Xiao Juan said that she and her husband were "married by factor". They got married in a hurry because they were pregnant. At that time, in addition to the 80,000 bride price, Xiao Juan got married directly without a car or a house.
It was also because of this marriage that Xiao Juan regretted it, because after marriage, she saw the ugly face of her husband's family. Less than a year after her marriage, her mother-in-law asked her daughter-in-law to repay the mortgage, and even threatened her: "If you don't repay the mortgage, you will never recognize your daughter-in-law."
Xiao Juan said that it was also because of her mother-in-law's words that she felt particularly uncomfortable, because the house was bought by her in-laws before they got married, and the name of her in-laws was written on the real estate license. At that time, Xiao Juan was very angry, but after she got pregnant, she ignored these things, so when she heard her mother-in-law's words, she directly angered her mother-in-law, saying, "The house doesn't have my name, so don't try to help me out of poverty. I have no obligation to help you.
Xiao Juan thought that her mother-in-law would be speechless when she said this, but after listening to her words, her mother-in-law said directly to her, "Since you don't pay the mortgage, don't live in this house, move out." . Also because of her mother-in-law's words, Xiao Juan was completely angered, because although Xiao Juan didn't repay the mortgage of this house, her husband had been secretly helping to repay it, so she never ignored her mother-in-law's words and just asked her mother-in-law to talk to her son about something.
Xiao Juan said that in fact, her mother-in-law's words didn't mean to divorce her, but her husband's attitude towards this matter made her want to divorce, because her husband had been urging her to let her mother do more, saying that her mother was old and couldn't stand it. And her husband also told her that she should pay the mortgage, because he is the only son in the family, and the house will be theirs in the future anyway, so she asked Xiao Juan to pay the mortgage. He also said: "His parents are old and have no money. They can't afford to repay the mortgage at all. The pressure is really too great. "
Xiao Juan said that because she earned more money than her husband, all her family tried to get her to repay the mortgage. It is also because of her repeated refusal that her mother-in-law is more and more disgusted with her. Later, she even smeared Xiao Juan everywhere, saying that Xiao Juan worshiped money and married her family thinking about divorce, saying that Xiao Juan was staring at the house.
Xiao Juan said that the reason why she refused to repay the mortgage was for her future, because even if she had more mortgages, the house would not belong to her. If she gets divorced later, the house still has nothing to do with her, and the house still belongs to her in-laws' private property, so she will refuse to repay the mortgage.
In fact, Xiao Juan didn't care about her mother-in-law's threats at first, and she always wanted to reconcile with her mother-in-law. She has only one requirement for her mother-in-law, that is, "she can repay the mortgage, but her in-laws must transfer the house to them, and then she will repay the mortgage herself, otherwise she will never help the poor."
But even her sincere request was rejected by her mother-in-law. Mother-in-law not only gossips about her everywhere, but also encourages her son to pick on her. It is precisely because these behaviors of her mother-in-law and her husband touched her bottom line that Xiao Juan resolutely put forward a divorce.
When Xiao Juan first filed for divorce, her mother-in-law was particularly tough and even said directly to her: "Divorce if you have the ability, and see who will marry you with the children!" ! At that time, her mother-in-law thought that using children could threaten Xiao Juan and make Xiao Juan afraid to divorce.
But who knows, after hearing her mother-in-law's words, Xiao Juan directly took out a divorce certificate to divorce, saying that she wanted to divorce her children. It was also in Xiao Juan's resolute attitude that Xiao Juan's mother-in-law and husband were frightened and asked people to intercede everywhere.
In vain, her mother-in-law finally agreed to transfer the house to Mr. and Mrs. Xiao Juan. It is also because after this incident, the family was harmonious, and her mother-in-law never bothered Xiao Juan again.
Xiao Juan said: "People are good at being bullied, while Ma is good at being ridden." . She is not afraid of divorce at all. If it's a big deal, she can divorce her children, because it's not difficult for her to make them live a good life with her ability.
Xiao Juan said, because after this incident, she realized that women must have their own bottom line and principles, otherwise, they won't be respected by others at all, because you don't even respect yourself, so how can others respect you?
Xiao Juan said that because of this, many people said that she was wrong, that she was too strong, and that she was not sincere in getting married with such a mentality. She also said that if she lived in a house, she should pay the mortgage. After all, as long as she keeps her position, the future house is hers, and she doesn't have to calculate these things at all. Also because of more and more gossip, she asked me, "Did she really do something wrong?
Bian Xiao has something to say:
In my opinion, I don't think there is anything wrong with Xiao Juan's practice, because as a daughter-in-law, she really has no obligation to help her in-laws repay their mortgage or help the poor. The house doesn't have her name, so her refusal is reasonable. She is willing to help her in-laws, and acquiesces in her husband's mortgage repayment because of her mutual affection. In-laws should be grateful to her instead of smearing her everywhere. Because in general, their husband and wife's property is the same property. If Xiao Juan doesn't agree, her husband can't pay the mortgage at all.
Besides, from Xiao Juan's happy marriage, we can see that what Xiao Juan did at the beginning was correct, otherwise, he would not be happy.
I quite agree with the saying, "People are good at being bullied, while Ma is good at being ridden", because many times, our unconditional tolerance and forbearance will only bring more and more harm to each other.
In my opinion, people who say that Xiao Juan is wrong and Xiao Juan's marriage mentality is not correct all stand and talk like it's easy, because things didn't happen to them, so they can make these sarcastic remarks. I'm sure that if these things happened to my daughters, they would say these things.
For this matter, the real problem is not Xiao Juan, but Xiao Juan's husband and in-laws. If it weren't for the lack of her husband's position and responsibility, and if it weren't for her mother-in-law's various calculations, these contradictions and unpleasantness would not have occurred in this family.
I often warn the women around me that if you want something, you must learn to fight for it yourself, because you can't wait for what you want by shrinking and forbearing blindly.