Whether this situation is "bullying" depends on how you understand it. At least in my opinion, it's not bullying in the strict sense. After all, we are all newcomers, so it is normal to start with the most basic work.
What is terrible? The terrible thing is that you have been working for 10 years and are still being called to do odd jobs. Maybe this is the real bullying!
Below, on this topic, I personally talk about my own views for your reference only.
First, people in the workplace should know how to express their anger appropriately.
There is an old saying in China that "people are good at being deceived". It is said that people who are not good at expressing their dissatisfaction and anger in the workplace are easily bullied by others.
For example, Xiao Liu and Xiao Zhang are colleagues in the office. Xiao Zhang always speaks ill of Xiao Liu in front of the leader. Although Xiao Liu knew the situation, he just didn't dare to express his dissatisfaction with Xiao Zhang face to face, and kept it in his heart.
Over time, Xiao Zhang thought that Xiao Liu was afraid of himself and timid by nature, so he abused Xiao Liu more and more, not only in front of the leaders, but also in front of other colleagues.
Finally, Xiao Liu couldn't bear it anymore and finally broke out. On one occasion, he heard Xiao Zhang speak ill of himself. As soon as his brain was hot, he rushed to hit each other. As a result, Xiao Zhang was taken to the hospital with a concussion.
Then everyone understood. Xiao Liu was fired for hitting people for serious violation of company rules and regulations.
From the analysis of this incident, it is really Xiao Zhang's fault and he should not bully Xiao Liu like this. However, Xiao Liu himself did not manage his emotions well. He usually doesn't express his anger, but his emotions erupt at an unexpected time, which leads to a big mistake.
Freud once said: Emotions can't be suppressed. If you keep suppressing your emotions, they will eventually return in a way you realize or not.
Therefore, as a psychological counselor for many years, I suggest that everyone express their anger at an appropriate time.
There are several steps in the expression:
First, state the facts, that is, summarize what is happening, pay attention to conciseness, take facts as the center, and don't make controversial subjective statements.
Second, express your feelings. In order to avoid violent conflict with the other party, this part can use the "first person" method to reduce hostility. For example, Liu Can told Xiao Zhang, "I feel very unhappy and uncomfortable, because you always speak ill of me behind my back like this." "
Third, express your expectations. This part is to tell the other person what you want him to do, that is, to return the world to its original state. For example, Liu Can told Xiao Zhang, "I hope you won't speak ill of me in front of colleagues and leaders in the future."
With the expression of anger, others will know that you care about this matter, and continuing to bully you may have consequences, which will form an invisible constraint on its psychological level, thus reducing the probability of being bullied again.
Second, the maintenance of interpersonal relationships in the workplace is very important.
Why are some people easily bullied in the workplace, while others dare not bully even if others want to?
One of the most important reasons is the influence of interpersonal relationship.
Let's take Xiao Liu and Xiao Zhang as examples. Because Xiao Liu is introverted, his relationship with colleagues and leaders is very general, and there is no one to talk to. Xiao Zhang thinks he is withdrawn and easy to bully.
However, if Liu Neng attaches great importance to the cultivation of interpersonal relationships and gets along well with leaders and colleagues, I believe Xiao Zhang dare not speak ill of him casually.
Because once a bad word is said, it is easy to spread to Xiao Liu's ears, and Xiao Liu Ye Can retaliates in turn.
In this way, it is not to encourage everyone to please colleagues or to form gangs, but that the workplace is so realistic. Without good interpersonal relationships, you will become a relatively weak party. Who will you bully if you don't bully you?
Third, improve your work performance and ability and win the respect of others.
I don't know if you had this experience when you were studying before. The top students in a class are rarely bullied by other students, but an ordinary student is relatively more vulnerable to bullying.
Why is this?
From a psychological point of view, people will respect or fear opponents who are stronger than themselves, such as top students in their studies. Other students feel that reading is not as good as him, and they will feel more awe in their hearts.
But ordinary students, not far from each other, have no such worries.
This is true at school and in the workplace. If you are a sales champion, I think most colleagues will keep a good relationship with you, and no one will think about bullying the sales champion. Jealousy is similar, bullying is difficult to achieve by means.
So if you don't want to be bullied by your colleagues, all you have to do is improve your ability, make achievements and make yourself a respected person.