The child ignores your conversation with her. If it is not attractive, she will ignore it.

This is normal. Babies will call their parents, indicating that there is no obstacle to language. Some babies talk early, and some babies talk late, which will not affect their intelligence. It is worrying that the child can't talk at the age of two. The average child can say a few words at the age of one. However, this is not entirely correct. Few children who start talking at the age of four are still very smart in the future. There are several situations in which children can't speak: 1, hearing problems, inability to hear others clearly, or no sound at all will affect their speech. 2. Lack of language environment. Everyone in the family is very busy, so he has no time to teach him to speak, and his family seldom speaks, which makes him live in a poor language environment and can't speak. 3. It belongs to the category of "speaking late", that is to say, speaking late. 4, mental retardation, which is a relatively common situation. Judging from your child's situation, you can rule out the first and second kinds, so it is likely to belong to the third or fourth kind. ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? Only when children have interest and initiative can their language intelligence be fully developed and brought into play. Might as well create a good language environment for children and let him develop naturally. Four keys to developing children's language intelligence How to develop children's language intelligence? According to the characteristics and laws of children's language learning, psychologists and educators have the following suggestions: First, keep children curious about language. People with high linguistic intelligence have a prominent feature: they are curious about language, they like language, and they show excellent sense of language and appreciation of language. In fact, babies born for several months are very sensitive to sound stimuli. When his relatives talk to him, they will respond positively by smiling and moving their hands and feet. Children with high linguistic intelligence are sensitive to pronunciation, rhythm and intonation; Love graffiti; Like listening, reading and telling stories; Speak clearly and methodically. If parents attach importance to and guide these intelligent qualities of language, they can keep their children curious and sensitive to language. Second, the earlier language intelligence is developed, the better. Why did a newborn who could only cry at birth learn his mother tongue and master such a complicated and rigorous language in just two or three years? Visible language as a kind of intelligence and potential. The sooner you develop it, the better. Prenatal education workers even advocate talking to the fetus and calling his name when hearing appears in the fifth month of pregnancy. However, early educators suggested that language communication should be integrated into life care from the first day of the baby's birth, which has a very important potential role. When the baby "speaks" for 3-5 months, let him make an export response and make a sound response. When he starts learning English in 8-9 months, he should make a positive response and express his needs in words. At the age of 1, we should constantly encourage him to speak words and telegrams, and gradually let him speak word sentences and double sentences until the sentences are complete. Babies are a critical period for the development of spoken English. The language development process from simple sentences (15-20 months) to complex sentences (18-24 months) to simple sentences and grammar mastery (2-3 years old) is inseparable from the guidance of adults for a moment, because it is impossible to develop language intelligence without pronunciation. Third, create an environment for developing language intelligence. The language environment of infants and young children is a mutual communication situation composed of adults and infants. Adults' concern for the development of children's language intelligence and the spontaneous tendency of children's own speech activities create a dynamic environment for children's own participation. The ideal family environment for developing language includes: 1, placing toys, articles and materials that children are interested in, so that children can learn to say their names and functions in exploration; 2. Take children out of their homes to shops, zoos and parks, observe, experience, enrich and enrich their experiences from various occasions, and increase their desire to learn and express; 3. Encourage children to communicate with others, because the development of language intelligence is an irresistible feature of human beings. When children want to express, negative words turn into positive words, and it is possible to hear and say them; 4. Let children listen to children's radio and watch children's TV to form a book environment for parents and children to read together. While learning and appreciating literary language, they can stimulate children to express their wishes and develop language intelligence. The occurrence and development of language is an advanced function of human brain. In addition to the normal language environment, a well-developed brain is needed to play its language intelligence function. Therefore, it is of great significance for the development of language intelligence to let brain cells get scientific nutrition. Many studies show that what adults say to children is different from what they say to adults, and it is usually called "child-to-child language" or "mother tongue". Its main features are simplicity and exaggeration. If the tone is slow, exaggerated and repetitive; There are more notional words than function words, fewer modifiers and fewer pronouns; Sentences are shorter, simple sentences are more, complex sentences are less, declarative sentences are less, interrogative sentences and imperative sentences are more, sentences point to current things and so on. It is generally believed that these characteristics of children's language are helpful to children's language development, such as strengthening children's attention, helping children identify pronunciation, enabling