Cognitive process is a very complicated process, and some cognitive self-cognition will be very difficult. Sometimes cognition is realized through emotional memory and emotional changes. For example, if you see someone spitting everywhere, you will feel disgusted. This feeling of disgust comes out first. Through this feeling, you will realize that you have a kind of "uncivilized" cognition about spitting, which makes you feel disgusted. Through this process, you can know why sometimes the more you worry, the more likely it is to happen.
Because your knowledge and past life experience will be accompanied by some emotional memories, unconsciously merged together. Unconscious integration will integrate all your knowledge and life experiences on conscious and unconscious levels, and become the comprehensive understanding that first appears in your feelings. Therefore, your worry must not be without reason. That is, there are some things in your conscious and unconscious levels that you are not aware of carefully, and some are just vague life experiences that are not clear, and these will be remembered and sorted out by your subconscious mind. This is what we call subconscious foresight. And this kind of foresight is expressed through feeling. If what is about to happen is not good for you, this feeling is usually worry.
So your worries are never without reason. It must be something your subconscious reminds you. Of course, there are many influencing factors and many external forces to determine whether it will happen or not. So what you are worried about may not really happen, but the probability is higher.
This belongs to Murphy's law. Murphy's law is not a psychological effect, but a mathematical reasoning, which was put forward by Edward A. Murphy, also known as Murphy's law and Murphy's theorem.
If there are two or more ways to do something, one of which will lead to disaster, then someone will make this choice. The basic content is: if things are likely to go bad, no matter how unlikely it is, it will always happen.
Murphy's law, Parkinson's law and Peter's principle are called the three great discoveries of western culture in the 20th century.
Murphy's law has four main contents:
First, nothing is as simple as it seems;
Second, everything will take longer than you expected;
Third, things that can go wrong will always go wrong;
If you are worried about something happening, it is more likely to happen.
The fundamental content of Murphy's Law is that "everything that can go wrong has a high probability of going wrong", that is to say, as long as any event has a probability greater than zero, it cannot be assumed that it will not happen.
Why do some things, the more worried, the easier it is to happen?
From a psychological point of view, there are three principles that can be explained.
1, according to Murphy's law, there are always unlucky people who step into the trap.
According to the Valenda effect, if you care too much, it will make you depressed.
From the point of view of retina effect, you can always find it as long as you look for it.
Murphy's law was put forward by American engineer Edward A. Murphy, also known as Murphy's law. According to the easy-to-understand explanation, everything can go wrong, and it will definitely go wrong.
For example, if you give your son 20 yuan to buy wine, you repeatedly tell him not to lose money when he goes out, and you are worried that he will lose it. As a result, he returned empty-handed and lost money. The more you worry, this will happen.
In fact, this is a question of probability. It may not happen to you, but it will happen to someone. Just like every exam question, no matter how simple the question is, in the teacher's opinion, someone will make mistakes. Of course, people who do something wrong are sometimes uncertain.
There is a famous Valenda effect in psychology. This Valenda is a skilled tightrope walker in America. He unfortunately slipped and died in a major performance. His wife said afterwards that she had a premonition that something was going to happen to her husband's performance, because he always said that the performance could only succeed, not fail. In the past, when the performance went well, he only cared about walking the tightrope itself, and nothing else was very concerned.
In practice, if you treat a thing with too much pressure and pay too much attention, it is easy to make things worse, which is exactly what you don't want to see. In other words, what you see is exactly what you don't want to see. Look at you so unlucky.
There is a retinal effect in psychology, which says that accidental factors will make you feel a common phenomenon with your own attention. For example, if you buy a red skirt, you are particularly proud. Unexpectedly, in the street, alas, I didn't pay attention to it in the past. Now you find many people in red skirts in the street. Why? Just because you bring a pair of eyes to the street, other colors won't attract your attention. Once there is red, it will immediately stimulate your visual cells.
That's right. You worry about a result in advance, that is, you will put more psychological hints in this respect, which will subconsciously lead you in that direction, and as a result, you will really be caught.
First, realizing that a serious event is inevitable, inevitable and unable to confirm the specific time of occurrence will stimulate anxiety at this moment. Because anxiety occurs before events, it is easy for people to mistake anxiety and events for causality.
Second, in the natural state, people are unconscious of skilled behaviors and movements (through "spinal cord reflex"). For example, a skilled driver only needs to pay a little attention to the direction of progress, and the movements of all limbs are completed by spinal cord reflex. In this way, I will listen to songs, hum songs, plan what to eat for lunch ... before I know it, I will be home. Why did I turn the corner and brake several times? And so on are ignorant.
"Novices" drive, their attention is focused on the details, and their minds are thinking about how to operate, which will consume blood oxygen and energy and will be very anxious.
