After listening to Xiaole's mother's words, I found that their family had several wrong demonstrations of Xiaole's study: First, they interrupted the children's play and asked to do another thing; Second, coerce or force children to learn the specified content; Third, I often criticize him for reading; Fourthly, it has been expressed many times that Xiaole is not a learning material.
The result of Xiaole's mother's doing this may lead Xiaole to have the following impressions: First, learning is not my (Xiaole's) business, but my parents'; Second, studying may make me criticized by my parents; Third, I (Xiaole) didn't learn that material without my parents' approval.
Since the development of children's pedagogy and psychology, one of the most popular educational methods for parents is Montessori education method. She advocates giving children full freedom in study or play, and the teacher only acts as an observer to provide timely guidance when children need help. Some institutions were founded inspired by this great educator? Play middle school? Brand-new teaching concept, this educational model can not only make children like and willing to learn, but also make children learn a lot of knowledge in the process of playing.
0 1, give children full freedom and maximize the effect.
A counselor has a lot to deal with. Children are tired of learning? After the case is over, draw a conclusion:? Only what a child really wants can help him. ?
Only when children have full freedom can they find what they are interested in in the environment. Anything they are interested in can teach them some knowledge, but parents don't have enough knowledge to discover the role of this knowledge in their children.
Xiaochang especially likes rain, because there are snails he likes after rain. Since he first saw snails in reality, he has shown great interest. With the permission of his parents, he keeps a snail and observes its condition every day.
It seems that it is unprofessional to raise snails, but a conversation made parents look at Xiaochang with new eyes. Xiaochang said:? Sometimes we are not as good as a snail. Snails are more tolerant than everyone in our family. ? Parents think? Play? However, it is transformed into strong cognition in children's deep thinking.
There may be dozens or even hundreds of thoughts in a minute, so parents can't just look outside. Play? Appearance, so as to judge the child? Playing with things? . Through equal communication with children, we find that children have unexpected views on what they like to play. If you don't interrupt or predict, you will find that your child will throw a bright spot that surprises you.
02, to prepare an environment conducive to learning for children, we only do a bystander, only when children need help.
If a child likes mobile phones and watches TV, it is because in your prepared environment, only mobile phones and TV attract him. If you judge that mobile TV is bad enough, you should exclude these two things from children's activities.
Some parents said:? Isn't it a bit difficult not to talk on your cell phone or watch TV? ? Adults are so difficult, why do you still ask for a child? ? Don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you? Adults should also meet the requirements of children, otherwise even if the standards are set, the children will agree with your standards and will eventually end in failure.
Xiao Xuan had no contact with mobile phones and TV before he was 3 years old. Someone asked: Is his home in a backward area? No, their home is in the most developed first-tier city. When Xiao Xuan's parents were at home, they agreed not to use the mobile phone, but to dust off the TV in the TV cabinet and not watch TV. Xiao Xuan's mother once made fun of me: My son doesn't even know what TV is now. ?
Many toys in Xiao Xuan are carefully selected by Xiao Xuan's parents. Most of them are Montessori's teaching AIDS, building blocks and tracks, and there are many picture books. Xiao Xuan's father said? We arrange a batch of toys suitable for his stage from time to time. We have enough toys for him to play with. He doesn't need a mobile phone at all. ?
Environment will give children an invisible guide. Xiao Xuan is familiar with the function of each toy and the story of each picture book. His parents just accompany him as bystanders, affirm him in time, and appear in time when he needs help, which provides the most favorable conditions for his independent study.
03. Don't blame and criticize the children who are exploring, which will interrupt their desire to learn.
Parents have a wish to teach their children all their experiences so that they can avoid detours. However, parents' experience belongs to them, and language communication will not really become children's experience. Children can only internalize their own experiences. Therefore, parents should not be in a hurry, nor should they be in a hurry.
Blame and criticism are the most important stumbling blocks that hinder children's desire to learn and increase their weariness of learning. Children have a natural learning ability, otherwise they won't learn to suck, walk and talk. And blame and criticism will make children interrupt their desire to learn things, and this? In some way? It is often the aspect of our criticism. Study? .
What did Xiao Hao show about his study? Two-faced? He is very clever in doing problems at school, and teachers often praise him; When I do my summer homework at home, I procrastinate, make many mistakes, and sometimes stamp my feet with anger. Really fulfilled that sentence? Once, I was very angry with psychological counseling, and I have always been very angry with psychological counseling. Network buzzwords.
After analysis, we found that Xiao Hao's parents reprimanded him immediately when they saw Xiao Hao's mistakes, and Xiao Hao's teacher would not supervise and correct them. When a child is reprimanded by his parents when doing a problem, it has a great influence on the child.