If my brain is a dual-core processor, then my CPU in the morning is a polishing salon workshop to help lecturers and new lecturers polish their unique courses and master the skills of turning books into lessons.
In the afternoon, I went to another CPU and my piano boy to enjoy myself in the kingdom of music.
First of all, thank you very much for the wonderful opening of my two new academic committees on such a weekend night. At the same time, I would also like to thank our 69F Du Fu teacher and all my friends for listening to this different sharing on the Internet. Just now, my two academic committees are both academic committees for the first time, which means that through this academic Committee, they have made up their minds to join our disc player. They have been deeply attracted by the learning atmosphere of our big family.
Thanks to the friends who attended the class at the same time. I am very glad to meet you at the third online business school of DISC this weekend.
Tonight I will follow three principles,
Talk to you about five tips for parents of piano children to communicate effectively.
Music is a kind of magic, which makes children better themselves.
I have been a piano teacher for nearly 16 years, and I understand parents' expectations and wishes for their children's piano learning. In the process of learning, the most frequently asked by parents is that he only likes taking classes and doesn't like practicing the piano. What should I do? What if I can read the music slowly? What if I dare not go on stage? Wait ... or learn to give up. Or in the process of taking children to learn the piano, there are often challenges.
But the original intention of everyone to learn piano is to let children improve their self-cultivation, cultivate their temperament and master a skill.
But how did it become like this in the process of learning?
I have always advocated that children learn the piano not just to learn a musical instrument. At the same time, by learning this instrument, I have exercised a persistent mentality and cultivated a piano boy with a strong heart. So I read many parent-child books. Presumably, the friends present have the same experience as me, and they have taken more than N courses, including coaching courses, positive discipline, non-violent communication, encouraging social growth and development of counselors and children, sand table games, etc ... However, I have never found a course about effective communication between piano children. So this year, I developed my own compulsory course for piano children by learning the technology of turning books into lessons.
This compulsory course for piano children is the coaching parents of piano children. I combine what I have learned and seen with my own thinking into a line, which helps me to break the original cognitive boundary and establish a larger cognitive model and a broader thinking channel. We are now tutoring parents of piano children, and have set up salons and experience classes in Beijing. The effect is very good, so next, I will also introduce the micro-habit of practicing piano in online class. Through a small goal and habit, let all piano children and parents of piano children form a good habit of falling in love with keyboards and pianos.
So in the next 50 minutes, I will share with you some experiences in learning piano through three principles. I believe it will inspire everyone.
Next, I want you to think about a problem first.
What was the purpose of letting our children learn piano then? You can think through several points, whether you are a parent of a piano boy or a person who will soon become a parent, or whether you have been learning piano since primary school, or whether you have a desire to learn piano yourself. What do you think is the purpose of learning piano?
Ok, thank you very much for your interactive participation. Your goals are actually the goals of all parents and all those involved in piano learning and cognition. As for music, everyone just started to learn music, so it's good to get in touch with musical instruments. Then his life trajectory will change.
At the same time, we will also face various challenges, form the habit of practicing with children, and let children learn to treat one thing by learning music, not just music. Believe that you can, and learn how to communicate with others and establish a correct outlook on life.
Seeing that teacher Lu Juan said that piano can make people quiet and beautiful, it can be said that it is tall. Some friends also said that you can be noisy when you are normal, and then you can be a quiet woman when you are quiet.
Some friends are particularly cute, right? Then you can pick up girls, and then you feel that you have developed a skill. Since then, their life trajectory has not been lonely.
But learning the piano well is not an easy task. He needs a lot of patience and perseverance. I graduated from the Central Conservatory of Music at the age of five, so. I have been teaching for sixteen years. I feel that it is not easy to persist, and I am especially grateful to my parents for letting me see many possibilities in the process of learning the piano. Therefore ... nowadays, children are easily distracted, weak in self-control and lack of endurance, so I hope that parents now will turn this matter into a growing thing between parents and children.
So how can children become better themselves by learning the piano? I made a survey among my parents, and everyone has a different opinion.
