Inspirational article on educating children: Habit and accomplishment are people's second identity.
Author: Sun Shengqi
Zhang Jun came back from studying in England, and some of our friends gave a banquet to welcome him. During the dinner, a friend's indecent mantra made him very unhappy and showed disgust several times. On the way home from the banquet, I explained to my friends that buzzwords are just meaningless language habits, and once you get used to them, you won't feel anything. Zhang Jun was silent for a while and said, Let me tell you something about my first experience in England. ?
Like most international students from China in Bristol, I live in local residents' homes, which saves money and provides good living conditions.
The landlord's surname is Campbell, an elderly couple. Mr. and Mrs. Campbell are warm and generous to others. They only charged me a few pounds for rent symbolically and forced me to leave my neighbor's house. Rob? Come here. It is a very proud thing for them to have a foreign student living at home. They not only let the whole community know about it, but also called their children in Manchester and London.
In order to realize my dream of studying abroad, my parents owe hundreds of thousands. I naturally cherish this hard-won learning opportunity, and it is common to stay in the library until it closes at night. Fortunately, I met a good boss, so I can concentrate on my studies and don't have to worry about life at all. I will arrive every day? Home? In the kitchen, delicious food is waiting for me Every four or five days, Mrs. Campbell will force me to change clothes, and then wash and iron the dirty clothes. It can be said that they treat me like their own son.
However, it didn't take long for me to feel that Mr. Campbell's attitude towards me became cold and he looked at me a little differently. At dinner several times, Mr. Campbell seemed to have something to say to me, but he looked at his wife and swallowed back. I began to wonder, do they think my rent is too small, and I am embarrassed to say that I want to increase it?
That night 1 1 came back from school after midnight and just wanted to undress, wash and go to bed. Mr. Campbell crept into my room. After a few pleasantries, Mr Campbell sat in his chair and began to speak. It seems that he is finally going to say what he is holding in his heart. I am prepared, as long as I can afford it, I will promise him how much rent to increase. After all, such a master can't be found everywhere.
? Children? Mr Campbell said? In your home in China, when you come home in the middle of the night, whether your parents are asleep or not, do you slam the door, crack and cough loudly?
I froze: is this what he is holding in his heart?
I said:? I don't know, maybe. Really, I have never been asked a similar question in my life, and I have never paid attention to it myself? Details? .
? I believe you didn't mean it. ? Mr Campbell said with a smile. My wife has insomnia. Wake her up every night when you come back. Once she wakes up, it's hard to fall asleep again. So, I will be very happy if you can be quiet when you come back in the evening. ? Mr. Campbell paused and then said, in fact, I wanted to remind you a long time ago, but my wife kept me from saying it for fear of hurting your self-esteem. You are a sensible child. You won't take my kind reminder as hurting your self-esteem, will you?
I nodded reluctantly. I don't think what Mr. Campbell said is wrong or hurts my self-esteem, but I think he is a little haggle over every ounce. I have lived with my parents for more than 20 years, and they have never cared about such things with me. If I disturb them for this reason, of course, they will tolerate me, at most, just close my bedroom door. I sighed in my heart: after all, it is not my home!
Of course, despite my complaints, I accepted Mr. Campbell's reminder and went back to the house as quietly as possible at night.
However, one afternoon shortly after I came back from school, I just sat down in my room and Mr. Campbell followed me. I noticed his gloomy face, which is rare.
? Son, you may not be happy, but I still have to ask. He asked you not to lift the toilet seat when you urinate.
My heart? Hit someone? Let me know. I admit, sometimes I pee tight, or I am lazy and don't open the toilet seat when I pee.
? Occasionally? I mumbled a word.
? How to do this? Cried Mr Campbell. Didn't you know you would spill urine on the mat? This is not only unsanitary, but also disrespectful to others, especially women! ?
I implore: I don't mean to disrespect others at all. I didn't mean to?
? Of course, I believe you didn't mean it, but that shouldn't be the reason for you to do so! ?
Looking at Mr. Campbell's red face, I muttered, such a trivial matter won't make you so angry, will it?
Mr. Campbell is more and more excited: consideration, care and respect for others are the minimum qualities of a person, and the qualities are reflected in small things. It is important for children to get a degree and a good position, but good habits are as important as self-cultivation when getting along with others. If education or position represents a person's identity, then habits and self-cultivation are a person's second identity, and people will judge a person by it. ?
I was impatient, so I picked up a book and flipped through it. I think Mr Campbell is too harsh. If this kind of thing is in China, is it still a matter?
