Humanity in the workplace is complicated. Don't treat your colleagues as friends. He's laid off, but you're not. Can your colleagues feel comfortable? It's not good for you to say or not. You'd better choose not to say and pretend you don't know.
First, there are no real friends in the workplace. It is not recommended to say that two friends go to work in the company together, and one's salary is higher than the other, which will lead to contradictions. What's more, the subject is not a good friend, just an ordinary colleague.
If you feel guilty about your colleague's concealment, imagine his attitude of being laid off. I was fine at work, and it must be hard to be suddenly laid off.
So sometimes not telling her is for her own good. She will know sooner or later, but it should be the boss, not the employees at the same level.
The boss said that no matter how dissatisfied she is, she will only take it out on her boss. If you tell her in advance, this anger will be vented on you.
Put yourself in others' shoes again. She will tell you that you are fired. Can you not think about it? I will feel that my existence poses a threat to her and deliberately say that so that you can resign on your own initiative.
And in the workplace, there are no real friends, so it is not recommended to say. No matter how good they used to be, few people can keep in touch after leaving their jobs. Some even played well with you in the company and blacked you out after resigning.
It's all about colleagues. Telling her in advance will only be bad for you, not good for you.
Second, before things are determined, lay off colleagues with big variables. I don't know whether this topic is hearsay or true, but in either case, it's useless to say it before things are uncertain.
Maybe the former leader wants to lay off employees and lay off your colleague who had a good time. But seeing you talking nonsense everywhere, dumping her in a rage and laying you off, who are you going to cry to?
At present, during the epidemic, all walks of life are under great pressure, and there will indeed be layoffs, but now it is just gossip, and there is no definite list of layoffs, so don't say anything until the matter is confirmed.
When I was young, colleagues often said they would resign. I thought she was really going to resign, so when I left, I heard the news that the boss said she was going to resign, and I turned around and told her.
As a result, she was very angry and broke up with me. She hasn't contacted me since she left her job. After this incident, I also understand that words can't be spread around. If you feel kind, don't tell your colleagues. This kind of behavior belongs to oneself and will not be appreciated by colleagues.
Third, colleagues will think that you have ulterior motives in the workplace. No matter what you say, others will suspect that you have ulterior motives, so it is not recommended to say it.
You told your colleagues that they didn't believe you, thought you were lying, and even thought you said something to the leader, which led to her being laid off and would not talk to you again.
You don't say that you feel that you deliberately didn't tell her, thus alienating you. Besides, if you don't lay her off, she will be psychologically unbalanced. Maybe after she leaves, she will spread rumors that you forced her to leave.
I have the most say in this question, so I won't say it. Our company has no cash flow due to the epidemic. Most of our employees' salaries have been reduced by 80%. There are still a few employees who have been laid off, such as my colleague Lili, who have a good relationship.
At that time, my colleagues in the administration department told me and showed me the documents of the company's layoffs list.
I have been struggling for a long time, and I don't know if I should tell Lili. Then I thought about it and told her as soon as possible that I could let her find a job as soon as possible. Knowing that the recruitment demand is decreasing and the competition is becoming more and more fierce during the epidemic, she can make preparations earlier, go to the interview earlier and find a new job.
Much better than eating, drinking and having fun at home all the time. Besides, she and her husband have to pay back a mortgage of 20 thousand yuan every month, and life is not easy.
I thought about it and told her about it. I didn't expect Lili to ask me: Are you laid off?
I had to answer her: neither did I.
I can see that Lili is very unhappy. She is unhappy not because she was laid off, but because I was not laid off as a colleague.
Later, after the layoff list was actually issued, I wanted to care about her and ask her if she had started looking for a job and how it was going. As a result, I sent a message and found that she had blacked me out.
My heart is really cold. From then on, I thought I would never set foot in this kind of thing again, mainly for the following reasons.
First, there is competition among colleagues. People's hearts are not as good as we thought. We have to say that most people want to live better than others around them. If once the other person surpasses himself, then we will be jealous.
Over time, some people will gradually alienate, which is better, and some people will keep stumbling behind them.
I think of Aunt Xu and Zhai Xiaoyun in Anjia. Zhai has always been jealous of Aunt Xu. He tried every means to overthrow Aunt Xu. First, he used this room to get rid of Xu Wenchang, and then he used his connections to make them completely unemployed.
So if you are not laid off, but your colleague is laid off, especially if you tell him the news yourself, then others may think you are showing off and your heart will be extremely unbalanced. Doing one more thing is better than doing one less thing. Naturally, it is best not to say.
