First of all, there are hammers everywhere, and personal preferences should be distinguished. Charlie Munger has a famous saying: With a hammer in his hand, everything looks like a nail. Novice consultants often have a "hammer" in their hands after they are familiar with a certain consulting technology or theory. When he saw the visitor, he couldn't help thinking that the other person was a nail, and he planned to wedge it in, but he didn't know that the other person might be an "expansion screw" ... For example, someone who was familiar with Shubo's career development theory and rainbow diagram firmly believed that the other person should "do something in a certain period of time" and repeatedly stressed that he should settle down and find a partner when he was old, but he didn't know that the other person was an "expansion screw".
In this case, psychological counselors need to maintain a tolerant and open mind. Before and during the consultation, he consciously took various methods and angles to help the visitors, trying to let them draw their own conclusions instead of nailing them down.
Secondly, the consultation missed the key point, so we should pay attention to observation. When consulting, novice consultants, even some experienced consultants, may ignore the topics involved in the consultation process because they don't know much about or pay enough attention to the industry, characteristics or background of the visitors, thinking that they are irrelevant issues or the visitors themselves have not expressed clearly, but in fact they are some key issues of the visitors. For example, Xiao Ru, a beautiful woman in the workplace, resigned from the Imperial Capital and returned to the second-tier city where her lover was located because she wanted to solve the problem of separation between the two places. It didn't go well in the job search process. If the counselor ignores her status as a married and childless woman and does not pay attention to the problems she emphasizes when expressing her distress, it is easy to simply regard it as an adaptation problem or a positioning problem, encourage visitors to know themselves correctly, and simply ask them to lower their requirements. In this way, visitors can be better guided to pay attention to family factors from a balanced perspective, so that visitors can realize the importance of family dimension to career balance and make it easier for them to understand their "initial heart".
Finally, the method goal is inflexible and overwhelmed. Another "pit" that consultants are easy to fall into is that the direction and goal of their consultation are too rigid. After solving a focus problem, visitors are often prone to another problem. At this time, the focus has changed, and the goal of negotiation has also changed. Don't "complain of headache when visiting, I don't care if you complain of foot pain now". Counselors should maintain a flexible attitude, be psychologically prepared and improvise. For example, when college students apply for a job at night, they can't clearly locate the problem at first, and they don't know what they want to do and what they can do. The counselor guided her to explore herself and understand her real needs at the moment. When she knew her Dutch code, her current needs, and found that her major and personality characteristics had nothing to do with her parents' requirements for civil servants, how to communicate with her parents became a new problem. Consultants should be flexible and naturally shift their consulting objectives to solving this problem.
Having said that, the "pit" that psychological counselors may encounter in the process of career counseling is to remind career planners that in the process of counseling, they should see their own shortcomings and constantly improve their skills in order to help more people grow. Sometimes, we carefully avoid the "pit" and move forward slowly, which is faster than striding forward.