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Two years ago, I accidentally saw the classic book "Tearing Down the Wall in Thinking", which touched me a lot.
When the cost of waiting and procrastinating is far higher than the cost of really starting to act, he will slowly fall into the strange circle of waiting and inaction. This mode is called "waiting for death mode".
Reflecting on the future life you can expect, have you unconsciously entered the "waiting mode"? This idea is terrible, so I decided to get out of my comfort zone, close the "waiting mode" and see what my life is possible.
This reading week, I reread this book intensively, which is a different feeling. Looking back on the achievements of these two years, I am practicing a sentence in the book: It is better to bloom in action than to wither in waiting!
Classical tells the story of the movie "Travels around the Flying House" in the book. This story not only touched my heart, but also made me really take action and walk out of the comfort zone of life.
An old couple are going to a place called Dream Waterfall. They have a piggy bank and agreed to leave when it is full.
But the days didn't go as they planned. Cars need to be repaired, houses need to leak, and children need to go to school. They were forced to use this savings again and again, delaying their departure time again and again. Finally, one day, the old woman died and the old man stayed alone in this empty house.
If the real estate demolition team hadn't threatened to tear down the old house, the old man wouldn't have broken out in this crazy action: he tied thousands of balloons to the house and shouted all morning, and his house flew! He drove the balloon house, over people's mouths, through lightning and thunder, and flew to the dream waterfall.
When he was in the worst health and finance in his life, he began to travel to his dream. Only when the house was empty did he realize that he didn't have to wait to save money, but he could have done it long ago.
In real life, like the old couple, I always want to save enough money to go where I want to go, and I always want to do enough preparations to start the dream mode, but "the ideal is full and the reality is very skinny."
As the saying goes, plans don't change so fast! Reality is fluid and unpredictable, and we can't make the plan perfect. There will always be such unexpected things, which will occupy ordinary and trivial days, and the original plans and ideas will always be delayed until they are in the foreseeable future.
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It has always been our dream to go to road trip, but we have no action and there are always endless excuses. This time we reached a * * * knowledge. On the second day after our daughter finished the exam, we simply said one word and left.
Actually, I still can't walk so neatly. I got home from Qinling at noon that day. My sister's family had to go to Tianshui McKee for half a day, and then went straight to Lanzhou, the first stop we went together after meeting, and then planned to go to Huanglong and Jiuzhaigou from Gannan.
Really set out, all the troubles are left behind, and it doesn't matter if you are not fully prepared. Any problems you encounter can be solved in detail, and there is nothing you can't pass.
The scenery along the way kept pounding my heart, and I really experienced the fun of traveling on the road for the first time.
When the endless wetland is in front of me, I feel that the whole world is open and all my troubles and sorrows are left behind. The winding rivers, cattle and sheep grazing leisurely, the shadows cast by white clouds and the mountains at the end of the horizon are all so quiet and harmonious. In it, people become so small, like a dust between heaven and earth.
For me who has lived in the city for a long time, I can never get tired of seeing the grassland. Trapped in the cement forest where the skyline can't be seen every day, my heart seems depressed and narrow. And when you gallop on the grassland and stay in this invisible world, you will find that the world is so vast and people are so small that many things you care about are actually not a problem.
Some people say that "life is actually a trip, and travel is to appreciate a different life."
Travel can guide travelers back to their true nature. Through travel, you can find things that you have neglected, which are more meaningful than daily life, so it is also a life journey of experience.
Start, return, then start again, then return. During this period, at the beginning and end of each round, you are constantly examining yourself, knowing the world, enriching your life and understanding the true meaning of life! "
In my opinion, traveling is not only in the feet and eyes, but also in the heart.
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After my trip, I found out my driver's license that had been neglected for more than ten years, and asked my husband to accompany me to practice driving for the first time. This has always been something I used to fear and resist doing.
I listed it as a new skill that I had to master in those years and began to take it seriously. Really determined to do it, only to find that it is not so terrible.
Perhaps I feel that I have been delayed for too long and missed a lot of scenery. This time, I don't know where I got my enthusiasm and confidence. I will seize every time and opportunity I can practice: scratching is also my own ridicule, and I can calmly face the goodwill and malicious ridicule of others. I don't care too much about other people's eyes as before, and I am timid in doing things.
After I quickly became proficient in driving, I began to voluntarily pick up my daughter alone. On the one hand, it is a positive sign to give my hard-working husband a rest. On the other hand, I just use the time to pick up my daughter in the morning and evening to chat with her.
My daughter is very happy to communicate in time every day, and I feel another kind of happiness. I no longer regard sending my daughter to school as a necessary task, but as a time to enjoy happiness.
This change of mood is slowly changing my mood and my life. Now I know that the happy life I want to be together for so many years is in my own hands, not always by others.
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I accidentally saw Tang Xiaoxiao's article on WeChat, and her story gave me great encouragement and aroused my yearning. So I also started my dream trip.
Writing used to be my childhood literary dream, but it was forgotten in a corner of my heart for many years. I dared not mention it, but I never forgot it. Just for a few years later, I can start writing and realize my dream.
As the saying goes: everything is difficult at the beginning! This statement contains no water at all. At first, even though I had a passion and a thousand words surged in my heart, my writing was rough and it was difficult to write. I often scratch my head for a long time, and I can't hold back an article. I managed to write an article, but I thought it was not good. So I carefully followed the method she taught me to find materials, materials and opinions, step by step.
Sometimes I am envious and anxious when I watch people who study together start publishing articles in WeChat official account and even sign up as columnists. I always tell myself: don't compare with others, just compare with myself every day, so I must keep writing. Finally, an article began to be finished under my pen. Looking at the increasingly absent-minded words, I have unspeakable happiness and joy in my heart.
In order to better adhere to the practice of writing, I began to adhere to the day shift in my official number. When I was in high school, my daughter and I made an agreement: if I keep working 100 days, she will go all out to prepare for her favorite university.
It is said that my mother is the strongest person in the world. In order to dream in my heart and set an example for my daughter to learn, I overcame all kinds of difficulties and kept working for more than 100 days. I actually did something I couldn't do for so many years.
My self-confidence has been continuously enhanced with my persistent writing practice, and the whole person is more energetic and positive than before. I set an example for my children with practical actions: as long as I work hard, I can do what I want to do well!
I've been writing for so long, and although I haven't made great achievements like other students, I'm still very happy. After all, I began to do what I wanted to do most. As long as I keep writing, I think my dream will get closer and closer!
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Everyone has a big mountain in his heart, and he always wants to climb it and see the outside world. But in fact, when I climbed to the top of the mountain, I found it was still a mountain, higher and farther. Many times, we are climbing mountains and want to go further. This is a spiritual journey.
Sometimes it's incredible to think about it. How many opportunities have we lost because of waiting? Waiting for a good opportunity to confess to the person you love? Let's miss the right person! When we are ready, we can start our dream trip? How many dreams have we killed by waiting?
If we can speak our love bravely and let the flower of love bloom at the most beautiful time, even if the ending of the story is not perfect, at least we have really loved it. . . . . .
A bad start is better than a perfect wait. Instead of withering in waiting, it is better to act first, work hard step by step, and then work hard to do better bit by bit! As long as you act, the dream in your heart is no longer a distant dream!
There is a proverb that there are two best times to plant trees, one is 25 years ago and the other is now.
In fact, every day can be a new beginning, and every day can be different. If you don't have a good start, try a bad one. Because a bad start is better than no start. The perfect beginning will never come.
If a good beginning is half the battle, then a bad beginning is at least one third of the battle.
It is better to blossom in action than to wither in waiting.