We say that psychological counseling is a happy process. This is not the language to coax you into counseling. This is a real thing, a real feeling.
Why is psychological counseling a happy process?
First, psychological counseling is a process of acceptance.
Second, psychological counseling is a process of * * * affection.
Third, psychological counseling is a process of active concern.
These three points are rarely experienced in your daily life. In counseling, when you go through this, it will bring you a special feeling. This is a feeling that you are heard, paid attention to and respected, which can make you feel very comfortable and happy.
Let's talk about the first one, why an acceptance process will make you feel happy.
We can recall, when talking to others, including your friends, your family or your colleagues, what kind of attitude will they talk to you? For example, when you describe something to others, they usually give you a quick feedback, either agreeing with you, opposing you or giving you a suggestion.
No matter what kind of viewpoint, when criticizing or praising you, there is a subconscious expression: he is qualified to judge your affairs. Can't see, he stands above you, he is not equal to you. This will make you feel a little uncomfortable.
What is needed in psychological counseling is observation without evaluation. No matter what you say, you should accept it frankly. No comments, no praise, no criticism, just accept, just listen to you. In life, if you find someone, he is especially willing to listen to you all the time. This feeling is very special when there is no comment for you.
This feeling is complete respect for you, because you know the world best. And you have the most right to judge your own world. No one else in your world has the right to judge. So listening, accepting and what you said in the consultation are all right. When you feel this, you will feel respected, and you will be happy at this time.
Next, let's discuss the second one. Why does * * * love make you happy?
When we have something to tell others, we should first seek understanding and support. The first condition for others to understand and support you is that they can understand what you say. If you need others to understand what you are saying, then they should think about what you are saying from your point of view.
In other words, only when he walks into your world completely can he understand what you mean. Otherwise, the sound from your world will be deformed when it reaches his world. He may not really understand what you mean.
In consultation, the counselor tries to build a world of visitors in his world, that is, the counselor tries to understand the psychological world of visitors. Try to understand. Try to understand what the visitor wants to express. This effort is not to say that there is something wrong with the IQ or EQ of the consultant. But in one person's world, it is not a simple matter to build another person's world. You can't do it without special training, or with very high emotional intelligence. In life, even if the other person has enough emotional intelligence and IQ, it is not necessary for the other person to build your world.
So in counseling, the counselor is building your world in his world. When he discusses with you what is happening in this world, you will find a feeling of being understood, which will make you very happy.
Third, we say why positive attention can make you happy.
This kind of thing often happens in our consultation. We listen to what visitors say, and then * * * love to build a world of visitors. Then we describe the content of the visitor's world to the visitor, and the visitor suddenly realizes, oh, my world is like this, which will produce a heartfelt excitement, a heartfelt happiness and a feeling of being suddenly enlightened.
This kind of feeling will only get excited when visitors really realize or get rid of the confusion that has been suppressed in their hearts for many years. At this time, visitors often say, Counselor, you ask me and answer me. What the visitor wants to do is to let the consultant continue to explore his world, and continue to explore the world he wants to know but can't know.
In this process, consultants have always been actively concerned about visitors, and this kind of active concern has special requirements in ability and method. Chatting with ordinary friends is not available. So when you feel this positive attention, you are happy.
Counseling is a painful process, and counseling is also a happy process.
When you dig out the backlog of emotions hidden in your subconscious for years. When you answer a lot of questions about behaviors you don't understand. When you understand where all this confusion comes from, you will feel comfortable and happy. This kind of happiness comes from the heart.