Some people say that the original intention of children's learning is to improve their musical literacy.
Some people say that I don't want him to be admitted either, just as a hobby. When you grow up, you can play with music.
Some people say that I will let my children take a career path, and I want to be like Lang Lang and Di Yun.
Some also said that I had a childhood dream, and I didn't have the conditions to learn piano when I was a child. Now that the conditions are good, I will let her study. I especially like the wonderful sound of the piano.
Finally, some said that other children are studying, and my own children can't fall behind and lose at the starting line.
Finally, some people say that learning piano is a persistent habit, and children who purify their hearts can choose one more way in the future. Then, I just saw your ideas and goals, my friends. Please write it all down. When you know your purpose, you can better accompany your children to the music kingdom. Set different small goals between you and your child.
Anyway, I suggest parents communicate with their children before deciding to let them learn the piano. Please respect the premise of learning the piano, we should guide the children. An insistence on choosing this instrument and a responsible attitude towards learning. Only in this way can we get good grades.
First of all, let's look at the first principle, how parents and piano children grow up.
Next, I invite you to think about what is the relationship between the three roles as children, parents and teachers.
Thank you very much for your active participation. I've read it, and some have written about the triangle relationship with children. Then some people say that children play a decisive role, children are unwilling to learn, and parents have no choice. Teachers should help children grow up. etc ......
So we pass these interactive questions? After years of teaching, I have summed up a little experience, which I actually share with you.
Then I think children, parents and teachers should be a team relationship that supports and cooperates with each other. I just saw a friend write such an answer, in fact. Why is it a team in this process?
Because the relationship between the three is indispensable, since it is a team,
Then the team must have a common goal.
As a piano teacher here, I want to show my D characteristics. Lead children and parents to define goals together and make unified results.
We study DISC, and what we want to learn is to improve the sensitivity of interpersonal relationships. At the same time, we should also put our four different behavior styles in suitable environments and occasions. Different FM's own behavior,
Therefore, as a teacher, we should play a D-shaped role in the team. What do we need to do?
What we need is to set goals, achieve a goal with children and parents, communicate frequently and demonstrate frequently.
As a student, practice more and be willing to stick to what you want to do.
So as a parent. What we need to do is more support and encouragement.
While playing their respective roles, we should reach a unified direction with children, parents and teachers, that is to say, when we start learning the piano again, or in the middle of learning the piano, we should set different goals at each stage, what kind of things should be completed at what time node, and how to follow up and support with parents at home.
Combining discs is more conducive to effective communication with parents. I have a parent. She is a person with obvious D characteristics. She is the boss of the company and a strong woman. She often wears a suit. She is usually busy with work and communication. She always uses WeChat in class. I'm a little flattered to send my child here alone recently. After class, my mother was anxious to leave and asked when I could take the TEM-8 exam according to my child's current learning progress. I want her to finish the eighth grade exam before primary school.
Then, we all know that type D people do things quickly, and then the boss leads and dominates.
He just cares about things. Without considering whether the child can achieve it at all, she just wants to say that she finished the eighth grade before primary school.
Then by studying disc, I learned that when communicating with such a parent with outstanding behavior style, I should tell the story first and tell her the best way to let her know about it first, which is very important to him. Let's make it simple and clear first. At this time, I might as well add another sentence.
Do you have any questions or need to know any details? I can always add something.
This way of reporting, for D, is convenient for decision-making, and for the whistleblower, it is helpful for finding out the focus of the other party's attention.
So I communicated with her and said one by one, Mom, I understand your requirements for children. I think exams are also a good way for girls to cultivate their perseverance in learning the piano. I'll talk to you briefly about your study progress in about ten minutes.
This will be very important for how to take the exam, when to take the exam and what level.
First of all, I agree with you very much. We don't aim at grading, but we should set a grading goal and give our children an exercise when they are ready. Let children make sure that they are working hard and confident when they step onto the stage, just like there is a final exam every semester at school. The purpose of periodic evaluation is to make parents and teachers of children build a common progress. Practice of learning direction. Achieve a result set by yourself through your own efforts.
