Help is mutual. When others need help, we will naturally get help from each other when they need help.
However, to help others, there must be principles and a bottom line. Not everything can be helped. In the workplace, don't be a good person without principles. No matter how good your relationship is, don't help these four kinds of human feelings.
Your ability is limited. Don't help if you can't do it.
Remember to do what you can when helping others. If you can't do it yourself, you won't promise others. Otherwise, the hard-won feelings of two people will be easily destroyed.
Xia Lan is an honest man. She is not very expressive at ordinary times, but she is very enthusiastic. Every time a colleague asks her for help, she will readily agree.
Once, a colleague asked her to help with a project evaluation. Because I have never been exposed to this kind of work before, I wanted to try it myself and agreed.
I thought it was not difficult and it would be solved soon. As a result, due to lack of experience, I groped for it and gave it to my colleagues, and they didn't dislike it.
Colleagues also directly complained that "if such a small thing can't be done well, how can it become a big deal in the future?" You are so stupid! "
Xia Lan was also very wronged when he heard colleagues say this. He works very hard. Not only was he not thanked, but he was also complained and disliked by his colleagues.
After this incident, colleagues never asked her for help, and she gradually alienated her colleagues. The relationship between two people is basically a stranger.
The good relationship between colleagues is not done well because of help, which directly affects the relationship between two people. Therefore, in the workplace, you must do what you can and don't force yourself to do what you can't do.
Things beyond your ability, even if you try your best to do them, can't meet each other's standards. The other party will think that you are perfunctory and serious, but it will affect the relationship between two people and cause estrangement.
Therefore, when others ask you for help, first evaluate your own strength and don't promise what you can't do.
Help others make important decisions, not help.
Wise people's deliberation leads to losses, while fools' deliberation leads to gains. Don't help people who need to make important decisions easily. Say no if you can.
Sister Li has worked for many years and has a certain voice in the company. Colleagues around her often ask her some questions, and she will answer them patiently.
Once, my colleague Xiao Ni had a problem at work and wandered back and forth between two activity plans. I don't know which one to choose, so let Sister Li take a look for me.
Sister Li gave a suggestion, saying that Plan A is better and more reasonable, which is very suitable for publicity at this time.
So Xiao Ni handed over Plan A to the leader. As a result, the plan was passed by the leaders. The reason is that this plan is not novel. Xiao Ni was wronged and told the leader that this was the plan agreed by Li Jie.
Sister Li was also criticized by the leader for this incident. Sister Li made a good idea and was finally implicated. She was also very angry.
The relationship between the two people, but also alienated because of this incident, should have been well-intentioned help, but the result was implicated, and they were very upset.
So don't help others when they need important decisions. Even if you have rich experience, you can't think completely from the other side's point of view. Everyone has different views. Once you make a wrong decision, it is easy to be accused by the other party.
Don't help blindly when personal interests are involved.
Help others have a choice, remember to save the poor. If the other party asks you for help, no matter how good your relationship with the other party is, don't help the other party blindly.
Xiaoling and Xiao Hu have a good relationship. They often go to work together and share a room. One month, Xiaoling bought something for her family, and as a result, she spent too much money and couldn't turn around for a while.
So Xiaoling borrowed 2000 yuan from Xiao Hu. Originally, she agreed to return the salary to the other party, but the salary was delayed and she didn't talk about paying back the money.
The two still live together, and Xiao Hu is embarrassed to let the other party pay back the money, so it dragged on for half a year. Later, Xiao Hu needed to buy a new computer because her computer was broken. She didn't have enough money, so she asked Xiaoling to pay back the money.
Xiaoling pushed from pillar to post and thought that the other party cared too much about money, so there was an argument. After the house expired, Xiao Hu moved out directly.
No matter how good the relationship between two people is, it is best not to help others blindly. People are unpredictable. Once you help the wrong person, you have to bear the consequences. Therefore, when it comes to money and interests, don't help if you can't.
Don't help if you are not grateful, and don't wronged yourself.
The help between people should be mutual. Appreciate others' help and lend a helping hand when they need it.
A Ying is an easy-going person. As long as she has time, she will take the initiative to help her colleagues, and her interpersonal relationship in the workplace is also very good. Everyone likes her very much.
But once, I heard a colleague say behind her back that she was meddling. It turned out that once, she took the initiative to help her colleagues revise the manuscript. The manuscript was revised and handed over to the leader, which failed.
Colleagues were very angry and thought it was a change of A Ying. What she said was unreasonable and there were many problems. Ying is very angry.
Afterwards, this colleague asked A Ying to revise the manuscript again, and A Ying directly refused.
No matter how many times you help an ungrateful person, the other person will not appreciate it. Moreover, in the workplace, help is mutual, and people who are neither grateful nor helpful to others are not worth helping.
No one's help is taken for granted. Don't end up doing yourself a disservice to help others. Kindness has a bottom line. Don't let your kindness fail.
In the workplace, no matter how good the relationship between you is, when you help others, you should also look at each other's character and don't let your kindness become your burden and trouble. May your kindness bring more kindness!