In fact, due to the differences in family background, education level, hobbies and ideas, we will meet all kinds of people. If you know what kind of person the other person belongs to, suit the remedy to the case and improvise, communication will be much easier. Smith Tiger, a professor of public relations at Harvard University, summed up the types of getting along with various people:
Selflessness and kindness
Such people are often overlooked because they are really the kindest people in the world. They won't ruin your business, so you may ignore them or take them seriously. In that case, you are wrong. In fact, they are the friends you can really get along with. Without the judgment of friendship in the office, only these people will lose their meaning.
Stubborn type
Such people are generally old-fashioned and old-fashioned, but they resolutely resist foreign suggestions and opinions, and they are headstrong and self-righteous. It's hard to convince such a person with your glib tongue. You might as well come straight to the point and list some wrong practices in his work and life one by one, and remind him of the serious consequences in combination with the problems that need to be solved now. In this way, even if he resists you face to face, his heart begins to shake and doubt the correctness of his decision. At this time, you take the opportunity to put forward your own point of view, move with emotion, and make sense of it, so he is more acceptable.
Arrogant and rude type
Such people are generally self-centered, conceited, and often assume a domineering and self-centered posture, lacking self-knowledge. When dealing with such people or things, don't be condescending and arrogant. You just need to make a long story short and briefly explain what needs to be explained. If you ask him to do something, that's another matter.
No expression
This kind of person, even if you greet him politely, he won't respond accordingly. According to psychology, it's called deadpan. Just because he's expressionless doesn't mean he's not emotional. It's just that such people suppress their passion and don't show it. So, for this kind of person, you don't need to be angry, just keep saying what you want to say. At the critical moment, he will naturally use words to express his expression.
Silent type
Such people are generally introverted and unsociable. But that doesn't mean he has nothing to say. With him, you need to slow down the conversation and explore more topics. Once he talks about something he is good at or interested in, he will immediately "thaw" and pour it out to you.
Selfish type
Such people generally lack love and feel lonely. He always puts himself and his own interests first. If you want him to do something bad for you, it will be difficult for you to communicate with him. When you get along with this kind of person, you must pay attention to him from the heart and let him feel the warmth and value of emotion.
Leisure life type
This kind of person lacks ideal and positive heart, leads a lazy life and lacks passion in work. Get along with this kind of person, only by challenging him to tap his fighting spirit.
Deep storage type
This kind of person is very defensive. I'm afraid you'll reveal his inner secret. In fact, this is a very low self-esteem performance. If you want to know his personality and psychology, you might as well sit with him and drink more wine to make him tell the truth after drinking.
Slow-moving
This kind of person is generally slow in thinking and reaction. It's ok to be friends with him, but it's not an ideal partner with him.
Hasty decision-making type
At first glance, this kind of person is quick-witted, and often makes a sudden decision when the negotiation reaches its climax. He lacks foresight and is prone to make wrong judgments. The best way to get along with him is to throw cold water on him often, so that he can keep a clear head and never make hasty decisions with emotions.
Overconcentrated type
This kind of person is a little schizophrenic, inattentive, with low memory and insufficient understanding. Such people, like slow-heating people, are not ideal partners. But making friends, such people are very popular. It looks casual and generous.
Housewife type
This kind of person not only refers to women, but also some men are "women". This kind of person, as soon as he entered the office, told the people in the office in detail what happened at home last night until this morning. If there is really nothing to say, I will repeat last night's TV play with you. There is nothing they don't know about the work of the unit. Both Zhang's parents and Li's family are short, working in their hands and their mouths are not idle. When they meet a welfare, they will try their best to get close to themselves. This kind of person annoys you. When you are in a bad mood and hear them buzzing in your ear, you may wish you could scold them. But don't be angry, such people, take what they say less seriously, and don't listen to anything he says. Such people are less likely to speak ill of you at critical times, and may even speak well of you, because they are more compassionate.
Gossip type
This kind of person is qualitatively different from the former kind. They may not want to be idle. But it is asking about the privacy of people around you everywhere, and is willing to create and spread some rumors in an attempt to get something from them. And in their minds, no one is a problem (except the boss), but they have no advantages. Such people make you hate, but they are not terrible. So, you don't have to be nervous and argue with them. As long as what they say does not constitute slander, what can they hurt you?
Bullying newcomer type
In fact, each of us has this idea. They treat new people, regardless of gender and age, and will take you seriously for a long time, ordering you to do this and that. This is all "work". This kind of person is not really a bad person, but a low-quality "ordinary citizen" at most. As long as they don't go too far, I advise you to bear it. After a while, they will naturally accept you. But if you don't want to endure it, or don't have the patience to endure it for that long, you might as well seize the opportunity and fight them back once or twice. And this kind of people are generally bullying, as long as you fight back, nine times out of ten they won't dare to do anything to you again, and their spearhead will soon point to the next new person.