Second, is the news reliable? We heard that our colleague was fired, so who did you hear it from? Is this source reliable?
If it is said by a company executive, or someone familiar with the executive, you can believe it. But if it's just ordinary employees, it's probably just a rumor.
Telling my colleague about it without confirmation will inevitably make him panic. In case he didn't get laid off in the end, how should we explain it to others?
So I think it's better not to talk about it.
Mu Mu's viewpoint
I can't say, brother, you mean well, but your colleagues may not be happy. He's laid off, and if you don't, you'll be more or less uncomfortable. What will you do if he impulsively conflicts with the company and involves you?
Unless you have the ability to change the result, you'd better not say it. And things haven't come to the last minute. What if there is a reversal drama? The best way is to pretend not to know what to do.
Let's have a good analysis:
First, you will feel sad if your friend fails in the exam, and you will feel even more sad if your friend scores 100.
Don't think you are friends. You tell him that he will be happy. Unless you are on the layoff list, they can comfort each other and berate the company. Otherwise, in his view, you just add salt to the wound.
There is a very important principle in getting along with people in the workplace. If you want to get a good relationship, first of all, don't tell others what you have and others don't. Second, don't tell others what you don't have, others have bad things.
On the other hand, if you are really a good friend in the workplace, what you have to do at this time is not to tell him, but to think about what you can do to help him save it. If not, at least, don't put salt on his wound. Not saying is the best friendship.
Second, there are no secrets in the workplace and you don't need to tell him.
There is a great probability that you don't have to say it, and colleagues themselves know it. There are no secrets in the workplace. If one person can know a piece of news, so can others.
Everyone must have experienced such a similar scene. A colleague who feels a good relationship with you is eager to share a company secret with you. When he finished, you told him, "That's it. I knew it long ago." Does it feel familiar? Yes, the fastest spreading in the workplace is not the system of public release, but the so-called secret.
However, you can't spread it on your own initiative just because there are no secrets in the workplace. Smart people in the workplace, don't say that they don't know the secret, even if they do, they will pretend not to know. What are the advantages of doing so?
Leaders want employees to focus more on their own work rather than spreading company secrets. So, even if you already know a secret, when others tell you, you should say, "I don't know."
Therefore, in the workplace, first understand that there are no secrets, and then understand that you should not pass on news, so that leaders and colleagues feel that you are a person who does things, not a gossip.
Third, in the workplace, things may not change until the last minute.
There are too many twists and turns in the workplace, especially personnel changes, such as appointment and dismissal, and often reverse dramas are staged. The names on the layoff list are not immutable. Before things fall to the ground, anything may change the leader's mind and make individual adjustments temporarily.
Moreover, in this special period of layoffs, it is most important to protect yourself. Suppose you tell your friends, we guess a possible development:
Your friend thinks that he is no worse than you. Why did he get laid off and you didn't? He went to the leadership theory, and the leader knew that you leaked the news. I was afraid that he would make too much trouble, so I left him behind, and then I replaced your name on the layoff list and asked him not to tell you. In this case, do you think your friends will kindly tell you before the list is officially announced?
Think about whether it is terrible, but when personal core interests are often involved, protecting yourself is everyone's instinct, and of course it is also your friend's instinct. Workplace friendship always has a premise, that is, there can be no conflict of interest.
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So, first of all, you said that he would not be happy and might hate you; Then, there is no secret in the workplace, he will know it himself, and you don't need to tell him; Finally, things are not at the last moment, and may change at any time. At this time, the best way is to be quiet, go to work and get off work, as if you don't know anything.
The above are the views shared on this issue, hoping to help everyone.
I suggest you don't say:
First, from the perspective of responsibility, this is a matter of human resources and should be notified by HR;
Second, your colleagues don't know about layoffs, which means that the company is also considering it, and it may not be the final result, so it is not appropriate to tell them rashly;
Third, even the fact that your colleague was laid off, if you tell me, it will cause unnecessary misunderstanding and seriously make your colleague think that you are in the way;
Since we have a good relationship, instead of informing him about the dismissal, it is better to think of other ways for him, and then help him with his advice after formal notification, which is the best choice for you and your colleagues.
Caution.
I suggest telling the truth, don't think too much, tell him in advance, and let him have a remedy or later plan. If you hide it, he will definitely blame you when he finds out later. Why don't you tell him!
