According to the statistics of Zhang Beichuan, a domestic expert on gay men, "there are currently 20 million sexually active gay men in China, 80% of whom will be married or have been married."
Due to the resistance of traditional ideas, these gay men can't be with the same sex, so they can only pretend to marry and have children with girls, thus causing one marriage tragedy after another.
According to the statistics of Zhang Beichuan, there are160,000 girls in China who are about to get married or have already married gay men. What awaits them is a miserable married life.
What kind of situation will girls face when they marry gay men?
1, cheated for a long time
Gay men will not voluntarily admit their sexual orientation, especially when they want to marry girls.
There was a girl named Liu Siqi who was pregnant with a child the second month after she married her husband. To outsiders, her husband has a good income and is good to others, but everything has changed since the birth of the child.
Liu Siqi found that when she got up in the middle of the night to nurse her baby, her husband always turned off the browser in a hurry. It was not until one time that her husband forgot to cancel QQ that she discovered that he was gay.
The cruel reality defeated her last line of defense. One night, she clearly heard her husband shouting a person's name, a man's name in his dream.
After a showdown with her husband, Liu Siqi, who was heartbroken, sent a suicide note on the gay forum, ready to jump off a building and end everything in front of her.
She said, "My world has completely collapsed. The person I love and trust most lied to me 10 years! "
Fortunately, just as Liu Siqi was about to jump off a building, her father called and asked her to go back and nurse the baby, which saved her life. Since then, the baby has become the pillar of her life, but her marriage has long been riddled with holes.
2. Asexual marriage and cold violence
The sexual orientation of gay men is different from that of ordinary people. They don't want gentle women.
In the eyes of many gay husbands, they are full of rejection of their wives. It seems that meeting their wives is a shame, and giving birth is a task.
After giving birth to children, they will fabricate various reasons to refuse to share the same room, barely maintain a asexual marriage and find another lover.
This indifference itself is a kind of cold violence, which often turns into real violence.
A lady named Wang tried to control her tears when she talked about her husband and wife's life. In the marriage of 15, the husband never touched her, quarreled and fought constantly, bumped her head against the wall, and even put a knife rest around her neck.
In this way, the pearl held by parents in their hands was humiliated by some homosexuals at will, losing the great youth and fun of life, as if being put in the cold palace and enduring everything alone.
3. Become a fertility tool.
The reason why many gay men are willing to get married is basically the intention of carrying on the family line. In their view, the wife is just a fertility tool, and disappears without a trace after achieving her goal.
I have seen such a case on the Internet. A girl and a boy fell in love at the beginning of their acquaintance and soon got married. And her mother-in-law is very kind to her, just like her own mother.
The girl was immersed in a happy marriage and soon gave birth to a child. Normal men will definitely choose to accompany their wives after giving birth, but their husbands have not shown up for 23 days.
Her husband's family sent her to the private room on the grounds of recuperating her health. She called her husband, but she couldn't get through. She asked her mother-in-law for information, but she said she didn't know.
Finally, one day, the girl found out that her husband was gay. She was reluctant to give evidence, but no matter how she cried, her husband left home without saying a word. The next day, my mother-in-law said that she would take her children out to bask in the sun.
She wanted to tell her mother-in-law what she had been brewing for a long time, but her mother-in-law never appeared again. This home, unexpectedly, evaporated collectively.
The girl finally understood that the considerate mother-in-law knew that her son was gay, but she cheated her into getting married in order to carry on the family line. All they want is a fertility machine, which is worthless after giving birth.
After that, she separated from the children and never saw them again.
It is very easy to get infected with AIDS.
Gay men are usually at high risk of AIDS because of their complicated relationships, and this will also directly infect their wives. According to Professor Zhang Beichuan's statistics, "more than 30% of the same wife will be infected with sexually transmitted diseases."
A lady Ma couldn't figure out why she was infected with AIDS until one day, when she was being treated in the hospital, she happened to meet her ex-husband.
It turned out that her ex-husband was gay and an AIDS patient, and she discovered that her illness came from her ex-husband.
Once infected with this disease, there is basically no hope, life-long dependence on drugs, life is destroyed. Which girl can afford it?
Step 5 get into extreme depression
Long-term cheating, ulterior secrets in husband and wife's life, cold violence and the risk of illness, together with the pressure of having children after marriage, can easily make women fall into deep depression.
Luo Hongling, a lecturer at Sichuan University, was originally a sunny, beautiful and independent girl. After dating her boyfriend Cheng for five or six months, she quickly entered the marriage hall.
Shortly after marriage, Luo Hongling discovered that her husband was gay. She questioned her husband, but Cheng, who was hesitant and timid, didn't admit it at all and didn't agree with her to break up.
She consulted a psychiatrist when she collapsed, but she didn't get over her depression in the end. 201June 15 in the early morning, Luo Hongling jumped from the apartment 13 floor and died.
She left the last paragraph on the Weibo:
"You have so many opportunities to let me live, why do you have to drag me into the mire? Even after marriage, you looked at me in pain and asked for help everywhere. Go to the forum to find girlfriends, and let the marriage counselor see a psychologist. I've tried all kinds of methods and I can't get rid of them. You just look on coldly and continue this deception? "
Suicide by the same wife (that is, the wife of a gay man) is not a case. According to the survey data of 20 15, over 90% of the same wives have depressive symptoms, and over 10% of the same wives have committed suicide.
He can't give you happiness, and he will kill you. How cruel is this?
Girls, please note that when you choose a partner, looks, personality, money and so on are second, and you should be more aware of each other's sexual orientation.
After all, the cruelest way to ruin a girl is to let her marry a homosexual.
No sex life, having a baby machine, being cheated, depressed, from cold violence to real violence, and even the risk of contracting AIDS. ...
At the same time, advise those gay men that if you are brave enough, you must break through the secular prejudice. If you only love men, stay away from women! No one is qualified to push another person into a cage in order to carry on the family line and save face.
Although everyone has the freedom of sexual orientation, there is no freedom to hurt others!
What do you think of this? Are there any gay men around you?