Eccentric type
Most of these people are born with great genetic factors, but they are not snobbish and unwilling to go along with others. You may meet them inexplicably, but don't hate them. They usually forget the past and will still treat you as before, so don't try to change other people's things. Of course, people don't want to change you Be careful not to have too deep contact with such people, and don't have excessive behavior and language towards them.
Crazy and arrogant type
This kind of person looks down on everyone, including his immediate boss. They should be different and superior to others everywhere. They know astronomy in the upper class and geography in the lower class, and the knowledge or anecdote they just read in the newspaper will be shown off in public as their own knowledge. In fact, these people have a deep sense of inferiority. Most of them are short-sighted people and have not seen much of the world. You don't have to care about such people at all. He likes to brag about himself. Let him go. Even if he belittles you, don't try to compete with them. Why not distinguish between those who are not at the same level and those who are not at the same level?
Malicious villain
This kind of talent is the person you should pay the most attention to. There are not many such people, but almost every group will have them. Besides, it is impossible for such people to find their malice if they don't work with him for a long time. Most of them are the other way around. When you first came into contact with them, they were very enthusiastic and active, and they would take the initiative to solve some small difficulties for you, and they were considerate to you, which also showed that they really wanted to help you and objectively achieved good results for you. However, there is a premise that you can't infringe on their interests. If you infringe a little, they will tolerate it, and even they will sacrifice some small interests, such as a certain amount of money and a certain amount of time. However, when it comes to the key, you must never take advantage of them and never walk in front of them, such as promotion and salary increase. Otherwise, they will immediately pull their faces and fight you to the death.
Such people are difficult to deal with because they usually win the trust of their superiors by pretending. If you don't have strong strength, you can never fight them. If you find such people, it's best to provoke them less, but it's not good to stay at a respectful distance, because they are real "little people". "It's rude to be near, and complain when you're far away." The best way is to play dumb when dealing with them, so that they look down on you and think that you are no threat to them. If you really want to fight with them, you must go beyond your level and reflect their evil deeds to a higher level leader (because the direct leader has been caught in their hands, the boss trusts them more than you, and the lower-level boss may even spread your words to their ears), and you must be prepared to leave them immediately if you fail. But then you may lose more, but it's better than spending it with them, because you can't spend it all.
Understand what kind of person he is, then suit the remedy to the case and act according to circumstances, and communication will be much easier.
Ten "Better" in Life
First, I'd rather play dumb than be smart. Because no one likes extremely smart people, especially those who think they are smart. Objective things are too complicated and change too fast. No matter how high your IQ is, no matter how diligent you are, it's hard to know anything. Even if you have mastered all the existing knowledge (which is impossible), it will develop and change in an instant and will never stop. Therefore, we should always maintain a modest and prudent attitude and dare to admit that we are always a fool in front of the creator.
Second, it is better to pretend to be poor than to show off wealth. Because no one likes people who show off their wealth, "being rich without mercy" is a traditional concept of China people, which basically conforms to the facts, especially at this stage. Ancient and modern, Chinese and foreign, few people get rich completely through legal means. Don't rack your brains for personal wealth, or you will never have peace. Rich and secure, poor and happy, adequate food and clothing is enough. If someone is close to you and envies you because of your wealth, your disaster is not far away. Blind comparison, self-inflicted.
Third, I would rather lose than just win. Especially in meaningless arguments. Because most people can afford to win and can't afford to lose. It better be a win-win situation. Whether at home or abroad or between individuals, a win-win situation is the best choice.
Fourth, it is better to suffer than to take advantage of small things. Because most people like to take advantage of small things and can't afford to lose. You should believe that "a loss is a blessing". Of course, beware of liars. If you are cheated, don't hold it in your heart. Believe that God (natural law and social law) will punish them. You don't need to punish them.
It is better to work hard than to seek happiness. Because pleasure is the easiest way to kill the will and corrode the soul. Proper efforts can exercise the body and temper the will.
Sixth, it is better to be mediocre than to fish for fame. Because mediocrity is bliss. Cheating, fishing for fame, is bound to be physically and mentally exhausted, causing trouble, and taking the consequences.
Seven, I would rather be confident than blindly pessimistic. Because self-confidence is a kind of strength, even if your self-confidence is a little blind, it has nothing to do with the overall situation. You can adjust your mentality and find your own position in practice. If you blindly feel inferior, you will lose everything.
Eight, health is better than fame and fortune. Because health is the most important capital in life. In case of an accident, Paul Kosakin and Zhang Haidi can learn from them.
Nine, rather diligent than idle. Diligence is a necessary condition for all achievements, and it is itself the source of happiness; Can make you feel a sense of accomplishment every day.
10. I would rather be paranoid than give up my ideal. Ideal is a beacon, and persistence is a kind of personality strength. Only paranoia can survive.