Aunt Li has a pair of children. Since the birth of the two children, Aunt Li has been trying her best to give the best to the children she loves very much. Later, the two children grew up and had their own lives. Aunt Li has never lived with her children since the two children lived together. Because she believes that the elderly should be independent, she and her wife have some savings for so many years and can live on their own.
However, since Aunt Li's grandson was born, this lifestyle has completely changed. My son seldom goes to see Aunt Li, but now it is more and more frequent, and he always takes the children with him.
In order to make her son's family have a good time, Aunt Li always prepares rich dishes for her son's family, and even gives him a large sum of money before he leaves, indicating that it is not easy for her son to have children, and she is willing to make up for it and let him live a better life.
It is precisely because of Aunt Li's behavior that Aunt Li's son is more and more willing to visit the elderly. From the first month to a week, and then to two days. Aunt Li doesn't think her son did it for himself. She just thinks that children are filial and often praise their children.
Analysis:
Nowadays, most parents love their children very much. Even if their children have their own children, they are reluctant to let go. They even feel that it is their responsibility and obligation to take care of their grandchildren, and they will pay as willingly as Aunt Li in the incident. But in fact, this kind of behavior is a "new" way in society now. Most old people don't think so. They think their children are filial and often come to see themselves. This makes people feel chilling and helpless to the elderly.
How many kinds of "new" are there?
1. Children seem to be filial, but in fact they regard their parents as ATMs.
For example, what Aunt Li's son did in the above incident is actually a kind of "new-style self-reliance". Indeed, it costs a lot of money to raise a child now. However, parents have no responsibility or obligation to give us money to support our children. Like Aunt Li's son, he usually can't remember his parents. Seeing the money, he remembered that his parents' behavior was "gnawing at the old", but the poor old man didn't know it and thought his children were very filial.
2. It is difficult for the old people to help with the children.
Nowadays, most young people are very busy at work. Even with children, there is little time to accompany them. So, at this time, they will ask the old man to come and help. This is actually understandable, but some people simply leave their children to the elderly and are not responsible at all. They often scold the elderly and say that they are not.
This behavior is a typical "baiwenhang" behavior, which is not only "gnawing at the old", but also ungrateful and hateful, and it is a "new way of gnawing at the old".
3. If you get married and have children, you will come to rest on your laurels.
Others will bring their children to get married and eat the old, and the family will eat, live and use the old in the name of accompanying the old. This is also a "new" way to live on one's laurels, and the old people should recognize it.
What should the child do?
First of all, we must make it clear that the children are our own, and the elderly have no obligation to help us raise the children and support the elderly, and there is no reason to give us financial assistance.
If the elderly help us take care of the children, we should first leave the children alone. It is better to take care of the children ourselves when we have nothing to do. Secondly, we should remember that no matter how old people are, we should not lose our temper with them and make them feel cold.
Accompanying the elderly is what we should do, not to say that we should accompany the elderly in order to gain benefits from it. It is not advisable to act like Aunt Li's son in the incident.