In the evening, I lay in bed thinking for a long time and decided to leave Campbell's house. Since they don't like me, why don't I compare with my family? Tolerance? People live in.
The next day, I said goodbye to Mr. and Mrs. Campbell, regardless of their efforts to stay. However, what happened next surprised me.
I went to five or six houses in a row, and they all received me with the same question: I heard that you urinated without opening the toilet seat, so I realized that this was an incredibly serious matter for any of them. As you can imagine, faced with such a problem, I had to hide and run away in shame.
At this moment, I understood what Mr. Campbell said? Habit and cultivation are people's second identity? This sentence. In people's eyes, I am not only an international student receiving higher education in China, but also a humble and uneducated person.
I don't blame the campbells for putting mine. Bad habits? Spread everywhere, on the contrary, in such a predicament, my resentment against them has disappeared, and I am even grateful to them. Without them and that embarrassing experience, I don't know if it would be so boring. Informal? What is unknown is that there is an ugly mantra on my lips!
Zhang Jun's story is finished, but I am lost in thought and cultivate good living habits. Why wait until you grow up and come to a foreign country to learn these courses that should have been completed in your youth? Even if Zhang Jun didn't meet Mr Campbell, he might never learn! How much is missing from our education?
Inspirational articles on educating children: What is a good family and what is a good education?
She went to Qiming and Zhenhua when she was a child, and went to Tsinghua and Oxford when she grew up. She grew up in a famous school. Good education? Almost for life; Growing up in an enlightened family and education? New woman? Instead, marry into the in-laws who need to pay their respects? Traditional family, but still love her husband for life. It can be said that Mr. Jiang Yang's life is legendary. No matter how hard his fate is, he will always be filled with an upward spirit of no regrets. When I am old, my face is calm and calm, emitting a different temperament.
Mr. Qian Zhongshu's daughter Qian Yuan is also a talented woman. She used to be an English professor at Beijing Normal University. Although 1997 she died, she died. The three of us? This story has been passed down to this day and touched countless people.
So, in Mr. Jiang Yang's eyes, what kind of education is this? Mr. Good Education gave his own answer.
A good education plays an important role in setting an example.
I see. Good education? The first is to stimulate people's interest in learning, awareness of learning, cultivate people's self-motivation, guide people to learn and constantly improve themselves. It is necessary to educate students subtly and let them be influenced subtly. In this regard, the role of example is very important, and words are not as good as examples.
I myself was influenced by my parents, and I changed from naughty to studious.
Dad speaks well and eloquently, and Shen Bao's comments are one after another, full of heroism and playing all over the floor. I admire and am curious. I want to know the secret. Father said: What is the secret? Read more books, just read good books. ? My mother always leafs through classical literature and modern novels when she is free, and reads them with relish. I learned from them and asked my father to collect books to read. It's really interesting. Since then, I have been fascinated by reading and reading good books.
Dad was appointed as the director of the office of Shi Jing High Procuratorate. Because he insisted on hearing the bribery case of Xu Shiying, the minister of communications, he would rather be dismissed by Beiyang government, which protected officials. When he was the president of the Jiangsu Provincial High Court, a warlord went to Shanghai, and the local gentry jointly ran a newspaper to welcome him. His father's name was also included in the welcome list of subordinates. Dad doesn't welcome warlords, saying? Name and device can't be dummies? Immediately put a notice in the newspaper stating that he is not welcome. During the occupation of Shanghai, his father Lu Yu became an acquaintance of the traitors, turning a blind eye, so it was rumored that Yang was blind.
Dad never tells us what to do. I learned this through his actions. Wealth can't be lewd, poverty can't be moved, and power can't be bent? The true meaning of the old adage.
We have never educated our daughter Qian Yuan. She saw that Zhong Shu and I both liked reading and learned from others. She took a book and followed the example, and gradually became enlightened. She learned a foreign language and had a difficult word. She looked through three dictionaries and didn't look them up. She came to ask her father, but Zhong Shu didn't tell her, so she kept looking. She found the fifth dictionary, and found it.
Stay with children, let them play, let them learn.
Zhong Shu never shows his father's majesty. He is more naughty than his daughter.
Yuan used to say when he was a child:? My father and I are best friends. We are two urchins of my mother. My father is not worthy to be my brother, he can only be my brother. ?