Many people often think that this kind of question is not a good thing and should not be said from your mouth, lest people think that your schadenfreude has affected the relationship. Actually, it is not a mature idea.
0 1 Try not to add any psychological burden to yourself. It is recommended to consider everything, don't think too much, and the judgment with emotion or emotion is not good.
If you think too much about this matter, it will be mixed with emotions and increase a lot of psychological burden. As long as there are objective facts, you can tell others truthfully.
If a colleague complains about you because of what you said, then this friend should not think that you have ulterior motives just because you told him truthfully that you were laid off. Then this well-connected colleague suggests that you break up the relationship as soon as possible. This person can't pay.
These are my suggestions for your reference.
If it were me, I would pretend not to know. If you are laid off, your colleagues will secretly tell you that you are laid off. What are you thinking about?
First of all, it will be incredible. After learning the truth, I will feel that it is not kind to tell my secret colleague, but fortunately, he is not the one who was laid off, gloating.
So, if you tell your colleagues, they won't appreciate you because it's not a good thing. On the contrary, I will blame you for meddling, knowing all the information about his layoffs makes him lose face.
In this case, sometimes it's a good idea to play dumb. If you talk less, you will cause yourself less trouble. If you talk more, your best colleagues will misunderstand you.
Then why say it?
Besides, you should know that you shouldn't reveal anything until it is officially announced. If the company changes its mind temporarily, your best colleague will misunderstand that you are talking nonsense and suspect that you have ulterior motives and offended a good colleague.
Therefore, it is the wisest to see through it in the workplace.
I am Amu Mu in the workplace, and I don't think I should tell him.
First, why not say it?
1, the company has not announced layoffs, everything is variable.
Xiao Li works in a company. Once he went to the leader's office to deliver a report and saw a document on the leader's desk, which was a list of layoffs. Xiao Li was curious and looked at it. He found that his colleagues were on the list of layoffs and usually walked closer. Xiao Li told the news to his colleagues.
But when the news of layoffs came down, his colleagues were not laid off! Although his colleague was not laid off, he didn't want to talk to Xiao Li. He felt that Xiao Li was unreliable. He felt that Xiao Li lied to him and was deliberately laid off, which made him sad. The relationship between the two people has since broken down.
Therefore, when the news of layoffs has not been officially issued, no one knows who will be laid off in the end, so don't talk nonsense everywhere.
You feel happy with him, but you have no real friends in the workplace.
Although this sentence feels gloomy, it is true. What do we do in the workplace? Make money! When there is no conflict of interest between you and your colleagues, their relationship is very good, but if there is conflict of interest, their relationship is easy to break down.
If you tell your friend that he is on the layoff list, it is possible that he will do something to keep his position, such as playing tricks behind his back, such as giving gifts to the leader and changing the layoff list. Speaking of layoffs, it may not be him but you.
Telling him may cause misunderstanding.
If you tell your friend at this time, your friend may think that you caused him to appear on the list, and he may think, why don't others know about the layoff list, only you know? Did you speak ill of me behind my back?
At this time, he will be full of doubts, and the first object of doubt is you, because you told him the bad news at the first time. You think it's kind, but it may cause unnecessary trouble and misunderstanding. It's better not to say anything.
Second, what should we do at this time?
1. Pretend nothing happened.
I didn't see the list of layoffs, and the company didn't publish it. Pretend you don't know anything You should work and play with this colleague. You saw the layoff list, and he didn't know.
Even if he finally gets laid off, it's none of your business. Don't tell him that you have seen the list. It's no use. He was fired. Tell him again. Maybe he still hates you for not telling him earlier. But the above analysis, can't tell him earlier.
2. Don't tell anyone either.
If you don't tell the client, of course, don't tell others. If he learns from others that you know this, it will probably deepen the misunderstanding. Besides, do you know what happens when your words are processed by others? Maybe you will become the object of suspicion and the bad guy in the eyes of your colleagues.
So, when you learn that your colleague has been laid off, you still don't tell him, because no one will know who has been laid off until the end. If you tell him, it may cause all kinds of misunderstandings. What you need to do is to work with peace of mind as usual, so that if your colleague is really laid off, then you two can still be friends.
Hello, I am glad to answer your question, saying that it is definitely necessary, which can be said by the leader, others or you. Your friend was fired. He must have a reason. If you want to talk to him, you can just tell him to resign and find a job that suits you better. Tell him gently, maybe he will understand. I hope I can help you.