I envy Jiang Ziya and Wu in the comic book. After standing in Beihai for so many years, they eventually become middle-aged, but they still don't change their original intention.
Although I know that in the eyes of many people, Jiang Ziya's approach is wrong, stubborn and self-righteous.
But I still appreciate his persistence.
Of course, I don't object to the flexibility of some middle-aged people-after all, we are all young people with good conduct and lofty ideals.
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I think of myself.
Although I can't compare with Feng, an employee who attended a story meeting at the age of seven and now flies to a nail salon in the United States to be an online celebrity (Feng's writing is not too bad, but she has already stepped onto the red carpet among online celebrities, and she can't look back or shake her head left and right), even if I am admitted to a normal school, I can't even compare with Feng's bachelor's degree.
But I can still proudly say that I attended the story meeting when I was eight years old. When I was eighteen, I also said that women should not marry.
-Compared with Xifeng's ideal for choosing a spouse, she is not a doctor from a prestigious school, her height is less than1.8m, and her appearance is not as good as Andy Lau's ideal. She is not married, at least 18 years earlier. Judging from the age of Feng and me alone, I was six years earlier than her, and she put forward this view at the age of 24.
More importantly, after reading the story, I wrote my first poem.
-not because I was born a poet, but because I heard from the teacher who lent me a story club that writing can make money and eat enough.
From this point of view, my point of view is decades behind Mo Yan. Because he joined the army as a soldier, he worked hard to write, just to eat big steamed bread with white flour, which was far from Liu Shaotang's writing ideal of buying a quadrangle in Beijing and saving tens of thousands of dollars.
Then, because I was poor, I really fell in love with writing in order to earn money.
Graduated from normal school at the age of 17, taught elementary school, junior high school and senior high school, and became a member of the Provincial Writers Association.
Then, wandering around in the administration and state-owned enterprises, thinking that their IQ is not enough, in fact, there are not many EQs. Finally, I returned to the education department, but I was able to improve students' grades. I have taught junior college, even the so-called open university.
Some people say that if you learn to be tactful early, you will get along better.
Some people say that you are just too scholar-spirited.
For the latter, Nuo Nuo nodded and said:
Life is a hundred years, and the original heart does not change. Very beautiful.
As for the former, I'm not at all polite and went straight back:
Nonsense, you haven't seen the mythical legend.
I think I'm casting pearls before swine. Because for such a smooth "good-hearted person", he must only know the word "nonsense".
For Jiang Ziya, he doesn't understand. Of course, he doesn't understand the mythical movie legend.
He would ask me strangely:
Who's Jiang Ziya? Who's Jiang Ziya?
Or more humorously:
Jiang Ziya is not my friend, and he is not ill. I don't know if he is a minister, which hospital he lives in, which VIP ward he lives in, and how to see him.
This is not my talk show.
This is a true portrayal of the world.
In fact, this secular trend has been flowing around the world many years ago.
At that time, I was still very young, with long hair crooked, wearing a suit and a pair of Jiefang brand rubber shoes on my feet, but I heard Meng Qiuzhou, an elder and painter who taught in a secondary school in South China, tell a story of his youth.
One day, at the school gate, the headmaster who is really kind to all the teachers and students (as can be seen from the following conversation, he is really a good headmaster) saw him take the students out to sketch and asked:
Teacher Meng, are you going for a spring outing?
Meng elder replied:
Sketch.
The headmaster looked puzzled and said:
Teacher Meng, why do you paint saplings for your children? Why not draw a big tree?
And affectionately said:
Teacher Meng, you are a promising young man. Even a teacher should have a broad vision.
This is not a human fiction.
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When he was young, Jiang Ziya was determined to follow his master Kunlun and save his life.
When people reach middle age, they have doubts about their firm beliefs in the face of the fate of "cutting good and not cutting evil";
However, he finally had an epiphany and tried to "become a real god" in his own way.
This is the theme of the movie The Legend of Deification.
Review the story of Jiang Ziya in the movie.
In the movie, he was sent to Beihai in an instant because of his kindness, because he didn't kill all the bad guys on the stage, missed the master's event and refused to admit his mistake.
When the master punished him, many former colleagues stood by, or advised him to apologize, or even accused him of not taking the overall situation into consideration.
All of a sudden, because of the attitude of the master, he became the target of public criticism, became a rat crossing the street, and everyone shouted.
Is this very similar to the living environment of our middle-aged life?
If you inadvertently offend the top leader of the unit, many colleagues will quickly stand in the leadership team, leaving you alone, flustered and at a loss. Although, you didn't do anything wrong and didn't offend these colleagues who are usually your brothers.
Because these people are deeply aware that in middle age, if they act in the same spirit as young people and dare to offend their leaders, they will definitely have no future in this life.
Therefore, the attitude of the master or leader is to look at the demon mirror and look at the dog behind the appearance of people.
This is a human truth that only middle-aged people can understand.
So Jiang Ziya, who offended his master and never admitted his mistake, came to Beihai.
Beihai, now Lake Baikal, is very famous in the history of China because of Su Wu and dozens of shepherds.