children to break down sentence units well, and possibly helping children acquire corresponding grammar. In infancy, the mother's language for children is particularly important. It is helpful to promote and maintain the baby's attention, adjust the baby's arousal level, communicate the emotion between mother and baby, and promote the baby's associative learning and information processing. After the child is two and a half years old, these characteristics are not obvious. Studies have shown that babies are particularly sensitive to their mothers' voice types. Some mothers have obvious language characteristics, and their children's language has made rapid progress; However, some mothers' language characteristics are not obvious, and what they say to their children is too formal, the sentences are too long and the vocabulary is too abstract, which makes it difficult for children to understand or not understand, so they simply don't pay attention to their mother's words. The language development of these children is slow. Research shows that words just above children's own language level can attract children's attention most. Therefore, what matters is not how many words are said to the children, but how many words the children can understand. Children and parents are a complete dynamic system. What kind of words and tone parents use when talking to their children will be influenced by their understanding ability. Generally speaking, parents always cut their own words and let their children understand their parents' words at their own language level. When children don't understand, parents will correct their words; If children understand, parents will say more complicated things. Therefore, it can be said that parents' speech to their children depends in part on their reaction, and children are active participants. Therefore, children with fast language development will inevitably make their parents overestimate their abilities and communicate with them easily in a way close to adults, so children will easily become precocious. It can be seen from daily life that the maturity of children is related to the language characteristics of mothers. We often use our own way to understand and communicate with our children. The unexpected answer of our children makes us suddenly realize that what we say is not the same thing as what our children understand, and sometimes it is even a hundred thousand miles away. If adults let children eat more meat, they can grow muscles, but children seriously say, "I want to grow not only chicken, but also duck and beef ..." Children's understanding is often very specific and true, ignoring the metaphors and symbols implied in language. For example, after singing the song "Good Morning Teacher", my mother asked, "Does the teacher look like my mother?" Children over the age of 5 often answer "no" and further compare kindergarten teachers and mothers: from the head shape, whether the hair is neat or not to the size of eyes. Mother further asked, "What are the similarities between teachers and mothers?" The child replied, "They are all beautiful." After a while, my mother inspired me and said, "Is the teacher as good to the children as her mother?" The child replied, "No, it's because we are quiet in class and are better for the teacher that we are called to sing like this." "Teachers are not as good as mothers, and mothers are better than teachers." This shows that children over 5 years old can't understand this metaphor. His thinking is very specific. His mother is his own mother, and his teacher is the teacher he met in kindergarten. Is it like he can't understand the relationship between teachers and mothers in an abstract way just by looking at them? Emphasizing the importance of child-oriented language does not mean that adults should always speak like children. In fact, with the growth of children's age and the continuous improvement of their understanding ability, there will be fewer and fewer children's languages for adults. The key is that we need to pay attention to whether children understand what we want to say and whether what we say is what children want to hear, rather than talking to themselves. If we turn simple teaching into dialogue and have more opportunities to listen to children, then we can communicate more effectively, and it is easier to look at problems from the standpoint of children and adjust our language. Parents also need to pay attention to the emotional communication with their children. Communication here not only refers to talking, but also includes body language (such as gestures), feelings (such as smiling) and eye contact. Emotional development is the basis of cognitive development, and all intelligence develops on this basis. Did you communicate with the baby today? When the baby is born, parents must be looking forward to a bright future while they are full of joy. Parents want their baby to be smart and healthy. The secret is to communicate with your baby more emotionally. Many parents will ask, the baby can't talk, doesn't understand anything, and what to communicate with him. Don't underestimate our baby. In fact, they have the ability to see, listen, imitate and touch at birth. Therefore, in the face of this new member of the family, parents should never ignore the communication with the newborn baby. This will play a very important role in the future development of baby's language communication and interpersonal skills. Communication mode: look at each other, hug, talk, touch, sign language ▲ Usually, the baby's eyes will look around or fall asleep, but once he sees his mother's kind face, he will become very excited and will always look at her with wide eyes, because the baby knows that her mother is their most amiable person. Therefore, mothers should always look at the baby face to face and communicate with the baby with gentle and kind words. Babies will stare at you affectionately, listen to you, and sometimes open their mouths to show cute smiles. The best distance to stare at the baby's eyes is about 20 ~ 30 cm. A mother can talk to her baby while slowly moving her face, so that her baby's head and eyes can follow your face. This action can exercise the baby's sensitivity, and regular