This rule is called "the periphery of attention",
Third, in the natural state, all skilled movements of people do not need to pay attention to the movement process and feeling of limbs. But when people are nervous, they will shift their attention from the direction or goal to the limbs, or occasionally pay attention to the limbs. In this way, they will become stiff and inflexible and lose their flexibility because they are aware of the feelings of their limbs. The result is fear of ghosts and falling.
The familiar idiom "Handan toddler" is a typical example:
When walking, people only need to pay a little attention to the direction they want to go, and they will naturally reach their destination, and they will leave most of their energy to enjoy the scenery on the roadside. Yan, walking in the busy street of Handan, happened to see other people's walking posture and thought of himself. When he paid attention to his walking posture, his attention was drawn to his thigh, which became more and more stiff, and he began to walk clumsily with his legs wrinkled. The more he pays attention to them, the more sensitive he becomes. At first, just paying attention to the uncomfortable state caused by attention will make you feel sensitive, and then sensitivity will further attract attention and continue to pay attention. In this way, under the interaction of feeling and attention, the initial discomfort will gradually strengthen, and the efforts to get rid of it will inevitably aggravate the vicious circle. Zhao Hehou's sketch "A Day of the Hero's Mother" and Zhao Benshan's sketch "The Kidnapper" are vivid examples.
In the face of anxiety, the best way is not to get rid of this feeling and do what you should do with anxiety. Once you enter the real life, this feeling will no longer affect you. And the result of getting rid of it must be to strengthen the troubles. Inner peace must come from effective actions that can be paid for peace. If you try your best to calm yourself down, you will interfere with what you should do and fail to achieve your goal. If you have anxiety, take action. Once you achieve your goal, you will naturally feel calm and peaceful. This is the so-called "inaction"
What you describe is the famous Murphy's law. If you are worried about something happening, it is more likely to happen.
Murphy's law is a psychological effect, which was put forward by Edward A. Murphy. It includes:
1. Nothing is as simple as it seems;
2. Everything will take longer than you expected;
3. Things that can go wrong will always go wrong;
If you are worried about something happening, it is more likely to happen.
The fundamental content of Murphy's law is that if things are likely to go bad, no matter how unlikely it is, it will always happen.
Murphy's theorem that we will encounter in our daily life, such as the following situations.
1. You are always the slowest in the queue.
When there are no seats on the tram, the seats in front of your station are always empty.
It happened that it didn't rain that day.
4. I can't find the question or answer I want to ask in the "Frequently Asked Questions" record of the website.
Above 5.90%, the interface will be upside down.
6. I found a calculation error. Just in case, I calculated it again and came up with a different answer.
7. Be sure to call when you leave your seat.
8. I ran to the tram in a panic and found that the direction was wrong.
9. The more anxious you are when you take the bus, the more traffic jams there will be.
10. When you make a choice, you are entangled in two options, and the result is always the one you didn't choose is correct.
From a psychological point of view, the more you worry about something, the more it will happen:
Cognition is the beginning for people to know things. When people begin to know something, they get a lot of information about it through their senses, so they form a certain pattern in their brains and produce thinking. With the change of objective situation, the pattern in the brain is inconsistent with the objective presentation, which requires us to re-understand. Over time, the objective law of this thing is formed in our minds. It makes us believe that following this law will be smooth, otherwise something will happen. The following is divided into two levels:
1) If you are a bystander, you must have your own ideas about what you see. When you see that the other person's situation is unreliable, it means that the situation at that time does not conform to the objective laws you think, and you will be worried. And that kind of unreliable alarmist thing just doesn't conform to the objective law, so it will happen.
For example, the safe driving of troops requires the driver to look around the vehicle before starting to avoid the problem of observing the dead angle. Veterans are usually quick-tempered, and everyone is worried about his driving accident. It was very hot at the airport that day, and the maintenance staff put two barrels of lunch for the whole squadron in the shade behind his car. The driver didn't look before getting on the bus. After starting, he backed up again. As a result, more than 30 people's meals were knocked over to the ground, causing the squadron's meals to be two hours late. Dealing with him, even the director regrets, always worried that something will happen to him, or something will happen.
2) If you are a party, you don't have a complete understanding of what you are doing, only knowing one but not the other. You always feel unsure and worry about screwing things up. In fact, because of one-sided cognition of what has been done, there is no complete and confident thinking about it, and there must be blind factors in the action, so the accident will happen.
For example, I learned to turn in middle school. Safety requires operators to wear tight clothes, and female workers are not allowed to leave braids on their heads. My master doesn't care much. He often tells me to pay attention to himself. One day, a girl in another class in the same lathe as me, because she didn't turn her head, her braid was mixed in by the lead screw (the long column for screwing the lead screw), resulting in half of the girl's scalp being pulled down by her hair. It's terrible and tragic. The biggest lesson is that my master doesn't understand the practical significance of braiding for female workers.
