to primary school and you won't panic. (Guo Zhongqing)
The most escapist reason: it's my turn to tell stories to children today. I'm afraid I can't tell them well. (Chi Minghui)
The most ridiculous reason for forgetting one's ancestors: sometimes, kindergarten is boring, and it is more fun to go to the zoo to see monkeys. (Shengfeng)
The most pleasing reason: when I came to kindergarten, the teacher had to take care of me very hard. If I don't go to kindergarten, the teacher can have a rest. (Takamatsu)
The fairest reason: Wang Tianshun has taken several vacations, but I have never taken one. (considerate)
The reason why children don't go to kindergarten
Reason: Mom, I don't like teachers. I don't go to kindergarten. I asked her why she didn't like them and thought the teacher was abusive. As a result, my daughter smiled with her little hand over her mouth and said, I don't like her smile like this.
Reason: Youyou couldn't go to kindergarten crying one morning when she was more than two years old. When asked why, he cried and replied:
Mom, the kindergarten is not good. What's the matter? I was anxious to ask, knowing that I chose the best kindergarten for him in the community, I considered many factors and made a comparison before deciding.
"The kindergarten teacher is not good", and the tears hanging on my face once again flow to my mouth. "Why is the kindergarten teacher not good?" When I asked softly, I was also worried. My mind immediately assumed several scenes of children being "abused" in kindergarten, and my heart suddenly mentioned my throat, ready to find a teacher to reason.
The kindergarten teacher's hair is bad and curly.
What if I don't go to kindergarten?
Expert opinion:
Light light blue was brought up by her grandmother, and now she is 3 years old. In order to cultivate children's independent living ability and social adaptability, parents decided to send light light blue to kindergarten, but light light blue refused to go.
Dongdong is a child in the middle class of kindergarten. For some reason, he suddenly didn't want to go to kindergarten in recent days. Light light blue and Dongdong's mother are very anxious. They don't know what to do.
There are many reasons why children refuse to attend kindergarten. For children who are new to kindergarten, the first reason is that they are unfamiliar with the environment, especially the change of people they come into contact with, which will make them feel strange and unaccustomed, thus generating fear. Secondly, because the lifestyle is not suitable, it is difficult for children to adapt from individual activities to regular group activities.
For children who have been in kindergarten for a while, the reasons are more complicated. It may be because he encountered difficulties or was criticized for doing things in kindergarten, or because his requirements were not met or he felt uncomfortable, or because he was ill or for other reasons, he didn't go to kindergarten for a while, which made him feel strange about kindergarten. Reading: a "compulsory course" for babies before entering the park
In the above two cases, parents should analyze the reasons and take appropriate measures to mobilize their children to go to kindergarten.
For children who have just started kindergarten, they should mainly make preparations before entering the park:
First, tell children more interesting things about kindergartens and arouse their yearning for kindergartens.
Second, take the children to visit the kindergarten, get familiar with the teachers, the environment, feel the happiness of kindergarten life, and cultivate the children's initial adaptability.
Third, understand the specific requirements of kindergartens for educating children, cultivate children's initial self-care ability and good habits, arrange schedules corresponding to kindergartens for children, shorten the distance between families and kindergartens in life and hygiene habits, and let children have some indirect experiences in kindergartens.
Fourth, explain the truth, give encouragement to children, let children have good psychological preparation, and initially understand the significance of going to kindergarten, so as to voluntarily go to kindergarten.
For children who have been in kindergarten for a while, we should explore the reasons and prescribe the right medicine:
1. If a child encounters difficulties or is criticized in kindergarten, parents should help the child overcome the difficulties or find out the reasons for doing something wrong, educate the child to bravely overcome the difficulties, admit and correct the mistakes, and be a strong child.
Second, if children make demands on their parents, they should try their best to meet reasonable demands; If it is unreasonable or reasonable but can't be satisfied at the moment, explain the reason to the child. If you find that your child is unwell, you can temporarily not go to kindergarten and observe at home; You can also send your children to kindergarten, but you should explain the situation to the teacher so that the teacher can take care of them when necessary.
Third, for children who have not attended kindergarten for a period of time due to illness or other reasons, parents should do patient and meticulous ideological work in advance to prepare their children for returning to kindergarten. At the same time, sending children to kindergarten should be persistent, and don't interrupt without special circumstances.
Parents' point of view:
Appearance: Wang Yin, civil servant, son Guang Guang, 5 years old.
