The longer the affair, the harder it is to separate.

What I hate most is the word "love". Once you have love, you will lose your judgment on many things. You are fascinated by one sentence. For the lowest happiness, you can't eat oil and salt. We often say that extramarital affairs go through four seasons: 1, romantic period ~ a relationship begins because it is attracted to another person, who seems to be the puzzle he lacks, his inner desire and his soul mate. The greater the difference between them, the more opposites and passions they have. It is because of the differences that we long for each other and everything they represent. When you fall in love with someone, the good and happy time in the relationship comes. This feeling of heaven on earth makes people energetic and ready for the coming stage. This is the most beautiful stage of all love, and extramarital affairs are no exception. 2, the power struggle period ~ the demon period ~ At this time, you will face two most important lessons in the relationship: First, how to cross the independent control period/dependent heartbreak period. Second, what you pay is exactly what you need. Lovers who taste the sweetness will be immersed in the beauty and cannot extricate themselves. The requirements for lovers are getting higher and higher, and they are more and more dependent. But in fact, many people dedicate their best looks to the pursuit process. Once the relationship is established, they will step into the normal state of ordinary life. And after the sweet period, people will become lazy, because with a relatively stable relationship, there is no extra investment. The original features that have not been modified will gradually appear, and time and energy will gradually be tight, and even some will be overwhelmed. Others will find that extramarital affairs are strikingly similar to marital entanglements, and they want to return to their families with loss and guilt. People are human because you are good to me and I am good to you. Feedback and gratitude are the biggest characteristics that distinguish people from animals. And those who violate this most human nature will certainly bring the greatest pain. Everyone's goal is to get more, and another person must prove that he is worthy of being loved. It's just that all relationships are facing the problem of unequal pay. If a person doesn't pay, he will defend himself, be self-righteous, and don't appreciate others' pay; Splitting without paying, attacking and demanding will only make the other party experience dissatisfaction and success in the relationship. This is extremely destructive to the relationship, and the indulgence you try to get will also push the other side away. At this time, you may be angry for an oversight, and you may also suffer from a sentence. All this is like cutting a crack in a glamorous extramarital affair, and inappropriate communication or understanding is getting bigger and bigger. 3, the dead zone ~ If both sides are not attractive enough, the relationship is not very strong. After the power struggle, the ending is usually a slap in the face. If the power struggle is not long, because the relationship between the two is relatively consistent, it will not go to the death zone for the time being. Many people think that it is safe not to be separated by the devil in the power struggle, and the inner sail can stop and dock. But all feelings need to have a flow direction, either to combine or to end, and this issue will not be put on hold forever. Especially for extramarital affairs, going ashore is an extremely difficult process. When two people feel that the other person is worthy of lifelong trust, they will think about how to bid farewell to their present family and try their best to be together. In this process, we need to be absolutely consistent in direction, encourage and support each other, and become allies who trust each other completely. They need to promise themselves and each other at the same time that no matter how objective the situation is, they will never let each other go, and even if they gamble all their past popularity and wealth, they will fight for a future. The core of extramarital affairs is "peaceful coexistence and alliance", that is to say, they can bring good feelings to each other before continuing. This rule is not only subordinate to human nature, but also contrary to human nature, making people hesitate between giving and taking, which is extremely painful. Some people, fortunately, have found true love, fulfilled others and fulfilled themselves. There are also some people who, out of the instinct of seeking advantages and avoiding disadvantages, will die in just one minute once there is a gap or any uncomfortable part, or they think that the previous struggle has been wasted and they have doubts about the future. The root of extramarital affairs is not love, but the excitement abused in the name of love. Just because you can't stand temptation and immaturity, you are responsible for your emotions and your own experiences. There is no love in essence, and few people are as responsible to their lovers as they are to their families. Whether it's an affair or an affair, these problems exist long before you meet someone. Extramarital affairs are protected by law, while extramarital affairs are not. We need men or women, but men or women are always supporting roles. Without a supporting role, there will be many regrets and gaps in our lives, but the real one-man show is heaven. The longer the affair, the harder it is to divide 2 0 1. People who have extramarital affairs are not single-minded. There is a saying that "there is only one derailment and domestic violence, countless times." Don't trust anyone who cheats. I will correct it in the future and never make mistakes again. In fact, the joy of stealing fruit has taken root in his heart, and it will only get bigger and bigger, poking his heart again and again, making his heart itch and making mistakes again and again. Since a person can cheat after marriage, what is this person's mistress? She doesn't even have a birthright, and she is completely unprotected by law. What can you do if he finds a mistress? So once extramarital affairs exist, there will be one mistake after another. Because loyalty does not exist in his heart, if he cares about love and has principles, where is the affair? 