My friend's child, Yang Yang, is three years old. One day, my friend took Yang Yang to the park to play, and Yang Yang found other children to play. My friend sat on the stone bench and observed what the children were doing.
After reading it, my friend was a little depressed because Yang Yang looked like a? Little sidekick? Similarly, other children are obedient to their orders and dare not neglect them. Other children, like a commander, always give orders to others.
So children always love to be? Little sidekick? What's the matter?
Really? Little sidekick? Our scenes are very common, for example, young children like to play with older children, young children like a small follower, shy children play with powerful children, shy children like a small follower, and so on.
Almost all children are unhappy when they become slaves, but they like to obey orders, just as they like being ordered.
After seeing this phenomenon, many parents are very worried, so what is the reason? Parents should know the reason and don't understand!
Reason one: parents are not around, and children feel that everything around them is strange and insecure. Therefore, if children want to get some sense of security, they should find people who are willing to play with themselves. This is an attachment psychology, and I hope to be valued. As long as someone is with them, children will become particularly dependent on this person, and then children will naturally become small followers.
However, parents need not worry too much. When their children grow up, they have certain social skills. When they play with children, they want to get along equally and don't want to be directed.
Reason 2: There is no lack of bullying when children get along, so if children want to be protected and don't want to be bullied, they will find the strong to be the backer and become the minions of others.
Reason three: when children follow others, they will imitate what others do and what children do, thus becoming pawns in the eyes of others. However, there is nothing wrong with this process, which can let children learn more things, such as basic common sense, communication methods and so on.
After understanding the reasons, parents should not worry too much, and they don't have to stop their children from acting like little followers. Just do these things well.
First, make sure the child is not forced. When a child is found to be a slave, parents should communicate with the child at the first time to find out whether the child is forced. If the child just naturally becomes a favorite, there is no need to disturb the child in this case. If the child is in trouble, parents will step in.
Secondly, teach children not to play with bad people. Because children will imitate each other's behavior and language when they are slaves, if the other person is not good, the children will not learn well, so parents should be careful.