Once, on a hot day, A Yuan slept with her belly exposed, and drew a big face on her belly. I scolded her and dared not draw any more. He buries himself under his daughter's bed every night before going to bed? Mines? He buried toys, mirrors, brushes, even inkstones or many brushes. When his daughter exclaimed, he was so happy that he couldn't wait to put the broom and dustpan on her bed. The daughter must search carefully before going to bed and take out everything in the quilt. It's no fun to play with this kind of thing every day, but Zhong Shu enjoys it.
In addition to teasing her daughter, Zhong Shu also taught her English words with potential to be tapped, and also taught some French and German words, mostly rude words with fart and shit. When friends came, Zhong Shu let her daughter show off. ? I answered like a starling, and all the guests laughed. I thought I was? Erudite? I can't help feeling smug, and my nose is turned up. ? A Yuan wrote in the book.
When Zhong wrote Fortress Besieged, he told his daughter that there was an ugly child in it, and that was her. A Yuan believed it, but she didn't care. Later, he wrote "Heart of Lily", saying that there was a girl who was the most annoying. At this time, Ah Yuan grew up a little. She was afraid that her father would wronged her and would peek at his manuscript every day, so Qian Zhongshu would hide it in another place every day. One hides, the other looks, and it becomes a game of hide and seek. Later, even I didn't know where the manuscript was hidden.
? The madness of Zhong Shu? It's weird, too He said to me seriously: if we have another child, it may be better than Ayuan, and we will like that child. How can we be worthy of Ayuan? ? Advocating the theory that one parent has one child has never mentioned that parents only have one child to be single-minded. ?
I don't know much about modern education I read in the newspaper that the artist Han Meilin made a painting and gave it to two or three-year-old children. The children went back happily and soon brought the painting for Han Meilin to sign. I asked him why he signed it. The children said: this painting is only valuable if you sign it! ? It's a pity that such a young child is influenced by bad social atmosphere. Shouldn't the education of values attract attention?
A good family needs a good relationship between husband and wife.
Qian Zhongshu and I are like-minded couples. We are attracted to each other because we both love literature and are obsessed with reading. Zhong Shu said he? I don't have lofty aspirations, just want to contribute my life and study. ? This is the same as my interest.
I love my husband more than myself. I understand the value of Qian Zhongshu, and I am willing to sacrifice myself for the success of his research and writing career and the full play of his potential and creativity. This love is not blind, but understanding. The deeper you know, the better your feelings. Only by understanding each other can we consciously support each other.
The poet Xin Di said that Qian Zhongshu had? Wife fetish? Zhong Shu really appreciates me. Both my efforts in life and my translation and writing have given me a lot of encouragement, which is also the foundation of love. Similarly, I am very concerned about and familiar with Qian Zhongshu's works. 1989, Huang Shuqin wanted to put his Fortress Besieged on the screen and came to my house to discuss how to highlight the theme. I think we should express the main connotation of Fortress Besieged, and immediately wrote two sentences to her, that is, people in the city want to escape and people outside the city want to rush in. For marriage and career. Most of the wishes in life are like this.
What does that mean? The meaning of Fortress Besieged refers not only to Fang Hung-chien's marriage, but also to some sad factors in human nature, that is, dissatisfaction with his own situation. Qian Zhongshu agrees with my generalization and analysis. Do you think this keyword? Really win my heart? .
I'm an old man, I'm just saying some old sayings. For the times, I am a laggard, and I have no good words to contribute to modern marriage. Just in the materialistic trend of the times, I want to remind young friends that the most important thing in the combination of men and women is affection, and the degree of mutual understanding between the two sides can only be mutual attraction, mutual support and mutual encouragement, two of a kind. In my opinion, the most important thing between husband and wife is friendship. Even if you can't be intimate friends, you should be friends who can be partners or partners who respect each other. It doesn't matter whether you are suitable or not.
Inspirational article to educate children: liberal arts are rich in learning.
Author: Shan Zhichao
About a year ago, I published the article "Liberal Arts is for the Rich". After this article was published, it caused some controversy.
Some people think that I despise the difficulty of science and think that science is as simple as doing high school exercises. This kind? Think? Obviously, this is a misunderstanding. I am a doctor of mathematics in Peking University, and I have a certain understanding of the difficulty of mathematics. Others questioned a sentence in my article. What can poor parents know about literature, history, philosophy, economics, sociology and political science? They said: Which of them? Literature? Replace with? Quantum mechanics, quantum field theory? It is still valid.
