For the therapist, he needs to have some knowledge of external characteristics and some internal characteristics. According to my experience, a good healer: the core is the level of mental health, without bad preferences, and his mood, emotion, thinking ability and values should be very positive, which determines whether the energy he has can better make our cured people have better energy.
Then, we will continue the following functions for your reference.
First of all, therapists should at least reach the general level of mental health and dare to face their own problems. In fact, many therapists do not need efficient and excellent psychological quality, but they do need at least general mental health, because between visitors and therapists, it is a process of mapping the mirror of nature, which is actually a basis for human beings to communicate with each other in social processes. If the mental health quality of the therapist is poor, then visitors can perceive the therapist's bad personality, psychological and emotional patterns through mirror neurosocial learning or other psychological education activities of the therapist. It would be against its original intention to be here. Of course, it is also determined by the general level of mental health in society. If under the supervision of the whole society, the health level is relatively low, then the healer can't stand out. Because of the interaction of natural environment or social mirror neurons, the social level of the healer is basically acceptable or slightly better.
The second point: I am interested in human beings and their sufferings, and I am willing to pay for improving human welfare.
Generally speaking, a psychotherapist is an industry dealing with people. Many therapists have a considerable degree of love for people in distinguishing people from things. In contrast, if they are interested in programs, projects, tools, data, etc. The probability of being interested in things will be higher, so further, the therapist will explore people's pain, so this is another amazing thing. How do human beings experience what in suffering? What can help mankind out of suffering? What kind of suffering can you even get rid of? What is not allowed? To explore suffering, we should also be prepared to bear it with others. Even to a certain extent, people suffer with the cured people, instead of satisfying their curiosity from the perspective of a third party. People experience healing for a bright future and an active life, and the content of healing can not be separated from the pain of the healed. And the healer will leave a lot of pain.
In such a healing process, the time of struggle and pain will eventually flow back to the inspired and passionate healer. In fact, it doesn't sound particularly pleasant. For a relatively healthy therapist, the reason to fight for the cause of psychological healing is to improve the willingness to serve the well-being of mankind.
Of course, everyone has a natural healing ability, and everyone has selfishness. This does not mean that every therapist can be on duty at any time. Fighting for a lofty belief, after all, psychotherapy is not missionary and religious belief, but at least it must have a certain belief, and even play a certain protective role in the long-term work of therapists in a certain way. If you really have no heart for a certain well-being and don't violate the therapist's professional ethics, it will be more difficult than going to heaven.
Third, we should have good emotional experience and emotional communication energy, and dare to face others sincerely.
In fact, healing work is equivalent to a part of public relations and work. In fact, many studies show that in the long-term treatment process, the relationship and communication between therapists and visitors are the most important treatment factors, and their professional knowledge and skills are relatively backward. Therefore, doctors should have quite good emotional ability in any case, but the emotional ability that doctors need is very different from what people say: high emotional intelligence and good study. Therapists need to be able to deeply and comprehensively experience their own emotions, including positive and negative emotions, and at the same time be willing to accept tolerance and experience the emotional ability of others to some extent. Not only that, the therapist also needs to be able to experience these effective verbal and nonverbal communication and discuss the emotions in the relationship in depth without leaving the experience itself. Through this description, we can feel that such activities do not often occur in daily communication, so it is not easy to understand a person's social situation.
But generally speaking, people who are good at socializing at least have a good understanding and control of their emotions and relationships with others, so it is easier to show their ability in this aspect in the process of communication.
The fourth point is to have good logical analysis ability and basic academic ability. Although relationship healing is almost a prerequisite for psychological healing, logical analysis and academic ability are also very important.
After all, it is a clinical work that follows scientific methods and research and analysis. It is necessary to extract the coping mode and psychological essence of experience from the complicated clinical manifestations, long career, feelings and spiritual processes of visitors, and try to adopt the most efficient intervention method according to the current characteristics among the methods known in the industry.
According to the dynamic condition and environment, the treatment scheme and method are adjusted at any time, and the key problems are solved at the same time, so as to finally achieve psychotherapy, effective relief or transformation. This is actually a job that requires a lot of treatment. Furthermore, because psychotherapy, counseling and therapy are a constantly developing field, treatment needs to have a certain degree of ability to integrate with the industry, so as to ensure that we follow a professional perspective, constantly seek better intervention methods, enhance our own ability and maintain good development, which is at least a basic academic requirement and professional quality. This is the abnormal place of psychotherapy, which requires two daily abilities that rarely coexist at the same time and are at a high level. So, as far as I am concerned, there are many emotions, emotions and excellent therapists. The academic ability of logic is quite limited or even non-existent. At the same time, many of them have this kind of healing logic and are very talented. It will take several years for information teachers to understand the feelings of others, or even not at all. The requirements are quite high.
Fifth, be clear about your own value, be able to accept diversified values openly and compatibly, and don't influence your judgment and perception because of other people's values. But at the same time, we should also accept the three views of tolerance and understanding others. In fact, the therapist does not require a career with correct outlook, and he has the right to choose his beliefs within the correct outlook, instead of the outlook that must be reformed for a certain career, or that the psychotherapist is not a religion, let alone what the outlook is. This is a debatable topic in itself, but the therapist should at least be very clear about the values of all parties and understand their limitations, so as not to hurt visitors. For example, a therapist can't accept homosexuality, so he shouldn't be interviewed by homosexuals, and he shouldn't accept extreme male chauvinism. At the very least, he should not touch women or partners, so the therapist's values may bring a devastating psychological blow to the interview.
Of course, all my examples are extreme. Many times, the subtle influence of therapist's values on visitors may occur unconsciously.
Therefore, it is impossible for therapists to ask visitors who are completely close to their own values to work. Therefore, to heal, we should have a very clear understanding of our own values, at the same time, we should be able to accept others' values different from our own, respect each other's values to a certain extent, and work hard in the opposite direction rather than our own firm direction. This point is very emphasized in the treatment abroad. There is indeed special training, but there is still room for improvement at home.
So, to sum up. No one has such excellent abilities and characteristics from the beginning, so I say that skills cannot be separated from the growth and training that each therapist focuses on the day after tomorrow. Some people, of course, are gifted, and such people also exist, but more people should be diligent and make up for their mistakes. Therefore, therapists who have just entered the profession should start with their own advantages and improve their own shortcomings in the learning process. Excellent therapists, these five.
I'm Mr. parfitt, the attitude therapist. Welcome to communicate.