For children who don't want to go to kindergarten, parents should first respect their wishes and let them rest at home for a few days. Parents had better find out the reason why the child doesn't want to go during the rest period. Generally speaking, the reasons why they don't want to go are often nothing more than the following: physical fatigue, criticism from teachers, sadness because of arguments with other children and so on. In addition, because the disharmony between husband and wife leads to serious anxiety in the child, the child will also have such symptoms.
In this case, the first thing to do is to eliminate the reason why the child doesn't want to go to kindergarten and let him rest at home for a few days before sending him there. So there won't be any problem. If parents are afraid that they will form the bad habit that their children don't want to go to kindergarten at any time, then there will be some problems more or less.
Once, my son suddenly didn't want to go to kindergarten, so he got angry and lost his temper. I have to temporarily stop seeing him off and let him rest at home for a few days. But these days, no matter how hard I try, I can't find out why he doesn't want to go to kindergarten. Later, after my detailed "investigation", I realized that the original reason was this: a few days before the child was in trouble with going to kindergarten, his cousin got a toy gift because he won the lottery. Therefore, the child is jealous of his brother and wants to play with his brother's gift toys when he is not in school, so he cries and refuses to go to kindergarten.
Knowing the reason why my son didn't go to kindergarten, I took the initiative to communicate with my son once to help him untie the knot and tell him that as long as he behaves well, he can also get a reward! My son accepted it gladly, so he no longer avoided going to kindergarten.
For those children who are difficult to adapt to kindergarten and nursery life from the beginning, they are either not mature enough to be separated from their mothers, or have other problems and are difficult to adapt to the new environment. In this case, you should consider whether to wait until the child is mature enough before sending it to kindergarten.
Children don't go to kindergarten, the worst "parents' words"
Phenomenon 1: On the first day of school, children wake up in the morning and cry.
Wrong way: "If you don't go to kindergarten and your mother can't go to work, who will earn money to buy you delicious food?" I have to go. "
The young parents sighed together and discussed: "Do you want to send grandma to live there for a few days?"
"Children who don't go to kindergarten should be arrested by the police."
Expert Interpretation: He Yifeng, a parenting expert at the Johnson & Johnson Good Mom Club.
The above-mentioned parents' practice is obviously wrong. There is a term in psychology called suggestion. Children are most susceptible to psychological suggestion. Parents' persuasion is obviously sending a message to their children that kindergartens are not good, but they must go with a purpose. This can only make children feel wronged psychologically and have no happiness at all.
The correct way: "Why doesn't the baby want to go to kindergarten? How nice the kindergarten is! Mom and dad were willing to go to kindergarten when they were young. Look at my neighbor's little sister, how happy she is to go to kindergarten every day! "
"The baby has no friends at home, how boring it is to be alone! You can make many children in kindergarten, and how happy it is for everyone to play games together. "
Expert Interpretation: Parents should try their best to describe the benefits of kindergartens and make their babies full of yearning for kindergartens. In this way, all the information is telling children that kindergarten is a beautiful place and a happy paradise for babies.
Phenomenon 2: On the first day, the baby came home from kindergarten with red eyes.
Wrong way: "tell mom quickly, are there any children bullying you?" Didn't you have enough to eat in kindergarten? Is the teacher good to you? "
Expert interpretation: after the baby goes to kindergarten, the baby's behavior habits at home should be the same as those in kindergarten. Many children are unwilling to go to kindergarten, eat independently, wear shoes and go to bed on time because they are afraid of difficulties. If parents also want their babies to develop orderly living habits at home, children will become more and more accustomed to kindergartens.
The correct way: "Come on, baby. What did you learn in kindergarten today? Teach your mother. "
"Mom also wants to live in kindergarten. Let's simulate kindergarten life at home. "
Expert interpretation: children have the desire to perform, and singing what they have just learned to their mothers is very fulfilling. The next day, in order to give my mother a new show, I also went to kindergarten. Parents should be patient and not afraid to waste their breath. When the baby enters the park, parents prepare in advance.
He Yifeng, a child-rearing expert, said that many parents reported that their children often caught a cold since they went to kindergarten. The reason is that children don't adapt to kindergarten. Children's anxiety will lead to decreased immunity, so it is easy to get sick and catch a cold. Parents should take great pains to prepare their children for entering the park in advance.
The best plan: Parents may wish to invite several children who enter the park at the same time to get to know each other and make friends, and then ask the teacher to be assigned to a class. In this way, children can get familiar with each other and quickly adapt to the new environment of kindergarten.