But I don't know if anyone thinks the house is bigger and the bed in the bedroom is wider, but the distance between husband and wife seems to be farther.
I heard an old man say that the narrower the bed, the better. Because it is narrow, two people will hug each other and sleep more, which will also promote the relationship between husband and wife. But if the bed is wider, the two people seem to sleep more comfortably, but in fact they are far away.
Many netizens feel that they do not believe in evil. How is that possible? Will the relationship between husband and wife really change qualitatively because of the distance to sleep?
Feifei held her daughter in her arms and just finished her second birthday. The baby is still smiling at itself. Her fair skin and bright black eyes really made the child feel sad. Feifei wry smile.
She thought that her future life would depend on herself, and she would work harder to give her daughter a better life, because since yesterday, Feifei has become a single mother.
Thinking that I owe my daughter a father, this is the only place I feel sorry for my daughter, and then thinking about everything I have paid in my marriage in recent years, Feifei is even more wronged and finally burst into tears.
Four years ago, Feifei and her boyfriend entered the marriage hall hand in hand. They are called gifted scholars and beautiful women by relatives and friends, and even their parents are particularly satisfied with this marriage.
Married life is really happy. My husband likes Feifei very much, and my in-laws have nothing to say to Feifei, the daughter-in-law Feifei not only didn't feel the contradiction between other sisters' mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but also didn't see what a chicken feather looks like in life.
After getting married, Feifei and her husband really enjoyed a period of solitude, and then they were ready to have a baby at the urging of their parents.
After pregnancy, Feifei's pregnancy reaction is a bit serious. Fortunately, my family and husband took good care of Feifei, and even saw their bile coming out, and my husband cried with distress.
Finally, the baby was born, a beautiful daughter. Feifei remembers that when she left the delivery room, the first thing she saw was her red-eyed husband. The first thing he said to himself was that she would never have children again.
It stands to reason that with such a husband, Feifei's future life can only be happier, but Feifei never thought that it was her own understanding and thoughtfulness that ruined her marriage.
Anyone who has raised a baby knows that children love to cry when they are young, and they are fine during the day. My parents didn't find it difficult to calm down, but they collapsed at night.
Because of taking care of the baby, I am very tired and lack of rest. Many babies cry at night regardless of time, and their parents' desire for night sleep is soaked in soup.
Since Feifei gave birth to her daughter, because she wanted to give the couple a better life, her husband found a part-time job, often went home late and went out early in the morning, which was very hard.
Although it is hard for Feifei to take care of the baby alone, she is worried about whether her husband's body can bear it, because every night when the baby cries, feeds milk powder and changes diapers, her husband will get up to help.
Finally, Feifei simply let her husband sleep in another bedroom, saying that it is good to let her take care of the baby alone, so that the baby will not wake her husband when she wakes up at night. After all, if her husband doesn't have a good rest at night, it will be very difficult to work during the day.
At first, my husband actually disagreed, because he still wanted to help his wife get more points, but in the end he couldn't hold on to Feifei's insistence. Besides, he was really reluctant to be hygienic, so he agreed.
After sleeping in separate rooms, Feifei won't care if the baby wakes up crying, and her husband can sleep better. Feifei was relieved to see her husband look much better.
At first, Feifei and her husband slept in separate rooms, but every night after the baby slept, they would go to the living room to eat and chat or watch a favorite movie, and they didn't think there was anything wrong with sleeping in separate rooms.
But after a long time, Feifei began to feel that her husband became strange, and her husband's work became more and more busy. She began to work part-time. It is late at night to finish all the housework and work every day.
Both husband and wife are exhausted, almost all fall asleep with pillows and have little time to chat. Coupled with the pressure of life, the communication between two people is also mixed with more quarrels.
Even many times, Feifei often feels as if she hasn't seen her husband for a week, and the couple under the same roof have become so strange.
In the end, her husband filed for divorce, which was expected by Feifei, but the reason given by her husband was that she could not feel the warmth of home, which made Feifei feel very wronged. Obviously, her initial wish was that her husband could have a better rest. Isn't this concern warm enough?
I don't know how many couples are like this, sleeping in separate rooms and falling asleep. This is for a better starting point, or for the convenience of taking care of children, or for worrying that each other's sleep quality will be affected, but in the end, love is exhausted because of sleeping in separate rooms.
Of course, there are indeed some couples who have slept in separate rooms for many years, and their feelings are as deep as ever, but this is only a minority after all. Most couples' communication is reduced, mutual understanding and running-in are reduced, and the tacit understanding between husband and wife is gone.
There is an old saying that the quarrel between husband and wife is called "noisy at the head of the bed, and at the end of the bed." Spiritual communication and physical intimacy between husband and wife before going to bed at night are the best ways to help resolve conflicts and narrow the distance.
However, if you sleep in separate rooms, the couple will lose this opportunity, and there will be many contradictions that can be solved invisibly, and the relationship between husband and wife will naturally become weaker and weaker.
Two people, one room, one bed, this is the life state that husband and wife should have, and it is also a healthy state. Even if they sleep in separate rooms temporarily, it will not have a substantial negative impact on marriage, but in the long run, it will inevitably increase the strangeness between husband and wife.
Presumably, many couples will remember when they first started to fall in love. They always feel that time passes quickly and they will leave before they get tired. But I don't know when they will be able to adapt to the lifestyle without each other. This is also a time bomb buried in marriage.
Therefore, sleeping with your lover is also a sign of love and tolerance. I hope each of us won't miss it.