training will be extremely beneficial to the baby's intellectual and sensory development. ▲ Crying is an important form for a baby to actively communicate with his parents, and it is one of the main means for him to express his needs and communicate with the outside world. There are many reasons why babies cry, such as hunger and disease. Different crying also represents different needs of babies. Parents should carefully distinguish and understand their needs in time. There is a wrong way to think that a baby should not hug more, otherwise it will form the habit of hugging him. In fact, sometimes baby crying is a sign of being close to parents. In order to make mom and dad hug, parents should never refuse their children at this time. The correct way is to pick up the baby, comfort him and communicate with him. ▲ Although a talking baby can't talk, he is born with hearing ability and can perceive his mother's language. Therefore, every time I feed my baby, change diapers and take a bath, my mother should seize the opportunity to talk to her baby, make more noise, coax her baby and sing nursery rhymes. So as to convey the mother's voice and improve the communication between mother and child. Try to create a rich and emotional language environment for them. Sometimes when you talk to him in a loving tone, he will respond with "ah-ah" silly music; When you laugh, he will giggle at you, and sometimes he will even dance and scratch his feet with joy, which is embarrassing. When he looks at something intently, you can tell him what it is called. Tell him the names of all the things around him that he can see, and let him touch and feel. Listening to all kinds of music and sounds, let him know that the world is vast, wonderful and colorful, all of which need him to explore. You can read and sing to him, not only singing children's songs, but also other soft and pleasant songs. Tell you what you are doing and what he is doing. This is of great benefit to the baby's language learning and intellectual development. Give a warm and timely response to every sound and smile made by the baby. When he makes every sound, you repeat it, which will make him sing, make him happier and encourage him to be more active. More importantly, it can cultivate children's "dialogue" ability and make him familiar with and master the pronunciation, intonation, time interval and rhythm of talking with people. ▲ Gently touching is a kind of love communication, which can make the baby's body and mind healthier. We advocate that it is best to touch the baby from head to toe every day. This massage stimulates the baby's biggest sensory organ-skin, activates the human immune system, and plays an important role in promoting the development of the baby's nervous system, deepening the baby's sleep, promoting the child's digestion and absorption, increasing the weight and intellectual development, especially in the process of touching, deepening the feelings between mother and child. The research shows that the newborn's weight generally increases about 10% after touching, the possibility of congenital anemia is greatly reduced, and the early neurological development is obviously promoted. Moreover, some children with congenital diseases, such as intracranial hemorrhage, cerebral palsy, etc., if they start touching their children after birth, they can stimulate the damaged brain cells, alleviate their illness and help them make progress in a healthy direction. The earlier contact, the better the effect. ▲ Before the sign language baby can speak, parents should take the initiative to communicate with him in sign language. Experts suggest that when the baby is 8 months old, parents can communicate with their children by gestures. A considerable number of children can accept this method quickly, while some children need a certain adaptation period. Don't underestimate these common and very simple gestures. Like language, they are also a way of communication. It can tell parents whether the baby is injured or uncomfortable. Parents can teach their children to send messages to their parents through gestures instead of endless crying. It is found that children who can express their needs in sign language are less likely to feel depressed, learn to speak earlier and have higher IQ than other children in the future. What is even more surprising is that once these children learn to speak in advance, they often have more to say, because in the process of applying sign language, they unconsciously learn the structure of language. Tip: Dad's communication is very important. Don't ignore the role of dad in communicating with the baby. Mothers communicate with their babies more by words and physical contact, while fathers communicate with their babies more by playing. The father should have more intimate contact with the baby, because a strong hug from the father can make the baby feel more secure. Dad gently kisses the baby's rough face, which will make the child have a different skin touch; And dad's humorous words and actions usually win laughter. It is particularly noteworthy that children enter the sensitive period of language learning at about two years old, and this outbreak disappears at two and a half years old. Therefore, it can be said that only this period is the most sensitive period to language in one's life. Don't miss the most sensitive period of baby's language. Just as eager for frequent physical activity, two-year-old children are equally eager for language. It is particularly noteworthy that the age of two is the period of language explosion, but this explosion disappears at the age of two and a half. So it can be said that the period from two years old to two years old and six months is extremely important. You know, only this period is the most sensitive period to language in one's life. In the meantime, we can't talk to children in baby language, because it will lead to language barriers for children. It is precisely because the baby's language is lovely that the nurse says "yes" means "tie", so it is not surprising that the child says "swallow" is "Yanji" and "teacher" is "old Xi". So be sure to talk to your child in a standardized language as much as possible. When you bathe your child, you