Why can't you always control the desire to cheat?

Speaker: Xiao Xiao, female, 26 years old. She cheated again and again, and he forgave again and again. What makes happiness linger on the cliff? Quan was often away from home when he was a salesman, and sometimes he didn't even have a phone call. I always feel flustered and need something to fill it. So, I went to a fitness training class and met the coach there. His heart is very delicate, he cares about me very much, and he sends me home every time after training. Ah Quan can't do this. After the coach's wife came to the house to make trouble, everyone knew about it. I was beaten by Ah Quan and rushed back to my parents' house. Fortunately, Quan finally realized that he didn't care enough about me and changed his job. But it didn't last long. For a while, his company was conducting evaluation, and he began to work overtime frequently. As soon as he worked overtime, he forgot how lonely I was. He knew that I had no friends and my life was his, but he still wouldn't let me protest. He just bought me a computer and let me play games to kill time when I have nothing to do. I met my first boyfriend eight years ago online. He said that he lost a lot of money in business and wanted to die. He wants to see me one last time before he dies. We drank a lot and poured out our frustrations in life. Speaking of the sweetness of the past, I lost control again. It's really unlucky to be seen by Quan this time. I am very afraid that he will kick me out again, divorce me and confess everything. Unexpectedly, he finally forgave me and was more considerate to me. I told myself that I couldn't make any more mistakes. So, I put all my energy into Ah's body and take care of everything at home. However, some things are beyond our control. A net friend asked me to meet him. He is good at making women happy. We have a room, and then have sex ... This time, Quan has already made the divorce agreement, waiting for me to sign it. A few days ago, my mother heard that we were going to divorce and came from my hometown to persuade me. I know she is good for me, but I don't like her, let alone listen to her. Speaking of which, today's situation also has something to do with her. My mother is beautiful and capable, and I have relied on her since I was a child. My father is very busy. Although he will accompany me whenever he is free, he spends more time at work. /kloc-when I was 0/0 years old, I found my mother betrayed my father. My mother said to me seriously, "Don't tell your father! Say it, no one will want you! Do you want to see our divorce? " I nodded a few times in horror. After that, I can't help but go against my mother. A few times, I made her cry. Besides, I found that my father was still very busy and didn't notice my mother's secret at all. I think my father is also very sad. After understanding the love between men and women, I can understand my mother, but I can't get along with her. This time she advised me to cherish marriage, so I deliberately stimulated her: "Mind your own business first ..." She turned red and white and went back to her hometown. I'll think about it. I am really unlucky. I don't have a good relationship with my mother, and my husband is leaving me. I also want to live a quiet life, but how can happiness be so difficult? Interviewer: Tao Wei, male, 28 years old. I like Fangfang because she is simple. I can't imagine that she will cuckold me many times. Fangfang works in a public institution, which is more leisure. And I'm in sales, and I often have to travel. Because I am busy, I always feel that I owe her a lot, and I always feel that it is my dereliction of duty not to take good care of her. So, when Fangfang proposed to go to the gym two years ago, I contacted the club without saying anything. Fangfang had an affair at that time. The coach's wife came to the door and pointed at my nose and scolded, "Take care of you slut!" "She actually" practiced "in bed with the coach! I really want to slap myself. What's this called? I asked her to go to the gym, but it turned out that she deserved it. Finally, the slap fell on Fangfang's face. That was the first time I hit her and drove her back to her parents' house. During Fangfang's absence, I was so sad that I went crazy. I kept asking myself, "Do you still love her? Aren't you responsible? "Wanted to think, I would rather believe that she was too lonely, but I was too careless to let her make a mistake. I forgave Fangfang when she cried and begged me. I changed my job again and spent more time with her. She is also gentle and considerate to me. Sometimes she washes my feet and massages me. But only three months later, Fangfang "had an accident" again. At that time, I was attending a colleague's birthday party in a bar, and I overheard laughter coming from another private room, which sounded like Fangfang. Through the half-open door, I clearly saw Fangfang leaning in the arms of a strange man. I was cheated at that time and couldn't believe what I saw. Because before I left, she told me to drink less and go home early. I didn't expect her to fool around with another man just after I left. So, I lied and went home early. I was very angry and smoked one cigarette after another in the living room. It's too much to think that I quit my well-paid job for her and she's not satisfied. At two o'clock in the morning, Fangfang went home. She smelled of alcohol and flushed. Seeing that I didn't sleep, she was frightened and stammered that she was drinking with a classmate she hadn't seen for a long time. Seeing that I didn't talk, she panicked even more. She plopped down in front of me and told me everything. When I filed for divorce, Fangfang burst into tears and hugged me tightly. After a long time, I calmed down, sighed and said, "Why bother? "When I said this, my heart was bleeding and my smoking hand was shaking. She cried bitterly: "I love you the most! "I know I was wrong, give me another chance ..." She cried and hit her face, her mouth bleeding. I'm soft again. I think, as long as I treat her twice as well in the future, there should be no next time. Indeed, Fangfang has performed better than before. She cooks breakfast for me every morning. When I came home from work, she also prepared food. I'm glad I was rational, otherwise, I would have regretted it. Unexpectedly, I still regret it. Last month, Fangfang actually hooked up with netizens again. When she went to take a bath, her cell phone rang. I took it with my hand and found it was an ambiguous message. So I looked through her previous messages and found that she had a room with a man. When the other person asked her how she felt, she said that she was comfortable and had no shame ... I was completely devastated. I forgave her again and again, but she pushed her luck even further. She said she was lonely, so I changed my job to accompany her. She said she was bored, so I bought her a computer. Besides, I have tried not to work overtime. What else can I do? My heart is so cold. The next day, I consulted my lawyer about the divorce. When I went out, Fangfang habitually took my hand. Although I finally got rid of her, at that moment, my heart hurt.