Have you ever seen a girl not return to her best friend or the leader's WeChat? A person who likes you won't make you disappear suddenly. And a person who respects your time and efforts will not keep your information waiting for that long.
When 70% of my students and girls don't reply, they will have the following thoughts:
"She didn't reply to me. I must have said something wrong yesterday. "
"She must be chatting with the boy who is chasing her!"
"If you still ignore me, you definitely don't like me."
Boys who have little love experience and are not confident in their own value often add so many inner dramas to themselves. I even observe the clues of girls' WeChat steps and friends' pictures every day, hoping to get some information about girls.
This fantasy, in fact, is meaningless, but it will make our chat even more unsuccessful. Because as an outsider, you can't accurately guess the specific thoughts of girls:
Because you have no idea why a girl wants to do something, let alone whether you understand the needs of professional women, but the reality is that you have a certain sense of distance from a girl. Based on this, you can't be sure what kind of psychological changes she will encounter every day.
And if you ask a girl why she is unhappy today, why she doesn't reply to the message today. It is very likely that girls don't know what to say. Even if you ask the same question two days later, her answer will be completely different.
I always can't guess the woman's mind, but it will also cause psychological pressure on myself. When people are under great pressure, whether speaking or taking exams, it will definitely not be smooth sailing.
If you have time to think about why girls don't reply, let's take action together:
1 Maintain equal social low position with each other.
To put it bluntly, girls know it's not good not to return your message, but why do they do it?
Because she doesn't respect you enough!
You can think about it, even if you hate your leader again, or someone who can help you provide value, will you chat so perfunctory?
If you want to be respected by others, you need to make her feel that you are equal people in the process of chatting.
(1) chat text
The number of words represents your emotional dependence on this person
When you like this girl, the number of words you chat will increase unconsciously. Girls also understand this truth.
So when she checks the chat record, if you talk too much and she just scribbles a few words, then the girl's reason will tell her: this man is trying to please me!
People never put people who please themselves on an equal footing.
Therefore, only by controlling the number of words to be equal to that of girls can we shape the premise that we deserve to be respected.
(2) Chat speed
I've seen many boys reply to girls' messages in seconds. In the end, they can only turn to me to save the situation. Because the essence of this matter is that girls reincarnate you, but you return to each other in seconds.
You don't respect your time.
Have you ever seen a man with precious time, waiting for someone's reply with his mobile phone? In the long run, it is impossible to win each other's respect.
There is a standard for the speed of reply: when a girl replies to you in less than 20 minutes, you can wait until 20 minutes to reply.
When a girl replies to you for more than 20 minutes, you need to reply to her every half hour.
2 "Unintentional" Chatting
Girls don't reply, largely because you are too purposeful.
Boys who can't chat often say:
"Have you eaten today?"
"Do you have an appointment on Saturday?"
"Do you want to eat your favorite Xinjiang food?"
As long as the girls give you a little chat signal, the boys will start asking questions or inviting them purposefully. After a long time, girls will find that the only way to avoid your pressure on her is to refuse to chat.
Chatting with girls, some things will inevitably involve each other's privacy. If you ask her directly, it will give her a feeling of low emotional intelligence. At this time, we can talk about related events seemingly inadvertently.
For example, if you want to know her previous emotional experience and directly ask "Why did you break up before", it will instantly detonate the other party's sense of resistance. For example, a salesman wants to sell me health care products. As soon as he comes up, he asks, "Sister, is your cervical vertebra bad recently?" Yes, my cervical spine is not good, but when you ask, I will cover my pockets tightly.
The correct question is to presuppose the result of your question and give people an unintentional chat. For example, if you assume that she had a smooth relationship before, then you say, "The girl who loves to laugh has a smooth relationship, and that must be you."
In this way, if the girl's feelings are not smooth, she will reply: "It's not me." Later, you can naturally talk in depth about "Has anyone broken up with you on their own initiative?"
If her previous emotional experience was really smooth sailing, then she would say, "Not bad." You can also say in depth, "You have a good personality and feel generous and tolerant when you get along with your boyfriend." From this, we can continue to judge her attitude in feelings.
In the above chat, in fact, the focus of your speech has changed, but the other party has fallen into your "trap". This seemingly unintentional questioning was advocated in the early days of sexual relations.
Of course, some boys will ask, "Why can't I let her know my purpose? I like her and want to ask her about her emotional experience. "
Because such problems can prevent men from falling into a passive situation. When your card-I like you, so I want to know you, and this purpose is not exposed, the other party will communicate with you in an equal manner, and once all your cards are displayed, the other party will raise the price and set various frames for you. At that time, when I promised you, it all depended on the girl's mood.
3 Chat step by step to create comfort.
Intimate relationship can be divided into four stages: stranger stage, friend stage, ambiguous stage and lover stage.
If you don't know each other well, but talk about the topic of ambiguous stage, shouting "baby" one by one, which greatly weakens the comfort of communication with each other. Girls think you are too frivolous, so they avoid communicating with you.
At the same time, in the early stage of chatting, as long as you are not sure whether girls like you, don't expose any emotional needs. You are just friends, don't interfere in each other's private lives, and don't expose the friendly attitude of "I like you" in advance.
For example, what do you think of the education of future children? Do you think housework should be shared by men and women?
The essence of this kind of question is that you have preset it-the other person will definitely be with you.
So she will know you in two ways: 1 Asking this question soon after knowing you proves that you already like me very much. I fell in love with someone the first time I saw them. Very superficial. It is impolite to start prying into privacy in such a short time.
Therefore, if you want to turn the target girl into a girlfriend, you must know how to choose the topic step by step.
Here are some reproducible topics for you to talk about when you are not sure that girls like you:
The other person's work status-"What do you do at work?"
Family situation-"You are really a naughty person. Tell me, did you often fight with people when you were a child?"
Hobbies-"I just got back from the gym. Speaking of which, you look like a person who likes fitness. "
Hope to go to a place-"A literary girl like you should like to go to a place like Gulangyu, right?"
These questions are all topics that can be talked about in the friend stage, and will not cause the other party's vigilance and resistance. It must be remembered that women pay attention to state and feelings when chatting. When you create a sense of comfort, you create a prerequisite for their relationship to continue.
Do the above three points, and you will have the inevitable factors to continue to communicate with each other. It is common for girls in love to chat with you all night. Today's chat principle is recommended by everyone. If you have any questions, please contact us by private letter.