02. After being with an unfaithful man, a woman's desire will only grow. In fact, most men cheat only because they lack passion in marriage or have not found their gentle hometown yet. But after a long time, women will feel uncomfortable, and women are actually very possessive. She will secretly compete, she wants to get the birthright and get more things that don't belong to her. Jane Eyre actually describes a very real picture. Jane wants a man who can give her everything, show up in time when she needs him, be generous when she needs money, and spend time when she needs company. But she forgot that she was just a mistress. A man can go to see mistress behind his wife's back, so why should he treat you wholeheartedly? And if the desire is too great to be satisfied, women will blame it. Love is like a balance. Once one party is dissatisfied and the balance is out of balance, then love will collapse, not to mention an unstable extramarital affair. Therefore, when a man finds out that this woman is like this, he will definitely give up this extramarital affair and avoid more trouble. 03. Extramarital affairs and marriage are essentially the same. Men cheat for passion and tenderness, but he forgets that marriage or extramarital affairs are just a kind of interpersonal relationship. Marriage needs management, and so does the relationship of extramarital affairs. The difference is nothing more than that the wife is protected by law, which is commonly known as fen, while extramarital affairs carry a bad reputation and are not guaranteed. All emotional development is regular, whether it is marriage or extramarital affairs, it will become dull from passion. And when extramarital affairs also come to a dull step, will men still want to stick to it? Definitely not. At this time, he would even think of home, and San Xiao just stayed with him on this road. The longer the affair lasts, the harder it is to divide it into three stages. In the first stage, I can't help chatting with my lover for fear of being discovered. Many people have irregular schedules at the beginning of extramarital affairs. People who work nine to five will suddenly work overtime, and busy people will even go home after midnight. If the other half is worried, call to urge, metropolis is very impatient. The most obvious performance is to go out and make a phone call, never leave the phone, and avoid the other half for fear that the other half will find out the fact of his extramarital affairs. On the one hand, they are family members and lovers. They want to maintain family stability, but they can't bear the stimulation of extramarital affairs. If they are not found at this stage, the derailed person will soon enter the next process. In the second stage, the subconscious is mainly about lovers. At this stage, many people who have extramarital affairs will give clues. For example, smile back and ask him what he is doing, and he will say that he is busy with business. Talking about business with a smile ... At this time, men have entered a period of love with their lovers. Even at home, most of their thoughts are about how to make their lover happy, so they will subconsciously reveal some clues. The other half's well-meaning inquiry will make men feel that his wife is easy to cheat, which will increase the stimulation of extramarital affairs, and because he often faces his wife's efforts for the family, he will feel more and more guilty. In the third stage, I found that two people lived together every day after marriage. It can be said that the other half knows himself better than himself. Short-term abnormal behavior may be easily overlooked, but long-term extramarital affairs will definitely be noticed by the other half. After extramarital affairs are discovered, couples will generally experience quarrels or even fights, separation, etc., and as the indefensible party, the first reaction is to keep insurance. Promise never to cheat again, never to contact your lover again, and so on. There is no denying that at that moment, most men really want to repent. But there are still some people who make promises, not because they know they are wrong, but because they feel guilty about their wives. Even if they didn't want to, even if they couldn't let go of their lover, they made a promise. The fourth stage is specially prepared for those who are reluctant to make their own guarantees. Those who learn from the lessons found and make their extramarital affairs more hidden have many choices to have extramarital affairs again, not to mention those who reluctantly make their own promises. These people are naturally impatient with loneliness, and extramarital affairs are like Pandora's box for them. If they open it, they won't close it again. As long as they think the time is right, they will immediately choose a second extramarital affair.