My point is that anyone with higher education should study literature, history, philosophy, economics and social sciences. In fact, many universities at home and abroad have set up relevant elective courses, and the way of thinking of these subjects has an impact on students' future work and life. And then what? Quantum mechanics, quantum field theory? It's too high. I haven't heard of any university offering similar elective courses for non-related majors. Learning this kind of course or not should have little influence on the development of life. So the people who questioned me? Literature? With what? Quantum mechanics, quantum field theory? It is not appropriate to put it in an equal position.
I think I should reiterate and discuss my point of view. First of all, I put? Poor people? And then what? Rich people? The opposition, to be more precise, is set to? Vulnerable families? And then what? A strong family? The opposition. ? Vulnerable families? Usually the economic conditions are difficult or average, the education level is low, and the household registration is usually in rural areas or small and medium-sized cities; ? A strong family? Usually the economic conditions are rich or good, the education level is high, and the household registration is usually a big city.
My opinion is: for all subjects, disadvantaged families? Some children want to achieve some academic status (such as becoming a university professor). A strong family? Children are at a disadvantage; But for science and engineering, this disadvantage is not so obvious; For literature and history, this disadvantage is extremely obvious.
My point of view is this: do we take the person whose intelligence is higher than that of the general population and who is interested in academics? Vulnerable families? Children and one? A strong family? Children together, I think the possibility that they will become scholars (such as university professors) in the future depends on? Things? And then what? People? Conditions. And science and engineering are affected? Things? And then what? People? The influence of conditions is slightly lower.
Let's watch first, shall we? Things? Conditions.
First of all, we admit that learning all subjects requires reading, and it is impossible to learn without reading. And then what? Vulnerable families? The collection of books is obviously lower than that? A strong family? . For liberal arts, two children aged 18 may have great differences in reading, so their cognitive ability to society is also great.
But science and engineering, I'll take my professional mathematics as an example. Mathematics is a subject that must be studied in order, which is different from liberal arts. If you don't learn high school mathematics well, it is impossible to understand college mathematics, or it is superficial to barely understand it. Except for a few mathematical geniuses, they already have a certain understanding of modern mathematics in middle school. Most mathematics students enter the university, and their understanding of modern mathematics is probably zero, no matter where he or she comes from? Vulnerable families? , or from? A strong family? .
So even if a student comes from? Vulnerable families? I didn't know anything about modern mathematics before I went to college, but it is very difficult to study hard and become a famous scholar step by step after I went to college, but it is still possible to be a professor in an ordinary university.
See again? People? Conditions.
Learning must be led by someone and discussed with you. This kind of people are mainly teachers and parents. Tell me about the teacher. As for teachers, I believe there are many good science teachers in middle schools and even small and medium-sized cities. Or even if the teacher is not a famous teacher, if he is competent, it is enough to explain the mathematics and physics in middle school clearly. If students are interested, they should devote more energy, do more problems and think more, which is enough for future academic development!
But this is not the case with liberal arts. First of all, we have to say that the development of liberal arts in China is lagging behind, and there are far fewer good teachers in liberal arts than in science. Moreover, liberal arts need a lot of reading, and most of the liberal arts teachers in middle schools are not so interested, busy taking care of their children, and their academic level is not high. Many middle school liberal arts teachers in backward areas basically sort out the things in the books, sort out the structure, string them together and then repeat them in class. Students may not even ask a little basic knowledge, let alone communicate in depth.
To sum up the above paragraph, it is the internal differences among teachers, and liberal arts are stronger than science. Who likes a good liberal arts teacher? A: Children in big cities. So there's reason to think? A strong family? Relative? Vulnerable families? It is more likely to meet a good liberal arts teacher.
Besides teachers, there are also parents. I think the vast majority? Vulnerable families? Parents have poor cognitive ability to society. First, most of them live in small and medium-sized cities and engage in very ordinary jobs. They know nothing about high-end jobs, such as academic research or more complicated economic and political activities. Is it themselves? The toad in the well can only see the palm-sized day? . In this case, how can they lead their children to have a macro and overall understanding of this society?
Second, they are eager to let their children improve their social status, so right? Study? This matter takes a utilitarian attitude, educating children that studying before going to college is for the college entrance examination and studying after going to college is for employment. As for learning, it is to better understand the world, and learning is an inherent need of people. They still can't reach this height.
Third, their own cultural level is low, so their level of understanding is limited to intuitive things, and they simply can't understand abstract metaphysical problems, and naturally they won't talk about them.
For the above reasons, I still hold the original view: disadvantaged families? If our children are interested in climbing academic peaks, there is still a chance in science, engineering and liberal arts. I dare not say no, but they are at a greater disadvantage.