When mother heard what I said. Especially patiently reached a * * * knowledge with me. And made a study plan with me.
Next, I'll give you the first hint. If there are parents of piano children in the group, you can suggest communicating with your own piano teacher. Make a table. What about this form? It is a semester goal plan determined with teachers and children.
Next, I want to introduce the second principle to you. Children can only do well if they feel good about themselves.
Now imagine a boy playing the piano at home. Do you think there are many tools for discipline, and you agree, but you can't get rid of your past habits. In the process of practicing the piano. You lose your temper easily under any circumstances, and your parents know a lot, but there will still be smoke, because you always have a switch. I don't know where it is, there will always be an explosion.
You can think with your feelings and tell you a little theoretical knowledge.
Please raise your left hand and use your hand to understand the brain in your palm. Let's see why we know everything. Everyone knows how to accompany their children patiently, but they still can't help losing their temper when they encounter problems. So now, please. Raise your left hand.
This part from palm to wrist represents brain stem. What about the brain stem? It mobilizes our basic functions, such as breathing and heartbeat. And most of the body's reactions to cold flight or external shocks.
Now, please put your thumb in the palm. The thumb represents your midbrain, which stores emotional memory and the main radar sensing area. We are commonly known as animals, and animals also have skills.
Finally, fold your other fingers into your palm. Cover them with your thumb. Now your hand is a fist. The whole surface of this ball head represents your cerebral cortex, behind it. It is our sensory and information receiving areas, such as hearing, vision and touch.
This part of the front end of the nail becomes our prefrontal cortex. Pay attention to its position in your hand, especially near the midbrain and brain stem. You are our reason. The front of the brain regulates the following skills. As well as emotional interpersonal response flexibility, intuitive thinking, visual social cognition, self-awareness, escape, fear, morality and conduct.
Now imagine, one day, we didn't sleep well, and there were many unsatisfactory situations at work.
I really want to listen to my children playing the piano when I get home. They don't cooperate well. Imagine if your mood switch was turned on at this time.
Wow, is the lid of our brain open now? Imagine that. If the lid of your brain is opened, when we are irrational and only the animal's brain is working. It is conceivable what he can do.
Animal brain First of all, it is our main radar sensing area. Imagine what it would be like when your brain cover was opened and only the animal brain was left.
At this time, your palm. It can help all of us realize that when we have emotions, we will find that the lid of my brain has been opened and we will have a feeling. Deal with your emotions before dealing with things.
Then I will give you a hint. The second is to help children feel better in the right direction. But when we can't control our emotions, we should be self-aware. Is the brain cover open at this time? So what should I do if I open it? Active pause is a good tool. You can take a deep breath first, and then leave for a while to make yourself comfortable. Then deal with emotions first, then things.
Next, I'll give you a tool kit, three. Hug * * *, establish contact. For example, when practicing piano at home, children occasionally have difficulty composing music or don't want to practice more. Make a deal with your parents or lose your temper.
Then, if the special mother of type D comes out at this time, they are usually in a hurry. They will say that you must practice for another half an hour, or you should stop studying.
Then one possibility of this way is that the child is angry and has been practicing for half an hour. Another result of the completion of homework is that both sides lose, and the child cries and stops practicing the piano.
Then parents with high I characteristics will be very patient when they come out, holding their children's hands to encourage them, or putting up small stickers, or letting themselves go. Let the child perform by himself and encourage him. In short, he will think of various ways. I also saw a super loving parent. She can even perform a little play for her children.
What about this result? Here's the thing. After a long time, the child is skinned and the effect of practicing the piano is not very good.
Parents who are still high in S usually tell the truth. Mom, I know this is hard for you. Mom, let's take our time. We can practice with you several times slowly. Do you want to eat an orange, or mother will pour you a glass of water. You can have a rest first.
Then parents with high type C traits are usually reasonable. Why did you learn piano in the first place? Now you can say a lot of songs if you practice hard. Therefore, basic skills are very important now. With basic skills, fingers have strength and follow. More likely, you can play the music better, and then you can take part in the competition when you are talking about music. So now we need basic skills and start practicing seriously. Success belongs to the persevering.
