Method 1: Avoid unnecessary communication.
1, try to avoid meeting each other. It's easier said than done. You need to remember this and do it consciously at all times. If you work or go to school in the same place, you may not be able to avoid meeting each other completely, but at least you can take some measures to reduce unnecessary contact. Change is difficult, especially for emotional reasons. Be patient with yourself and start with what you can.
You may need to change shops for lunch or buy coffee.
If you always meet each other when walking your dog, you can consider changing your route.
Method 2: Change daily habits.
1, change the schedule. In addition to changing places, you can do some things at other times. So you won't be forced to stop to say hello or communicate when you meet. These movements are difficult and even seem sad, but you can do it. For example, if you are used to exercising at night, you can run in the morning or go to the gym.
Habit is hard to change, but it is the most effective way to avoid meeting.
Method 3: Block them on social media.
1, don't read their posts. Looking at the interesting photos they send all the time will weaken your resistance to them and stimulate your feelings for them, which will lead to your avoidance efforts in vain. Block each other on social accounts in case you can't help looking at their photos or going to their places. You can even stop paying attention to them. If you are worried that this will attract their attention or question, keep quiet. You can block the other party from reading your own post without leaving the customs.
Method 4: Draw a clear line with the object you like.
1, don't touch or tease each other. If they are also interested in you, it is even harder for you not to be emotional, especially if you can't completely avoid them in life. No matter how difficult it is, use your words and deeds to show that you are not interested in developing feelings with them. If they take the initiative, you should resist the impulse and not respond to them. When they start praising you and showing interest in you, you should hold back your heart and don't respond. If you work with them, you can say, "I hope we can stay professional." Thank you for your respect. "
Avoid physical contact. If you meet occasionally, don't touch them casually, lest they misunderstand that you are interested in them.
It's hard to control these impulses, so don't blame yourself if you fail. Cheer up and try to get back on track.
Method 5: Pay attention to other aspects of life.
1. Do what you like and turn your attention away from the object you like. Cultivate new or old hobbies. If you like, you can take on more work projects in the company, so you don't have time to think about emotional things. Try new things, such as playing tennis or taking a painting class. Focusing on an activity can kill time and avoid thinking.
You can also take time to deal with things that have been put off for a long time, such as cleaning the closet. No matter how difficult the times are, you can also bring yourself some gains.
Method 6: Get along with family and friends.
1. Spend time with your loved ones and friends. It's interesting and distracting to get along with them. However, remember to avoid places where you may meet your favorite. Invite friends to start your long-awaited road trip.
Invite mom to go hiking with you at the weekend.
Method 7: Talk to someone you trust.
1, seek the understanding of good friends. It's painful to be touched by someone you can't or shouldn't love. Friends may help you deal with your emotions better. They may give you some advice and the support you need. You can say, "I found myself having feelings for florets. I don't really want to develop feelings with him, but it's hard to let go of this heart. Can you listen to me and discuss this problem with me? "
Make sure that the person you choose to talk to is trustworthy and won't tell others about you.
Method 8: Write down the consequences of interaction.
1, remind yourself of the possible consequences. This process will make you feel uncomfortable. Remember to be patient with yourself. You try to avoid the object you like, probably because you know that it is not a good thing for two people to be together. List the reasons why you shouldn't be together, and let yourself know that "seeing" these reasons may help to let go of this relationship. If you need to convince yourself to stay away from each other, you can look at the reasons on the list and remind yourself that associating with them will only hurt yourself. For example, you can tell yourself, "My association with Xiaohua will hurt Lili. They just broke up. I don't want this to happen. "
Or you can think like this: "Last time I tried to date Xiaoming, his words and deeds hurt me very much." I feel terrible and don't want to experience that feeling again. "
Measure the disadvantages realistically. If you fall in love with someone you shouldn't, think about what harm it will do to your career, friendship and family.
If you or your partner both have their own partners, every time you really want to see each other, remind yourself that doing so will hurt the other two.
Method 9: Don't let yourself always think about each other.
1, try to divert your thoughts. Give yourself time to deal with your emotions, but don't keep thinking about each other. You need to take time to think through this feeling, but you can't let the other person occupy all your thoughts. There is a difference between the two. It's normal to think of each other from time to time, but don't immerse yourself in it. You should try to break this habit and help yourself to let go of this relationship. Whenever you find yourself thinking about them, admit it and let it go. You can think like this: "Well, I think of Xiaohua again. I want to change my mind now and think about playing games with my friends. "
Set a deadline for yourself. Tell yourself you can think for five minutes and then put them down. Set a timer on the mobile phone and observe the time limit set by yourself.
Method 10: List the advantages that attract you.
1. When you are ready to find someone seriously, you can find someone with the same advantages. Even if you can't be with each other, there is no denying that they do have the advantages of attracting you. Think about why you are attracted to them, write down these qualities and consider them as the first condition when looking for new people. For example, maybe they are very friendly to your pet. When you start looking for someone seriously, take "like animals" as a necessary condition.
If you appreciate each other's professional ethics, find someone with the same advantages.
Method 1 1: Disconnect if necessary.
1, and strive to get out of their predicament. It sounds almost impossible, but it is understandable. You are in a very difficult situation and trying to divert your attention and set boundaries. These movements are all good, but sometimes you may need to completely cut off contact with them. Don't reply to their phone calls, text messages or messages on social media. This is hard to do, so be kind to yourself and not be too harsh. You can also rely on your friends when necessary.
Method 12: Check whether your current relationship is healthy.
1. Check whether your needs are met. Sometimes, you may have a crush on someone who is completely opposite to your current partner. This may mean that you want to change your current emotional state. Think about what attracts you to each other, and then think about whether your current partner lacks these advantages. For example, maybe you like each other because they love music as much as you do. Ask your current partner if he would like to accompany you to the concert more often. This may satisfy your inner needs, and your affection for the object you like will gradually fade away.
In this process, your mood may fluctuate greatly. Tell yourself that no matter what emotions you have, they are normal.
Methods 13: If you can't cope, you can consult a psychotherapist.
1, make an appointment with a psychotherapist. It is not easy to deal with your passionate feelings for a person, especially if you have to suppress your feelings and can't act according to them. If you are depressed or anxious, consider seeking professional help. Psychotherapists will help you find a healthy way to deal with this situation. If this is your first time seeking psychological counseling, don't be nervous. It will be awkward at first, but you put mental health first, which is a good start in itself.
Tip Think about all the shortcomings of the other person, and maybe you can motivate yourself to stay away from them.
Be patient with yourself. This situation is difficult to handle, be kind to yourself.