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Educating children is like saving, saving a happy old age for yourself and a bright future for children. However, in this era when the whole people look at "money", some people regard their children as regular passbooks to save affection, kindness, positivity, happiness and conscience; Some people regard their children as overdraft card and overdraw their future at will. Parents just go to the city to make money, and children without family education grow up like weeds, rebellious, fighting, surfing the Internet, falling in love, willful, selfish, rude, or even worse. ...
In the city, children are busy playing the piano, drawing and dancing, listening to music and learning English. When they were young, they were all preparing for the upper class. Children in rural areas just climbed out of the warm bed, or wiped their eyes all night, just reluctantly came out of the Internet cafe, whistling at their elders ... Today, with the slogan of "quality education" loud, don't laugh at the tiredness of children in the city! Don't be glad that you have a free and happy childhood!
Think about how many urban children are confident in the sunshine and how many farm children are at a loss and afraid among the freshmen of famous universities such as Peking University and Tsinghua every year. It seems to be at the same starting point, but the great differences in inner self-cultivation, vision boundary and spiritual level have made many rural children suffer from "acclimatization"-inferiority, self-confidence and no affection in their bones. ?
Li Ka-shing said: "No matter how successful the career is, it can't make up for the failure of children's education." I am convinced.
All people of insight know that education is a child's savings, and the wisdom of their godson is always shining. Some of them cultivate their children into successful people, while others cultivate their children into happy ordinary people.
Whether ordinary or great, having a sunny and warm heart is a successful family education. Being a "gentleman" is the most clear family education goal of the ancients. A gentleman refers to a person with moral quality and accomplishment.
Zhuge Liang wrote a famous book "Ten Commandments" for his son. "The gentleman's trip, static to cultivate one's morality, frugal to cultivate one's morality. If you are not indifferent, you will have no ambition, and if you are not quiet, you will be far away. "
Zheng Banqiao also left his son a tutor motto, "Eat your own food, sweat your own sweat, rely on people and ancestors, and don't be a hero". Left Poems of "Three Soviet Writers" and "Three Caos"
Good family education puts morality first, and family is often the best base for successful incubation. ?
Even Yuan Shikai attaches great importance to the education of his children and grandchildren. He believes that "the root of family education is the foundation of cultivating talents." His grandson, Yuan Jialiu, made great contributions to high-energy physics and won the highest national science and technology award twice.
Liang Qichao is a successful example of his godson. His son Liang Sicheng is a famous architect. He designed the Monument to the People's Heroes, Tiananmen Square, Tianning Temple to welcome the Olympic Games and so on.
Zeng Guofan's family education wisdom is condensed in Zeng Guofan's family instructions. Since then, this family has been brilliant all the way: * * has trained more than 240 famous diplomats, poets, educators and scientists who are proficient in Chinese and Western cultures. He said to his descendants, "I hope to be a gentleman who understands reading." People think that reading and understanding are the core of family education. Coincidentally, the Edward family in Britain has 13 university presidents, 100 professors, 80 writers, 60 doctors and 20 members of parliament! It can be seen that family education and family culture play a vital role in people's growth. Know how to save for children's education, and there will be gains in the harvest season.
I even agree with Fu Lei's idea of teaching children. He wrote to his son Fu Cong in A Letter from Fu Lei that a person must be strong, indomitable in failure, arrogant in victory and good at controlling his emotions. "Too much rain will drown crops and too much sunlight will scorch grains." Under his gentle teaching, Fu Cong became a world-famous pianist. Strength and success are his greatest savings for his son. His parenting style has universal adaptability. ?
On the other hand, the family education of rural children today is seriously absent! A survey of ninth grade 170 students in a rural middle school shows that more than 50% children are unwilling to tell their parents who work outside the home that you have worked hard. Many parents go to work in cities, but they can't see their children all year round. The so-called mentor is just a few greetings on the phone. There is no intimate trust relationship between parents and children, and strangeness and alienation, deception and laziness, passivity and slack have become common derivatives.
See the children in the city in the previous generation of "high-rise" cycle, rural children in the cycle between wall blank and cement. Instead of using yourself as a negative example, complaining to children about the hardships and difficulties of work, instead of denouncing and accusing children of not making progress and rebelling in their studies, it is better to reflect on their family education and what the problems are, so as to help children grow up.
If rural families want to fight a turnaround, they should start with family education, start from an early age, and do not distinguish between urban and rural areas. Interest is the sunshine of children and the happiness of parents in their later years.