The North Sea in the animation, I don't know if it is the North Sea in history. But what is certain is that this is the northern frontier, a desolate place, similar to the Ningguta where prisoners were exiled in the Qing Dynasty.
Of course, it is not accurate to say that all colleagues condemn Jiang Ziya. Because his younger brother Shen took the initiative to follow him to Beihai and accompany him, expecting him to change his attitude, apologize to the master and lower his head.
However, Jiang Ziya, like a Sichuan dialect "stubborn Catherine" and "boring virtue", has never changed his original intention, because he is absolutely right.
He did not save the whole world mysteriously for the future, but killed an innocent life in the present, which is inconsistent with his values of seeking immortality and practicing Buddhism.
What's more, this person is still a little girl and is very filial to her parents.
Besides, this person is just occupied by a hateful fox demon.
It is better to save the innocent than to save many people in the future. This is Jiang Ziya's death theory and his personality spirit.
So he decided to accompany Xiao Jiu and the Fox family to find the truth.
In the process of seeking the truth, he lost his divine power, fought the fox demon, paid a lot, and finally lost two loyal friends, that is, Shen and his pet.
In the end, Jiang Ziya finally exposed the master's plot and achieved a superficial victory under the justice of the master.
However, it seems that he has just made a positive result. Because the owner of the initiator was not punished, although he created this human tragedy that displaced everyone.
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A long time ago, I read "Man to Middle Age" by Chen Rong, a native of Wushan, Chongqing.
There is such a passage:
Liu Jiayao squinting, like drunk not drunk ground to say:
"Everyone says that middle age is the backbone, but who knows their joys and sorrows? They have a heavy burden of business outside and housework at home. Parents have to support in class and children have to support in class. They can play a backbone role, not only because of their experience and talents, but also because they have endured the hardships of life and made great sacrifices, including their lovers and children. "
I didn't understand this passage when I was just a teenager. Only in middle age can we really understand the meaning of this passage.
In fact, today we know that what Liu Jiayao said is only the superficial phenomenon that middle-aged people are suffering. The deeper pain of middle-aged people today includes not only the elderly parents in the world, but also the growing children in the world, and many more.
For example, after you achieve nothing in middle age, all secularized people are indifferent and dismissive of you.
-There is a popular saying that "bullying the old and not bullying the young" is what it says.
/kloc-at the age of 0/6, the boys in our normal class quietly escaped from their sleep at night and ran out to steal watermelons and apples from the nearby commune plantation.
The teacher is the head teacher, and after knowing it, we stood all morning.
He didn't eat breakfast, accompanied us, turned a circle on the playground, and expounded one of his views:
Young people must have the capital of "power, wealth, appearance and talent" if they want to stand on the world. The ranking is clear and the meaning is simple:
First, there must be relatives in politics;
Second, you must have great wealth;
Third, you must be good-looking, because if a man is handsome or a woman is beautiful, he is likely to marry into a rich family;
Fourth, talent, because if young people are talented, then outsiders will respect you because they are afraid that you will grow up to be a leader or a rich man in the future;
If you can't account for the first four things, then you must learn the fifth thing, that is, you must have a fist, that is, you must have strength, don't be too kind, and smash all the bad guys who are unfair to you with your fist.
The teacher said that if you don't have these five proud capitals, then you must accept the psychological preparation to suffer indignities in society and work.
I remember that morning, my teacher told this truth at least ten times.
Now that I think about it, the teacher didn't criticize and punish us then. He hates that iron can't be turned into steel. I hope we can get to know this secular society in advance, and don't get carried away with the iron rice bowl just because we have been admitted to normal schools.
I didn't know until I joined the work that the teacher's words were so reasonable that it was simply a universally applicable truth. Because except for the fourth place, I have a little writing talent, and I have no other four.
No relatives are in politics, but my second uncle, who is the branch secretary of the brigade, has connections with the political circles. He used to be a soldier, and his comrades-in-arms were officers of the county education bureau. I benefited from being assigned to the primary school where my hometown is located (my uncle went to town to find him), but I was not assigned to a place with more difficult conditions-just this time.
I don't have a lot of money, and I borrowed money for my studies, so that I have to pay it back every month after I join the work.
I'm just plain and ugly, and I can't marry a rich and powerful woman. Later, I almost married a powerful man and a rich man twice, but my emotional intelligence was too low and I ended up with nothing.
More importantly, I am too kind. I have no fist. Although I loved martial arts since I was a child, my parents taught us not to argue with outsiders and to live in harmony, so I never fought with outsiders, only a few times at most.
Therefore, after middle age, if you haven't been promoted to the position that people around you look up to (including the position and academic level), or accumulated a certain amount of wealth to become a rich man in a small circle, the attitude of outsiders towards you will change dramatically, and some will even change from respect to disdain, almost from a 180-degree perspective.
Nothing is accomplished, and youth is old.
Those young and ambitious people can only laugh at themselves now.
This is a fact and the suffering of middle-aged people.
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In fact, there are still many sufferings of middle-aged people.
For example, the declining physical state and psychological state.
