What is empathy?
Empathy is a way for people to look at themselves from another angle, while observing and analyzing problems from the perspective and thinking of others is actually a critical thinking method to observe and improve themselves. Reach the state of being clear to outsiders.
Look at a person and a thing more objectively and comprehensively. Specifically, there are bright spots.
1, cultivate yourself to be fair, tolerant and responsible, and be less utilitarian, individualistic and arbitrary;
2. Cultivate your ability to judge things. Can correctly distinguish between public and private, right and wrong, right and wrong, subjective or objective reasons and other basic right and wrong standards;
Why should we improve our empathy with others?
First, let the other person feel your concern; Be kind to others.
Second, you can better understand the needs of people around you, and at the same time you can better understand other people's views on your words and deeds;
Third, in daily work, empathy can help you better understand the needs of your work customers and reduce interpersonal conflicts;
Fourth, of course, you can also predict the behavior and reaction of your communication partner more accurately and make your own response; When the other person is depressed, you will learn how to motivate people around you; When you want to convince others, you will make others accept your point of view more effectively;
Fifth, you can experience the world better, because you can not only observe from your own standpoint, but also look at the problem from the perspective of others.
Through empathy, you will become a better leader, a better follower and, most importantly, a better friend.
Cultivation of Empathy Ability
Empathy can also be mastered through proper training: listening, paying attention and understanding your enemy (your opposite)
First, listen.
Pay attention when people talk to you. Conversations, especially those about hot topics, often lead to situations where you say one thing and I say another, and everyone will have their own opinions. Don't form your own opinion before the other person has finished speaking, and you can't wait to express your opinion.
Next time you encounter this situation, you should calm down. Force yourself to listen to what you hear. Considering the motivation behind the speaker's words and his life and work experience leads to the formation of such a world view.
Use "ah, oh, really?" Respond, wait at least one second before giving a formal answer. Asking some questions can better understand the speaker's intentions or his feelings.
Second, care (respect)
Put down your cell phone. Don't browse Twitter or online articles while waiting for the train or traffic jam. Look at the people around you and imagine what they are doing, what they are thinking and where they are going now. Are they depressed? Are you happy? Singing? Look at their phones? Do they live here or outside the city? How are they doing today? Try to pay attention and think.
Third, know your enemy.
Maybe it's an exaggeration to say that the enemy is here, but think about the people who are nervous with you. Maybe a colleague, maybe a family member. Whoever he is, you used to think they were wrong and you were right. Even you will oppose them for no reason, because you are the other side of the war.
Now considering the whole thing from the other side's point of view, this person may not be a bad person or a fool.
Fourth, talk to other people.
It is difficult for people to stand on the same side as their "enemies", which requires the views of a third party. When you consider your own pressure and feelings, a third party will be very helpful.
So, looking for such a third party. Try to accept the opposite view.
Game link: the specific operation method of empathy;
Teacher Jia Jie practiced empathy with the Big Dipper Array introduced in the vocational guidance book "Live Clearly".
Subjective perspective. From your own point of view, you can understand your deepest thoughts and feelings.
An objective perspective. From the perspective of the third person, how do others view this problem objectively?
Relevant perspective. The perspective of the people involved in the event can be considered more comprehensively because it is related to the event.
Development perspective. If there is a camera to record the cause and effect of this incident, how to find the reason and how to find the direction to solve the problem.
Positive perspective. If you are an example or mentor you admire, how should you solve problems and promote development?
A result-oriented view. It will be more objective and peaceful to think about the present with the mentality of "the problem has been solved" and look at the development of this event after getting rid of emotional troubles.
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