You have pension, medical insurance, savings and housing, so I can live so calmly. Without these, I wouldn't be so calm even if my salary increased by another 10 thousand yuan. You gave me confidence so that I could concentrate on my work and not worry about my parents' life. ...
A few seemingly short words contain a profound truth-parents give their children confidence, and children can live calmly! So when children have confidence, will parents live a calm life?
Xiao Hang is a typical post-90s generation, born into a family of civil servants, and his grandfather retired from the government. After graduating from college, his aunt stayed in the provincial capital and became a doctor. Grandma is a retired local teacher. After retirement, she went to Beijing to live with her uncle. Her parents are local government officials, and Xiao Hang is the only son of her parents and the grandson of her grandparents. Before graduating from junior high school, a family of three lived with her grandparents. Grandma contracted all the housework, and Grandpa was responsible for sending Xiao Hang to and from school. Dad.
Under the guidance of a good family atmosphere and parents, Xiao Hang has been a good student with excellent academic performance since childhood. He is deeply loved by teachers and praised by relatives, and takes good care of other people's children.
The college entrance examination was admitted to a key university in this province with excellent results. Encouraged by my uncle who works in Beijing and summoned by my grandmother, Xiao Hang studied hard and got a postgraduate degree in a university in Beijing. After graduation, I worked in the Beijing system, which solved the hukou problem and made my grandparents and parents very happy.
Xiao Hang, who loved writing since childhood, has been writing articles in the media since college. After several years of practice, he has made small achievements in the writing platform, and his income in recent years has been deposited in his personal financial account. At present, Xiao Hang's writing income is already half of his salary, and it is still rising, which can basically cover the basic expenses of life.
After the job was stable, my parents took out their savings for many years, took out the balance of the provident fund account and sold an old house that was being rented. Finally, they made up the down payment for two small houses outside the Fifth Ring Road in Beijing. Xiao Hang chose the combination of provident fund and commercial loans, and took on the mortgage by himself, thus solving the housing problem.
Parents clearly told Xiao Hang:
Our help is here for the time being. Unless you have a big problem in the future, we won't help you any more. We should plan our lives.
Xiao Hang didn't let his parents down. After paying off the mortgage, he often buys small gifts for his mother, such as cosmetics, a pair of comfortable sports shoes for his father and some health products for his grandparents. Although a large family often get together, they are often in contact, and a warm chat atmosphere lingers in their lives.
After her son settled down, Xiao Hang's mother retired to the second line, occasionally went out for a walk with her father, took some photos of scenic spots and sent them to her son to share her feelings with him, which became part of Xiao Hang's writing materials.
Some friends advised Xiao Hang's mother not to be so extravagant. After all, her son is not married, so she should save more money for him, but Xiao Hang's parents don't think so.
They have a unique view: any child wants to see his parents' life full and rich. Only when our lives are comfortable and moist can children work with peace of mind, communicate with us without a generation gap, and even envy our living conditions.
Lin Guichun is a beautiful mother. She hasn't worked since she got married. She has been taking care of her husband and children at home and keeping the house tidy. Her husband is the only one who works to earn money, so she is in financial difficulties. If she can save, she never spends a penny more. Compared with his peers, her son Song Jun never left the county town before the college entrance examination, which has great limitations in mode and knowledge.
Song Jun was admitted to two local normal schools in the college entrance examination. After graduation, I was admitted to the local special post teacher and served at the grassroots level for three years before I got the establishment. However, Song Jun refused to be a teacher. In his own words, the family can't give financial support. Even if you don't eat or drink for ten years, you can't buy a house with that salary. It was also Song Jun who settled for the second best and got the civil service in remote areas. Although the environment is poor, the treatment is good.
Song Jun had just found a stable job when her father died of a sudden heart attack. Her 50-year-old mother has no job, and she has to pay social security to her 55-year-old mother to get a pension. Then Song Jun had to bear all her living expenses, which was somewhat helpless. But my mother naturally wants money-it's not easy for me to raise you. Now that you have grown up, it is right to raise me, and there is no room for discussion.
With the help of parents, most of Song Jun's colleagues paid down payment, took out loans and got their own houses, while Song Jun's income had to support all her mother's living expenses. What's more, her mother is strongly bound to Song Jun's salary information, and every income and expenditure is under her control.
During the period of coming home during the holiday, all the expenses at home were begged by her mother, which annoyed Song Jun. In the second year of the holiday, Song Jun chose to stay in a nearby scenic spot for a while to distract her attention.
There is no hope of buying a house, there is not much deposit, and good girlfriends are separated, which makes Song Jun very upset and has no hope for the subsequent life ...
Here, I have a profound feeling:
After all, parents and children are a journey away from each other. When children grow up, their parents are old and live independently.
Before children become independent, parents should give them proper support, give them a starting point and let them face the difficulties of life calmly. Parents should keep their own pension expenses, have enough money to increase their value and enjoy good memories when they are with their children.
When children grow up, they should learn to plan their own lives, improve themselves and work hard for their careers. In addition to the help of parents in the early stage, try not to be conservative in the later stage.
Parents and children are the most confident-parents have enough capital to spend their old age safely, and they are not young, which makes children more willing to be close to their parents without too much psychological burden and guilt; Children have the ability to fight for their own career, try not to be old, and let parents spend their old age with a relaxed attitude.