In a word, the more worried things will happen, there are two levels: if you are a bystander, you have found it unreliable, and it is a fluke not to have an accident, and something will always happen. And if you are a party, what you are worried about is that you don't have a comprehensive understanding of things, and you don't have enough understanding and grasp, so there is a greater possibility of accidents.
For example, you are a novice in delivering bicycles, but you are worried about hitting a tree. This is because you are so nervous that you focus on that tree. Your subconscious will drive you to that tree, and of course you will hit it. If you don't think about trees, but how to master the essentials of action, you generally won't hit trees. There is a psychological term called "pygmalion effect", also called "Rosenthal effect", which means "all one's wishes come true". If you think too much about negative things and worry too much, negative energy will drive you to "get what you want", that is, the more you worry, the more it will happen. The more confident you are and full of positive energy, the easier it is for you to "make your dreams come true", because the more your subconscious mind drives you to work hard to achieve your goals, the easier it is for you to make progress.
Freud said: "Humans generally tend to be credulous and always maintain a belief attitude towards miraculous things."
There are many unknown phenomena in life. During thousands of years of historical development, human beings have formed special pursuits and preferences for special events and mysterious phenomena, and are willing to use some magical power to explain these phenomena instead of using their brains to find a scientific explanation.
So Freud's prediction was verified: "Although life puts us under the control of its strict rules, people have a kind of resistance from the beginning, opposing the rigor and monotony of thinking rules and the requirements of realistic experiments. Turning reason into an enemy deprives us of so many possibilities of enjoyment. We try to find out from this psychology that we may have a lot of fun, even if we temporarily get rid of the shackles of rationality and immerse ourselves in the temptation of boredom. "
It is based on the mysterious experience that everyone yearns for. People gain indescribable psychological pleasure, at the same time, their sense of self-superiority doubles, because others can't feel these phenomena.
In fact, the reason why you are obsessed with some predictions is precisely because you are immersed in this mysterious psychology and never want to use rational analysis to prove that all coincidences are just self-righteous coincidences. At the same time, because some bad coincidences have a very direct impact on their own interests, there will be a phenomenon that the most worrying things are often the most "easy" to happen.
Whether this coincidence has scientific basis or not, it is important to remember that things you are not worried about are always happening. By contrast, your worry is only nine Niu Yi hairs.
If I remember correctly, it should be called Murphy's Law.
Murphy's law is not a psychological effect, but a mathematical reasoning, which was put forward by Edward A. Murphy, also known as Murphy's law and Murphy's theorem.
If there are two or more ways to do something, one of which will lead to disaster, then someone will make this choice. The basic content is: if things are likely to go bad, no matter how unlikely it is, it will always happen.
Murphy's law, Parkinson's law and Peter's principle are called the three great discoveries of western culture in the 20th century. [ 1]
Psychologically speaking, the more you worry about something, the more it will happen. The main reason is the deviation of your thinking, deliberately downplaying the causal relationship between things, making you have an expectation mentality, turning worry into an escape psychology, which is the release of anxiety in the process of experiencing before things happen, and this kind of worrying thing is inevitable (probability) and an illusion in your thinking.
In reality, no matter what we worry about, there is a causal relationship, that is, why should we worry? It is precisely because we have such preconditions as foresight or premonition that it has a certain connection with us. Of course, if this correlation is closer, then we will pay more attention to it, which is the existence of causality.
For example, when this coronavirus pneumonia epidemic occurred, each of us was worried about whether we would catch it, but the results would be different with different degrees of worry. Although there is inevitability (possibility), there is also contingency (impossibility). If you are only worried about this situation, if you are particularly worried, it is another situation. This doesn't mean that the more you worry about it, the more it will happen.
Your degree of worry is closely related to causality. The "cause" is the source of infection (the confirmed patient). If you are not exposed to the source of infection and are very far away from it, then you are much less worried. This is because the inevitability (probability) of its "fruit" being infected is very small. Naturally, your concern is understandable, but it is unnecessary.
Those noble and great medical staff who are fighting against the epidemic are equally worried that the causal relationship (infection) they are worried about is very, very close, and the inevitability (probability) of being infected is much greater, and this high degree of worry may not happen, which is the factor of inevitability probability. Pay tribute to all the noble and great medical staff who fought against the epidemic! )
Therefore, it is not that the more worried things will happen. It mainly depends on the extent to which the "cause and effect" of what you are worried about is related. If the causal relationship is very close, the higher the inevitability and probability of its occurrence, and of course, the higher your attention and the greater the probability of things happening.
In fact, your worry is a release of anxiety. Things happen not because you are worried, but because of some factors caused by yourself or external factors. You actually know the degree of its development, and the result is bound to happen. So give you an illusion, the more you worry, the more it will happen.