The "not teaching" mentioned here does not mean teaching, but refers to education without preaching. Emphasize the importance of "setting an example". Of course, it does not include teaching.
Example is the best education. What kind of person do you want your child to be, then you should be that person first. For example, if you want your child to become a scholar, you must first become a scholar. Use behavior to influence children.
Let me tell you a personal experience of cultivating children's interest. When my son was three years old, he entered the best kindergarten in this city-the provincial foreign trade agency kindergarten. Toto, pick up the kids twice a week. Take it home on Wednesday and Saturday and send it back to kindergarten on Monday.
Every time I pick up a child, I always talk to the teacher more, in order to understand the situation of the child in kindergarten. One day, I went to pick up my children. My son's teacher said to me: A professional teacher came to the garden to select young people to play the piano, and your son was selected.
He said that his fingers are very long and soft, which is very suitable for playing the piano. Let him try. He likes playing, so he signed up for the piano study group. There is a fixed time to learn the piano every day. I was very happy to hear that, so I thanked him quickly. After returning to China, I went directly to buy a piano without thinking.
In this way, he played in kindergarten for two years. At the kindergarten graduation farewell party, the teacher also asked him to play an etude for Alice as a "pillar" in the rear. Said he was the best marksman among several children who played the piano.
After primary school, I still insisted on accompanying him to the teacher's house for piano lessons. I remember about a year later, one day, he finished his homework and was playing Transformers. I asked him to practice the piano, and he muttered reluctantly, "I really want to break it!" " ".This surprised me. It turns out that he doesn't love the piano that much!
After I calmed down, I reflected and asked myself, "Why should I spend so much time and energy with him to learn and practice the piano?" I just hope he can make up for my own shortcomings in this respect. Because I don't know music!
If he is allowed to continue studying, his homework, study and reading time; Moreover, my preparation time for work will be squeezed, and the mother-child relationship is in a negative state often for practicing the piano. Not only is he unhappy, but he also gets me into great trouble. . .
On second thought, I decided not to learn piano any more! First, I don't understand. No one in my family has the literacy in this field. Unless I do nothing, I must keep learning. . . Otherwise, you won't realize the boredom and trouble of practicing piano, and you won't be able to guide your children and help them overcome difficulties. . .
As Mr. Tao Xingzhi, a famous educator in China, said: If students want to learn, they must learn. Only a gentleman who never tires of learning can teach students who never tire of learning.
Children learn piano with their parents. If sparring partners don't understand or can't, you can imagine how stupid and ridiculous it is! In addition to copying the teacher's sermon, it is to argue with rebellious children. Today, many parents are still trapped in the blind spot of cultivating their children's interest.
After giving up learning the piano, we both relaxed a lot. Since then, I have never given him an interest class. His father and I are both fine arts majors, including my father who graduated from the old "Lu Yi" pattern department and my brother who graduated from the Central Academy of Arts and Crafts.
I believe there must be something in his family, the genetic inheritance of art. So he neve intentionally cultivated his inter in art.. Even, from the heart, it is quite contradictory for him to re-enter our field.
His cultural studies have never bothered me. I entered the key high school in this city in the senior high school entrance examination, and it was great to study in the culture class all the way down. However, one semester before the college entrance examination, his class teacher talked to me and hoped that his son would apply for art majors.
I am well aware that this is to ensure the enrollment rate of the school. Ask his son's opinion, and he agreed. In this way, on the eve of the "art test", I only sketched with him for a few nights. After that, he was sent to the "Central America" preparatory class for three months, and then came back to take the college entrance examination.
From then on, I studied environmental art design in Hangzhou "Gome". After graduating from undergraduate course, he was admitted to the postgraduate of "Landscape Architecture Design" in Beilin University. After graduating from master's degree, he stayed in Beijing to engage in architectural landscape design. Realized his career ideal.
Recalling the process of his son's growth and education, I realized that "flowers are planted intentionally, but willows are planted unintentionally." Then there is what you don't know and don't learn. Don't force children to study.
In fact, what we do and learn every day is the best education for our children, and we don't need to preach.