In China, the concept of friends can be traced back to "Confucius said: Isn't it a pleasure to have friends from afar?" When I was in primary school, ten Analects of Confucius in Chinese textbooks were all memorized by us as children. Are those "unfaithful to others?" "Don't believe in making friends?" The philosophy of life used to guide the world seems to have ingrained the concept of friends in our young minds. However, in fact, are friends really as loyal, trustworthy and frank as the Analects says?
Friend, I'm afraid it's not what you think, and you can never leave your fingertips.
In the world of orange sister, the word friend seems particularly strange. In the limited twenty years that she has survived, she has been full of fantasies and sustenance for this group of people, but it is this headless fantasy and sustenance that has made Orange Sister escape from the world of "friends gathering".
When orange sister just graduated from college, she shared a house with a girl with the same vision. Sister Orange likes to call her "Great God Niang", which means a girl with strong ability. "Great God Niang" taught herself IELTS during her college years, and got a perfect score of 9 points in IELTS. She is going to work in China for two years, and then go abroad to find a foreign aviation girl after accumulating experience. Come on, whether it's IELTS, going abroad, or being a flight attendant, these are words that orange sister hasn't thought of, okay? What's more, not to mention that "Great God Niang" has already made such a careful plan.
So, after the two shared a roommate, orange sister called the high-energy person on the left the "great god" on the right. Getting along with excellent people will be more or less positively affected, let alone living with Daniel. This is the psychological activity of orange sister and "Great God Niang" when they first moved from school.
The turning point of the real situation happens in daily life.
As the saying goes, "people are different." Sister orange grew up and understood the meaning of this sentence for the first time. She was praised as a "great god" by orange sister, and showed her true colors to orange sister mercilessly.
Sister orange is not a person who likes to hold grudges or find fault with others. Unless she can't stand it, she will fight back in the oldest way. Of course, the so-called counterattack of a brainless person like Orange Sister is at best a kind reminder to the "Great God Mother". The next step in the counterattack is to "expel" this so-called friend from his friends list.
Even if orange sister can't carry it clearly in this life, she will never tolerate any insincerity with mixed purposes in life. Therefore, the personality of "Goddess Niang" exists, such as arrogance, complacency and self-righteousness. The most common practice of orange sister is to completely alienate her relationship. Even if she lives under the same roof for a long time, this "great god mother" is no longer a friend, and the sinister rivers and lakes are often learned by "friends" first.
Therefore, even if two people come together because of some kind of like-mindedness, in the seemingly natural mode of getting along with friends, there will be a clue at one end, which will lead to the darkest electric current hidden in this relationship.
Do we have to be friends to live under one roof?
Sister orange asserts from her own experience that she may not.
Looking for memories in the past days, orange girl was brought back to the summer of three years ago by a song in the earphone. Orange sister and three girls from different places became freshmen roommates in a university.
When we first met, a girl played the music that was ringing in the earphone of Orange Sister. Surprisingly, all four roommates actually like the same song, which is probably the most beautiful and good start for a classmate in the university dormitory.
One of Orange's roommates is a top student. Every final exam, everyone in the dormitory tries to please the "top students" with all kinds of key points and answers. Of course, this "top student" is also quite generous, always willing to help my roommate get results in the final exam. According to the routine route, the roommates of top students should be the good guys in everyone's mind, without exception. But the reality is often more bloody and unreasonable than the plot of TV series. This "top student" betrayed his roommate in a final exam.
I remember that it was an advanced mathematics exam for my sophomore year. Everyone in my dormitory expects the top student to take care of her roommate at the end of the paper. Of course, the same is true for top students. I thought that the advanced mathematics given by the top students could be muddled through under the strict correction of the teacher. However, the facts are amazing.
"Top students" truthfully recorded the whole process of how they "took care of" their roommates' exams, and posted them intact on the Internet, even with their first and last names. At first, my roommates didn't believe that the top students did it, because the top students always took care of everyone in their studies, and there was no starting point for doing such a hateful thing. However, my roommate got news from the classmates in the next class that top student had actually seen it with his own eyes and went to a senior computer expert in the form of an anonymous letter to shake it online. The purpose is to "expose" the shameful behavior of roommates in the past two years. Of course, this matter has caused a lot of noise in the school. The other two roommates of Orange Unicom were also punished by the school, and even the roommate "top student" failed to escape punishment.
Later, after a long time, Sister Orange gradually realized that her repeated plagiarism with her roommate was indeed wrong, which seriously violated the relevant regulations of the school, so that she was severely warned and punished later. Sister Orange also thought that the punishment was quite reasonable. But what about the top student's roommate? Is it reasonable for her to be punished
Under the consistent self-comforting tactics and psychological effects of Orange Sister, she thinks it is reasonable, but the reason why the top students are punished may not be such a grandiose excuse to help their roommates cheat in the exam, but the extreme division of the top students' roommates.
What kind of mentality has the "top students" been holding for the past two years to help roommates draw the scope of key circles? In this process, isn't the "top students" sincere, and the so-called "plagiarism" is only part of the "top students exposure plan"?
Miss orange has no solution to all these problems. Now, she no longer wants to find out, because "top students" have long since disappeared from her life.
Therefore, the homogeneous and heterogeneous skin incident once again proved to orange sister that even if she lived under the same roof for one year, two years and three years, ....................................................................................................................................
As for the word friend, it widely exists in all kinds of youth novels and stories. Each of us tries our best to understand it, but we always stumble in the process. The people who can really become friends in the end are those who are always close at hand and far away at the same time. They must be ideologically connected, understand each other and support each other. They should not only share joys and sorrows, but also work hand in hand after experiencing many tests of ordinary life.
To this day, Sister Orange doesn't know how to tell whether a person is a true friend or not, so she simply doesn't waste any time on this matter. Sister orange has a kind of optimism brought from the womb. She feels that everything that everyone can't solve must be solved in a powerful time that nothing can replace, and she has always followed this as her life creed.
Time will judge for you. Everyone around you, including friends, lovers, colleagues, etc. Who will be the real emotional bond and gene that they can't understand but can't resist, and who will be the one who will stand by you after the test of time. At that time, you might be able to say confidently, "Hey, I've been waiting for you for a long time."
Whether it is the "top student" roommate in college or the "Goddess Mother" today, Sister Orange tries to decide who is good or bad without subjective thoughts, because as a group of friends, no one can tell whether it is good or bad. For her, she just needs to let time decide. She just needs to be a person who "takes advantage of the fishermen" and see who is patiently waiting for herself behind this glitz.
Of course, in every relationship, whether it is a friend or a lover, a simple negative attitude is absolutely unacceptable. As we all know, there will be a specific mode of getting along with each other, and the mode between each person is also different. This requires us to learn to fight for it ourselves, instead of hiding behind time and waiting for the rabbit to see which friend will "unfortunately" die in your "tree" Behind the truth and falsehood, we need to pay attention to the bits and pieces of life, to distinguish the truth and falsehood of the world, and to experience the diversity of life.
Not much to say, I just hope that one evening in a few years, you can still have wine to drink with your old friends, and you can still laugh and indulge in this life.