There are two children at home, the eldest daughter is nine years old and the second daughter is two years old. The original intention of giving birth to Erbao is to make Dabao have a companion and make the family atmosphere warmer. As I wish, Bauer was born, Dabao had company, and the family atmosphere was really warm. As Bauer grows up day by day, she tells us with her own words and actions that she is a brand-new individual and we need to find, understand and take care of her wholeheartedly. As a result, new problems emerge one after another. There are many stories about two children under one roof, some are ridiculous, some are angry, some are tearful and some are inspirational. In the process of accompanying two children, Ma, who used to be engaged in the education industry, felt it necessary to record these growth stories, inspire himself to think, and make the life of having two children at home endless!
The fifth chapter and small
These days, the weather has suddenly turned cold. Mom posted a photo of snow in her hometown on WeChat. It seems that the snow is not small, and it is thick. Many people made snowmen of different shapes in front of and behind their houses. Dabao is very excited to see the photo of the snowman, and he is looking forward to a heavy snow when he goes to his grandmother's house next year. Cute girl's little mind!
Bauer woke up after a nap, and it was already 4: 30 in the afternoon. The little guy just got up and went out to drill. I held her and surrounded her with a small quilt. She grinned and wanted to cry, but she didn't cry. Her red face wrinkled with facial features and shouted, "Go! Go! " I asked her, "Where are you going?" "Go outside." I know what she means. She is going to see if Dabao has come home from school. I helped her put on her shoes and carried her to her sister's room. Dabao is doing his homework and will say hello to Bauer later. Bauer grinned. She struggled to get down from my arms and ran to see her sister doing her homework. I hurried to my room to get Bauer's coat. Just then, the phone rang. It's my respected elder, and I have to answer. I handed Bao Bauer's coat and asked her to help her sister dress. Dabao gladly led the life. I went into the living room to answer the phone.
In the room, Dabao wants to dress Bauer, but Bauer refuses to wear it. Dabao patiently advised her to wear a coat as soon as she woke up, which was easy to catch a cold, especially uncomfortable when she caught a cold, and she would also take injections and take medicine. "Come on, get dressed quickly, and my sister will help. Come on, you'll catch a cold, come on! " Dabao had good intentions, but Bauer was indifferent. Dabao is still a child under the age of ten after all, and his patience is extremely limited. In less than three minutes, she became impatient. "Hum, don't wear it, I'll tell my mother." Then I saw the angry Dabao coming out. I quickly ended the call and said to Dabao, "Try on your coat first, and then let her put it on." Hearing this, the impatient Dabao immediately knew that there was a game. Back to my room, I picked up the coat hanging on the back of the chair and put it on. As I put it on, I said, "Look, my sister is wearing a condom. Mao Mao also put it on! " Bauer paused, watched Dabao put on her clothes, zipped up, and then picked up her coat and put it on her body. It's a pity that she only put one sleeve for a long time, and it can't be worn well. When I was in a hurry, I shouted, "Sister, come and help!" Dabao smiled and went over to help Bauer get dressed and zip up. "Thank you, Sister!" Bauer has always been polite. Thank you. Dabao's task was successfully completed, and he made a victory gesture to me.
This incident reminds me of the word "lead by example". What's special is that all the cases and examples here were carried out by my nine-year-old sister, and I didn't take part in them, or I was my sister's "strategist", helping her to make suggestions when she was in trouble, and she completed the task independently. Personally, with two children at home, it is very meaningful to mobilize the enthusiasm of the eldest and the second to participate in activities together.
First, raising young children can exercise Dabao's patience, care and love. Nine-year-old Dabao often complains: "Sister is so annoying!" I know her complaint is well-founded. For example, Dabao is folding small stars, and Bauer wants to join in. When he was two years old, Bauer destroyed Dabao's star paper one by one, pink and blue, and the stars were stacked one by one, and the paper was badly rubbed. Dabao is also a child, and her endurance is extremely limited, but I find that since she started to take care of Bauer, Dabao's patience is increasing day by day, not only to take care of her sister, but also to study. I used to meet a B-level math problem, so I asked for help without thinking about myself at first. Now she will think for herself. Even if it takes a long time, she will try to find a way to answer by herself. If she can't do it, she will tell me her thoughts first so that I can inspire her to think correctly. This change in Dabao makes me very happy! As mothers, we all know the triviality and hardship of raising children. So, as a big sister, has Dabao been honed in the process of cultivating Bauer? The answer should be yes. I vaguely remember reading the comic book San Mao Wandering when I was a child. There is a page where San Mao helps to take care of two children in someone else's house. A child fell, and Sanmao put the child in her arms down to help the fallen child. He bent down and pursed his ass and hit the child who had just put it down. Originally, only one child was crying, but now two children are crying at the same time, which led to Sanmao being scolded by the hostess of that family. No matter how pitiful Sanmao is here, I just want to say that it is not particularly reliable for children to take care of children, so there must be a degree. First of all, it can't last long. A short ten minutes is generally no problem, but a long one is definitely not good. Secondly, we should take Bao Xiao with us when Dabao wants to. If Dabao is in a bad mood, it is best not to bring a small one.
