Recently, her family introduced a boy to her in detail, and the photos looked at each other. The boy loves her very much. At first, the boy chatted with her every day for half a month, and they made video calls.
Because she is sensitive and distrustful in temperament and very defensive, she has many layers of defense against the other party, mainly in video calls, which makes boys feel that she is "cold". After the video call, the boy basically never contacted her again.
Now all the friends she sees around her have boyfriends, and she graduated from a 985 key university, and she has gained a lot in her work. She is excellent in everything else, except falling in love, which is totally bad.
Jun Jun listened to everyone's audio lessons in the Himalayas, searched for reading articles, and found many examples of successful students in love. He was moved and decided to apply for one-on-one consultation.
After listening to Jun Jun's story, the assistant strongly recommended an auspicious teacher who is good at empathy, analyzing men's psychology, concentrating on improving girls' personal value and finishing bidding farewell to singles.
Mr. Jixiang Ruyi is not only the chief counselor who learns how to fall in love, but also the second-level psychological counselor in China, with five years of experience in love and marriage counseling.
As a master of psychology, Mr. Jixiang Ruyi also has many years of consulting experience in the mental state specialist clinic. He can comprehensively and deeply analyze problems, effectively and accurately locate problems, grasp key points, and skillfully operate various non-standardized examinations.
In particular, they are called "champion coaches" because they are good at cultivating women's emotional intelligence, psychological adjustment and mentality management capabilities, helping customers improve their use value and bid farewell to singles, and are committed to warming up and improving their long-term love and marriage relationship.
After the first video and voice communication with Jun Jun, Mr. Jixiang found: What is the probability of successful emotional counseling? Jun Jun is particularly lacking in self-confidence, and he is confused about the solution to contact. It seems that he has a distance from everyone, and all of them are harmed by "affection".
In fact, it is the maintenance of myself and the uncertainty of the relationship in my heart. It will be contradictory to expect others to give it to her without doubt, but not to inconvenience others. If you want to create a relationship, you will be afraid to create it.
The teacher also found that many boys she met before took the initiative to chat with Jun Jun, and she felt that way:
"Others take the initiative to talk to me, still so active. Will there be any malice? Will it be unreliable? "
It's all because she doesn't trust this connection.
The whole process of learning, training and growth:
In order to better help Jun Jun out of the predicament, let Jun Jun rebuild her confidence and trust, and successfully find her Mr. Right, and make a series of change plans for her. Let's discuss how Jun Jun moves towards happiness ~
1./strong & gt；
Good luck teacher told Jun Jun after the first video sound:
"A sense of belonging is a lack of human beings. Lack of belonging is normal. But the braver you face the problem, the richer your sense of belonging will be and the more worried you will be. Because the lack of belonging originally comes from the unknown, you need to face it bravely on Jun Jun. "
In fact, many girls can't say goodbye to being single because they lack the foundation to create relationships and are always worried that they will get hurt. However, the future problems are difficult to solve. If you protect yourself too much, you will push away contact.
Get rid of your own defense first, and make your heart really strong. The more open and elegant, the easier it is to attract others. With this foundation, plus some dating skills and externalities, it is no problem to bid farewell to the single foundation.
The teacher asked Jun Jun to choose a boy who felt good and comfortable from the boys she knew, and told her that there was nothing difficult to solve. Her anxiety about the outside world was all her own projection.
Then teach her how to solve some practical problems and assume her obligations. She gradually lost her fear and tried to get close to each other. The other party thinks that she has just started to open up and become more and more active.
Step 2 create a sense of belonging
Jun Jun's execution is very strong. He began to communicate with boys who had a good impression before. With the deepening of the level of communication between the two people, they had a good impression on * * * at first.
But one day, the boy said:
"We have to work in different places for a period of time. If we get along, it will become a foreign love. Can you accept it? "
Jun Jun fell into a panic. She didn't know what to do, so she asked Jixiang for help.
Good luck teacher told Jun Jun:
"This is to tell boys that the field is not a big problem, but it is not easy for any girl to think of hopeless foreign love. You need development trend work because I understand it, but because I always welcome our overall planning, I can feel more belonging with you. "
Later, that boy was originally a room with actual plans to go home. Later, he said that there was no doubt that he would be able to go home in a year, expecting Jun Jun to give him a chance to become a regular player.
3. Essential training
Jun Jun was very happy when the boy made it clear that he would get along with him, but she had scruples. She felt that foreign love was unreliable and worried that her parents would resist getting along with him.
At this time, the teacher said to Jun Jun first:
"What do mom and dad think? You should establish your own mentality first, and then communicate with boys, instead of taking mom and dad's ideas too seriously unilaterally. You must tell the boys about your anxiety. "
Jun Jun felt that the teacher was right, and he had a good impression at once. He can use the skills taught by the teacher to give the boys some training.
Jun Jun told the boy not to smoke for three months, and he agreed to be his girlfriend. The boy agreed. Although neither of them is at home, the boy reports to Jun Jun how he keeps his promise every day. Sometimes what he said would make Jun Jun laugh.
Even in other places, boys contact Jun Jun every day and say good night in the morning. The boy's attention made Jun Jun realize that he was not as worried as he thought, and felt that he had been paying close attention to himself.
After three months of perseverance, the boy sincerely told Jun Jun:
"I have nothing myself. In order to make you and your parents feel more at ease, I'm going to put a suite I have under your door in advance. I hope you can agree to be my girlfriend. "
Jun Jun refused the housing problem, but she was completely moved by the boy's sincerity and perseverance.