might as well teach him the names of various parts of your body. Teach him details such as wrists, knees and arms, and ask him, "Where do you want to wash first?" When changing clothes, teach your child the names of clothes, such as "green pants", "red sweater" and "blue skirt". You can also teach him the names of "collar" and "sleeves". Two-year-olds will regard language games as the most interesting games. There are various ways to play this language game. We can ask our children, "What is the red thing in the room?" Let the child say what he sees in red. You can also ask him, "What has the word' Zi' in its name?" Let him say "cup", "table" and "quilt" This kind of question and answer can be used when walking, shopping, in the car and cleaning the room. Through this language game, we can skillfully let children learn to distinguish colors, shapes and sizes. Buy more books for two-year-old children, not for him to read by himself, but for his mother to read to him. As long as children have requirements, they can read five or ten books a day. At this time, intensive reading and reading can be done at the same time. You can read children's favorite books over and over again. If you can't buy so many books economically, you can use the library. If the children of neighbors or friends have grown up, they can also get some books from them. In addition, two-year-old children are very interested in the language of causality. Putting forward causality seems to be a very complicated problem, but it is actually very simple. For example, if a child touches a baking stove and burns his hand, you should say to him, "Don't touch the burning stove, it will burn his hand." However, there are often mothers who say, "This stove is really broken and I burned my hand." When a child is caught in a door and hurts his hand, we will also see some mothers knocking at the door with their hands and saying to the child, "It is the door that is not good. Mom will teach it a lesson. " In this way, children can't understand the correct causal relationship, and they can't get the correct way of looking at things. Let's give another example. The child was crying there because his ball rolled under the bed and could not be taken out. But the mother was busy and slapped the child without asking: "Why are you crying? Stop it for me. " In this way, the child will cry even more. This kind of situation is really everywhere. However, nothing can hurt a child's mind, distort his personality and inhibit the development of his talent. The correct way should be to gently ask the child: "Is the ball rolled under the bed and can't be taken out?" I want mom to take it out for you, right? "Feel the child's mood and talk to him from his standpoint, and he will learn how to express his feelings. The next time he encounters the same situation, not only will he not cry, but he will also run to you for help: "The ball has fallen under the bed, please hold it for me. "For a two-year-old child, you must teach him this kind of words about causality as much as possible. This is absolutely necessary to cultivate his correct logical thinking. As mentioned earlier, two-year-old children are most sensitive to language, so we should not only read to them, but also read them poems. Poetry is an excellent teaching material to tell children the importance and interest of every word. However, you don't need to analyze every poem, and you don't need to explain the interest of every word. Just read it to him repeatedly. It doesn't matter if you don't understand the meaning. Children will show a preference for poems with rhythm and repeated sentences. Furthermore, you can tell a story to a two-year-old child, and you should tell him a story repeatedly. Don't forget to read to the children before going to bed. In this period, let the children get close to the words and let him have a good impression on the words. It is really a wonderful thing for children to learn to read from the age of two. Children can read at the age of one, and babies born in Lian Gang can remember them. Some researchers even say that babies are more likely to remember words than to speak. Some people may have this question: How do we know that a baby who can't even speak can read? It is not difficult to solve this mystery. Put some literacy cards in front of the baby, parents read one of the words, and then let him get it, and he will find out the words he knows. This is proof. We must realize that literacy will change the structure of the brain and create a high-quality brain. Even a child with a brain disorder can remember it if he is taught to read from this moment on. Moreover, the more words you recognize, the more normal the child's appearance and the more divine his eyes are. What's more, we have received reports that a small-headed child's head is almost helpless. Its head grows three or four times faster than usual and soon grows into a normal size. There is another example: because of learning to read, children with brain damage can read fluently after entering primary school and become the first in the class. In order to make children like words, you can write his name on a piece of paper, then stick it on the wall and read it to him repeatedly. Or intentionally let children notice the words printed on the back cover of books and commodity labels and teach him the pronunciation of words; Or let him pay attention to the words on the shop sign, the words and numbers on the car number while walking. After children learn a new word, they can look it up in books and newspapers, which will greatly increase their interest in words. In the waiting room of the hospital, children can also look for the words they know from the notices posted on the wall. In this way, teaching children words that are closely related to our lives and easy to attract children's attention is the best way to recognize words. Building an ideal language environment is a critical period for children's language development before the age of three. If compared with the children in the neighbor's house, the baby in his own house "cherishes words like gold" or his words are unclear, it will inevitably teach parents to worry. What happened to the baby? Pang Liuxiang, director of