In di'sc's class, we learned that we should adjust our needed personality at any time through the environment and people's needs. Teacher Haifeng said that understanding is more important than love, so this sentence is particularly important in piano learning. We should not try to change my child, but influence him in a way that he can accept. It is also normal to have mistakes and emotions in piano learning and practice. We can establish contact by hugging workers.
For example, we can say, honey, you just lost your temper suddenly, and mom doesn't know why. Do you want to talk to your mother about your thoughts?
Or mom can give you a hug, at this time. Some children don't usually let me hug you right away. It can be said that when you are in a good mood, mom will wait for your hug.
Then when the child feels better, we will think about what to do. My happy relationship with my children helps them feel better, which can also make their parents feel better. Parents and teachers should be more patient and give their children the heart to accompany them.
Children can talk better when they are in a good mood.
To give you a hint, we can build a way called family concert. The weekly family concert will give the whole family a special reunion time and also give the children a sense of ceremony. Through the encouragement and appreciation of each family member, let the children build their own self-confidence.
Drexel said that children need encouragement, just as plants need water. Then the power of encouragement also plays a great role in piano learning.
So how can we encourage it?
1, clearly describe the behavior that children deserve to be encouraged, and the second point is to thank the children for their efforts rather than the results.
Third, have confidence in children and give them strength.
Fourth, pay attention to children's feelings.
The fifth point is to pay attention to the positive side. Even bad things have something to praise.
Point out the small progress of the child at the age of six.
Then encourage everyone in four ways.
For example, look at your children with appreciation. Baby, mom sees you sing carefully and practice again and again. I believe that the more I play, the more fascinated I am. Can you play it for mom again? Think about how to keep the rhythm steady. Do we have any other good methods? You can decide how to practice the piano most efficiently. Baby, you worked hard and got good grades. You should be proud of yourself. Baby, mom loves you no matter what.
Then I have some suggestions about learning the piano. First, help them discover their potential. Second, let children choose and take responsibility, and third. Trust and empower them. Fourth, give children unconditional love. Fifth, provide children with opportunities to experience their abilities. Sixth, provide children with opportunities to help others and make contributions.
When parents of piano children do the above three principles, they can enjoy the benefits of being happy parents of piano children. Because you can always hear and appreciate the wonderful music brought by children.
As a piano teacher, I always have a belief in my heart. By learning piano, we not only master a skill, but most importantly, we let our children exercise a willpower and a learning attitude by learning piano. Because the piano has a kind of magic, which makes children better themselves. Therefore, I also hope that dear Qintong parents will be patient and give their children a time to grow up.
I have a piano student who transferred me from the age of eight until 12 was admitted to a middle school in the United States. During primary school, he actively participated in every competition, art festival and chorus of the school. Every time I see his smile, my inner self-confidence is increasing. He passed the imperial examination with excellent results, learned clarinet and joined an orchestra. When he was admitted to an American middle school, he was very good at any orchestral activities of the school.
Mom said: mom hopes that music can bring you happiness, and she also hopes to accompany you for life. I believe that with the guidance of teachers and your own efforts, you can fly freely in the music kingdom, and your mother is your co-pilot. When you need your mother, she will be by your side. Music is your playmate and your future. Mom wants to give it to you as a gift of life, because music has a kind of magic, which can make you a better yourself.
Yes, the power of encouragement is so powerful that it is used not only in children, but also in our workplace. Friends are especially important in life, because everyone. Everyone wants to be seen. Everyone wants to be encouraged. We usually say that people need encouragement just as plants need water.
Yes, encouragement can be everywhere. It is used in our community operation, in our fourth lesson, in our big family and in everyone. So let's use encouragement.
Well, thank you, dear friends, today. That's all for my sharing, thanks to two Wei Xue apples and leijin tonight. Thank you to everyone who participated in the interaction, thank you for listening, and wish you good night.