I have an excellent friend. When he reached middle age, he accomplished nothing. He is under great pressure, his health is declining, and his psychological pressure is not small. So he is a little tired physically and mentally. He went to the hospital for examination, and there was no problem. This is only because people naturally become lazy and their work is not as good as before.
But because he did less, his colleagues did more, and the leaders were even more dissatisfied.
Leaders and colleagues always believe that this friend must work as hard as he did when he was young, since he worked so hard and was so capable.
Otherwise, it is a negative attitude, does not support leadership work, and does not cooperate with the collective progress of the unit.
It doesn't matter if it's just a misunderstanding.
The key is that he happened to meet a leader with a strange psychology:
"Comrade A, you and your former leader did a good job last year. You work overtime every night and weekend. The work is well done and the official documents are of high quality, which has won many honors for the unit.
However, I'm here and you don't support work. It's only been a few months. Besides, you can't find anything wrong at all. Do you have a problem with me? "
Such a thought, the leader said:
"Since you can't write official documents, I'll take care of you and do something easy and mindless, so you can go to the office and do some chores."
So, from morning till night, this friend became an orderly, from mental work to manual work, and arrived at his post before eight o'clock every morning. After others get off work, they have to do an hour of cleaning before they get off work.
Finally, my friend had no choice but to find the original leader and transfer to the old leading unit, and life returned to an ideal state.
However, even if it is turned, it is very difficult. The new leadership will say that a comrade is the business backbone of our unit and a rare outstanding talent. After being transferred, the work of our unit could not be carried out at all, only "bankruptcy".
Until the old leader got angry, he said to the new leader, "Can't your unit find a middle-aged man to do chores?"
This is the workplace that middle-aged people face.
If you are excellent when you are young, you have a strong ability to do things and do a lot of things, then even if you are middle-aged and old, your body and mind can't catch up with the past, but you still have to work hard to be excellent and do more things.
Just like a swift horse, you must always keep "traveling thousands of miles a day and traveling 800 miles at night".
Unless you fall.
Otherwise, no one understands your pain as a middle-aged person, only many people don't understand you.
On the contrary, if you are always poor and mediocre, and you can't do anything at work except some chores, then even if you never accomplish anything, no one will understand you even if you are lazy in middle age and old age, and some will only understand you.
This is a strange phenomenon, which may not be common in today's society.
However, this misunderstanding and pain of middle-aged people definitely exists.
This is by no means a fantasy.
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Maybe that's the case. Because of my many experiences with friends and acquaintances around me, I, a middle-aged man, had a deep sense of * * * after watching the movie "The Legend of Deification".
Not only is a person's youth, but he will eventually leave.
Also, a person will eventually leave in middle age.
The Legend of Deification is an animated version of To the Middle Age We Are Leaving.
Facing the middle-aged people who are leaving soon, what should we learn from Jiang Ziya in the movie?
Unlike all my friends who always stick to their original intentions, here, I want to express my views:
I appreciate Jiang Ziya's attitude in movies, and I hope that the "Jiang Ziya" in the world will always stick to its inner beauty and never change its original intention.
But I also understand those peers who choose to change their minds in middle age in order to change their fate and make their families live better.
As long as they can keep a good bottom line.
I only despise those utilitarians who are unscrupulous and bottomless for a little profit.
I don't want middle-aged friends who have stuck to a good life for half their lives to fall into this situation at once.
Therefore, the film "The Legend of Deification" gives us middle-aged people two correct paths:
First, always adhere to the inner beauty and never change your original intention.
This is a gentleman's behavior, a kind of beauty in life, just like an island in the waves, or an oasis in the vast sea of Wan Li.
Second, because I once insisted on my inner beauty, now I suddenly understand it, but I still insist on my inner beauty and turn to do something more pragmatic and practical, but I warn myself not to hurt others.
I think it's also a gentleman, because each of us is a good person as long as we don't hurt other kind and innocent people.
A good man should be a gentleman.
"Don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you." I have always disliked hypocrites who impose moral standards on others. These people, hiding behind the image of a gentleman, desperately pursue material interests and secularity, but ask others to be a perfect gentleman, which is undoubtedly despicable.
I hope all middle-aged people who have suffered in life, or like Jiang Ziya, will never change their original beauty and move on.
Or learn to make appropriate changes and pursue a proper and beautiful life for family and friends-just grasp the minimum standards of a real gentleman:
"A gentleman loves money, takes it properly, takes it moderately, and takes it moderately."
-it is also applicable to push this "wealth" to other aspects.
Whether middle-aged, young or old, please remember:
A gentleman loves things, takes them wisely, and is temperate.
This is the inspiration of the movie "The Legend of Deification" to our middle-aged people.
-to the middle age when we will die;
May the "Jiang Ziya" on the earth keep a beautiful heart forever!
I will try my best to make my article not only the memory of a middle-aged person, but also bring some enlightenment to teenagers and young people, so that they can take less detours. Just like my 18-year-old son, they are a bright future that middle-aged people must strive to care for!
May my beloved teenagers and young people come back to be a beautiful teenager after running all their lives!
May all middle-aged parents, from today on, put aside secular affairs and vulgar entertainment and focus on their love for the growth and journey of teenagers and young people! )