Second, by taking Bao Xiao, Dabao will consciously correct his bad behavior habits. My Dabao always doesn't like to pack things. Things are in a mess. Once, I asked her to take Bao Xiao to play for a while, and they actually tore napkins to play. Smashed napkins and scattered them all over the house, saying it was snowing. When I am busy, I will go to Bauer and find scraps of paper everywhere. Tell them to clean up. Bauer happily went to get his broom, and Dabao sat at his desk reading! Bauer swept for a while alone with a small broom. He was dismayed to find that he couldn't clean it. He looked up and saw his sister reading a book, so he ran to pull her skirt. "Sister, sweep the floor!" Dabao doesn't move. Bauer thought for a moment and said solemnly, "Sister, sweep the floor. Not clean, my mother won't let me play next time. " Dabao makes sense when he hears this. He quickly got up to get a big broom and dustpan to clean together, and soon it was clean. Since then, Dabao has gradually revised his behavior habits through getting along with his sister, such as not procrastinating and losing his temper. Because Dabao told me privately, "If you don't have good habits, you can't be a good role model for your sister." Before going to bed tonight, two sisters are building blocks. When I told them to wash up and get ready for bed, I heard the conversation between the two sisters:
"Mao Mao, shall we put away the toys together?"
"ok."
"You put the building blocks in the bucket and give them to your sister. Will your sister put them in the box? "
"ok."
So, I looked out and saw two sisters cooperating to collect toys, and my heart was warm.
Third, raising children makes Bao Xiaoming understand that in this world, besides her parents, the person who loves her most is her sister. One thing happened last year, which made me severely criticize Dabao. Bao Xiao scratched several scratches in Dabao's exercise book. Dabao was so angry that he even started hitting Bao Xiao, which frightened Bao Xiao. After calming Bao Xiao down, I decided to have a good talk with Dabao. I asked Dabao, "If your schoolbag and your sister fall into the puddle at the same time, which one do you care about first?" Dabao muttered and replied, "Go and get the schoolbag first. Because there are books and homework in the bag. These things are very important to me. " Just as I expected. So I said to her sternly, "Mom must tell you that the most important thing in the world is people, not anything. If your sister and your schoolbag fall into a puddle, what you have to do is to save your sister at the first time, not anything, understand? In this world, when people leave, they will never come back. If things are gone, people can still create, understand? " Probably scared by my fierce attitude, Dabao cried. I put my arm around her shoulder and told her, "You and your sister are my mother's most precious treasures, and any other material things are not important to my mother. So are you. Remember, for you, you should cherish your life and health, and cherish the life and health of the people you love. Compared with human life and health, everything can be sidelined. " This topic about life is very heavy. I don't know how much Dabao can understand, but I hope she can remember this sentence at this age and practice it at a critical moment, so as to understand that this sentence is true. Dabao and Bauer are related by blood. If his parents are temporarily absent, Dabao must be Bauer's closest relative and partner.
Fourth, raise young children, so that busy Erbao mothers can have a rest and understand and observe the growth of the two children from the perspective of a bystander. The authorities are confused, and the bystanders are clear. Family affairs are chaotic and complicated, which often exhausts Bauer's mother. Faced with two lively and quick-thinking children, there is often a sense of frustration. So, between Dabao's help and Bao Xiao's help, I will have to observe the two children from a bystander's point of view to understand their language, psychology and behavior, and then I am surprised to find how ignorant the adults who have been boasting that they know the world better than their children are, thus strengthening their determination to grow up with their children.
"My life is limited, but my knowledge is limited. With infinity, it's almost there! " I can feel my ignorance from my two children, and I will continue to study and think, not only for them, but also for myself.