I don't know when "son preference" began to reappear in life. There are always a few people in life who are still doing the business of "favoring boys over girls" under the banner of "equality between men and women".
It's just that this behavior has been artificially added with a filter. Although it looks harmonious on the surface, it has not changed much in essence.
My best friend Xiaomei had a quarrel with her family the other day because of the decoration of the wedding room.
It turns out that Xiaomei is the eldest in the family and has a younger brother who is six years younger than her. Although living in the countryside, Xiaomei's parents are open-minded and have not treated Xiaomei badly because she is a girl. The food, clothing, housing and transportation of the two children are all the same:
Xiaomei has always felt lucky that she didn't meet her parents who "look at each other differently" because she preferred sons to daughters. But the recent renovation of a new house made Xiaomei realize that she might have been living in The Truman Show.
Out of trust in her parents, Xiaomei has been giving her salary card to her parents for safekeeping since she started working. She never asked about anything except setting aside some funds regularly every month, but when she got married and decorated the wedding room, Xiaomei met a very puzzling thing.
Their parents always drag their salary cards to Xiaomei for various reasons. Seeing Xiaomei's "persecution", Xiaomei's parents told the truth:
In fact, this is not just Xiaomei's experience. In some families now, equality between men and women may just stay in the mouth, and people's inner "pedantic" prejudice is the most insurmountable mountain.
Performance 1: a rich family has only enough food and clothing.
Remember Song Xiaokun, the eccentric elf in the TV series Ode to Joy? In fact, she grew up in a family with serious preference for boys. Qu's father doted on his daughter very much and gave her the most generous life since she was a child. It is not an exaggeration to say that it is "afraid of melting in her mouth and holding it in her hand".
Even such a favored daughter can't escape the fate of "the daughter is an outsider".
Presumably, in Qu's mind, these assets originally belonged to his son, not his daughter. No matter what mistakes his son made, he is the heir to his own property and can always be forgiven. But after his daughter got married, he became a veritable "outsider".
Performance 2: A woman without talent is a virtue, and it is useless to go to school or not.
There is such a real case around:
This dramatic conflict happened in real life.
Perhaps in daily life, there is no difference between girls and boys in parents' eyes, but in some parents' "subconscious", girls should teach each other and boys should work hard for their careers. This fixed stereotype is actually the most unfriendly quirk to girls.
Performance 3: Little things are equal to sons and daughters, and big things are above daughters.
In daily life, many families follow the principle of "justice and fairness", and parents are quite equal in life. For example:
However, fairness will only be reflected in trivial matters of life. When it comes to big things, such as buying a house and distributing property, these parents think of their sons for the first time and rarely think of their daughters.
Although cruel, it has to be said that it is very realistic.
Many parents are willing to do laundry and cook for their sons, and take their children to contribute money, not only to be their son's free nanny, but also to post their frugal money to their sons. When you are old enough to be taken care of, your daughter will appear on the "waiting list" for the first time.
To make matters worse, many parents will use emotions to reason and kidnap their daughters morally, which will eventually cause more than just the pain and suffering of a family.
Do you know what typical cases of son preference are around you? Welcome to discuss and share in the comments section.