Hong Kong Xuanmei Language Listening Training Center and audiologist, said, "With enough language environment, many children will learn to speak by themselves; If there is not enough language environment, I am not surprised why many children don't speak. "Nanny care is lack of language environment. Many working parents entrust their children to nannies. Many nannies speak their hometown accent and can't speak Mandarin, so it is difficult to provide a good language environment. Pang Tai said: "The age from zero to three is a critical period for children's language development. The object of their study is very important. If the nanny is not good, it is better to find a better kindergarten. "At the same time, remind parents that although children have the opportunity to play with other children after entering school and stimulate their language development, parents also need to communicate with their children more every night. At the same time, choosing preschool education should not only pay attention to "hardware" such as campus facilities, but also pay attention to "software"-teachers who understand children's psychology, communicate with children, pay attention to children's language development and speak correctly. When getting along with and playing with children, parents may have the following problems: being relatively speechless. For example, Pang Tai said: "Some parents play with their children for half an hour, just watching them smile ... Some parents take their children to the park, just taking pictures and telling them nothing. "Talking to children often Some parents like to talk to their children: Fan Fan, lights, bags and so on. If there is a mistake, don't change the child's "safflower" to "safflower", parents don't pay attention to the problem; The child said "uncle" as "Benedict", but the adult just felt funny, but didn't tell him the correct statement in time. To provide an ideal language environment for children, parents should pay attention to the following points: talk to children more, for example, when playing games, think about what children will be interested in. For example, Mrs. Pang can "narrate" when playing the train with children: "Wow, the train is coming, boom, boom ... the train will go into the cave ... Hey, the train is coming out again! "But be careful not to be too advanced. For example, there are too many four-character idioms that children may not be able to absorb. By the way, even if the child is wrong, don't always be "outspoken" and hurt his self-confidence. For example, when children say "uncle" is "faithful", adults can say: "Yes, it's uncle, and uncle loves you very much! "Ordinary children, as long as they have a good imitation object, will naturally correct themselves after listening more. Reasonable expectations don't expect children to be in place in one step. For example, teaching children to say "strawberries" may take them twenty or thirty times to understand. Parents should patiently bring out "strawberries" in different ways, such as "strawberries are delicious. Do you want to eat strawberries? But not yet. Let's play for a while and then eat strawberries, shall we? "Set an example. Parents should pronounce correctly and say complete sentences. In the learning stage, they should listen more to speak well. If children don't know how to speak correctly, it will affect their study. If parents suspect that there is something wrong with their children's language development, they need to seek professional help after talking with their children for two or three months, because there are many reasons for slow language development and inaccurate pronunciation, and experts must prescribe the right medicine. For example, some children can't hear the high-frequency S sound, so they call the "beach" "crow beach". The most important thing is to find problems early. There are many ways to help children. Children's pronunciation is incorrect, and the older they get, the more difficult it is to correct it. 3-year-old children's thinking ability develops rapidly, but it is not mature enough to think with only their brains like adults. He needs special language to help him think and straighten out his thoughts slowly. Talking to himself, the three-year-old baby enjoys himself. When the baby is three years old, parents can find a phenomenon. He always likes talking to toys alone, which makes his mother very worried, but experts say that talking to himself is a common normal phenomenon for three-year-old children. 3 years old is the key stage of children's language development from external language to internal language. Talking to herself is actually a manifestation of her transformation from an external language to an internal language, and it is actually an expression of their inner thinking. 3-year-old children's thinking ability develops rapidly, but it is not mature enough to think with only their brains like adults. She needs specific language to help her think and slowly straighten out her thoughts. The content, form and question language of soliloquy are questions that children have when they encounter new things or don't know what to do. For example, when drawing, she might look for a crayon: "Hey, where's the crayon? ""Rabbit, long ears, red eyes ... "These messages may have been seen and heard by her, and now she uses language to recall and strengthen her memory again. The story language in the game, with the progress of the game, children need to do a lot of thinking activities. In the game, children will think about what they want to do first, and then do something. This is a process of thinking, but she will tell everything she wants to do like a story. Make good use of the baby's monologue. Parents should talk to their children more and tell her some common sense anytime and anywhere: what is this, what is that and why; Ask your child some simple questions that she can answer, so that she can think and answer; Storytelling can enhance the coherence and logic of children's thinking, and it is also a good way to train language. After the story is finished, let the children talk about their own ideas and let her design different endings for the story. %D%A Good luck, health and happiness _% d% a Happy baby growth.