Author: Xia Ran.
Publishing House: Anhui People's Publishing House
Release date: 2065 438+08 02 0 1.
Content abstract: This book puts forward solutions to various problems faced by modern people in the fast-paced urban life. This book will lead the readers to have a comprehensive perspective of the current social situation from all angles, trace back to the roots of modern people's life pressure, and interpret the "determination of ordinary people" in the sense of the times. The combination of cases and analysis, and the combination of theory and practice, from shallow to deep, perfectly presents the golden rule of cultivating concentration.
Psychological aspect: self-determination mentality
Recommended reason for soul coffee: If you are impetuous, confused and have doubts about the future, this book is just for you. It enables readers not only to understand their determination, but also to master it, making it easier for them to feel happy, gain success and win the * * * of "career" and "life" in the fast-paced and high-pressure modern urban life.
Wonderful book excerpt:
The true face of Dingli Mountain
Everyone came into this world because of his own choice. No one has the right to choose his own life or death. The only thing you can control is how to live. Life is a long journey, the world of mortals is like the sea, and everyone is just a boat swaying in it. Some people have no distractions, go forward bravely and reach the other side of the ideal; Some people linger on the beautiful scenery along the way and abandon their original intention. In the end, their hopes were disillusioned, their beliefs fell, and their spiritual world was blank.
Tracing back to the source, it is all because of the difference in strength. Life is short, and if you want something, you can't let too many things tempt you, too many troubles accumulate in your heart, and too many efforts are directed. If you want to simplify your life, you must have an invincible determination.
Determination comes from Buddhist language. In the general program of Buddhism, there are three schools: abstinence, determination and wisdom. Discipline is discipline, determination is meditation, and wisdom is wisdom. The so-called meditation is not necessarily an external meditation, but an internal indifference. People have six, and often six are unclean; All sentient beings are often infected with the three poisons of "greed and delusion", namely greed, anger and delusion. For this reason, "three omissions" is a wonderful method to treat "three poisons", and "meditation" is the key to moving from "abstinence" to "wisdom". Buddhism has a cloud, and "Ding" is the center of Buddhism. In the Tang Dynasty, Qian Qi said in "The Cave of the Holy Monks in Experience Island": "There is no limit to the concentration, and I don't know who the meditation monk is." In fact, as a Buddhist said, "Meditation in a broad sense not only refers to meditation, but also the practice of meditation is intended to cultivate people's concentration. Those who have determination have solid mindfulness, such as pure water, no waves, no logistics, no boundaries, openness and selflessness, and those who have determination are pure, not confused by illusions or fame and fortune. If they practice to a certain extent, they will naturally become enlightened.
Of course, putting "Dingli" in the context of Buddhism will inevitably lead to some profound difficulties. In daily life, most people have to make a living first. If the "complete consciousness" pursued by Buddhists is a spiritual realm, then the survival concept of an ordinary person is a material realm. In this way, the secular also needs a certain concentration, and this concentration is also a state of mind.
So what's the determination? From the internal and external point of view: on the one hand, concentration is the restraint of inner desires, that is, mental willpower, appetite and sexual desire. However, people not only have basic needs, but also greed, many of which must be restrained and put down. "Gain and loss" means that you will lose something, and only when you lose it can you get it. Concentration can control your inner balance; On the other hand, the so-called determination is manifested in contact with the outside world, that is, not blindly following, not impetuous, and calm. Put it in life is to be good at thinking, observing and seeing clearly before acting. In popular terms, honey, "hold" to live.
In the vat of society, can you grasp yourself perfectly, pass the test, realize the nirvana of your career and even your life, or sigh for a moment? How many people have exhausted their youth and struggled all their lives, but all their efforts have been wasted because of a small impulse. Looking at today's ever-changing and complicated investment market, real people never follow the trend, but stress stability, accuracy and firmness. Therefore, if you want to dance with wolves, if you don't have extraordinary determination, you may end up playing retail investors in the game.
Therefore, determination is the teacher of success. If you want to do great things, you must have determination. Learning literature and martial arts requires determination, such as scientific research, art, sports and so on. Even if you are skilled in chess and painting, you must rely on extraordinary determination to stand out.
The young painter went to visit the famous French painter Menser and asked him a question: "I can often make a painting in one day, but it always takes a year to sell it." . Menser smiled. "Why not try it the other way around?" . The young man thought for a moment and then went back with a feeling of understanding. Since then, every time he paints, he will patiently conceive and ponder over it, striving for vigor and vividness, and every time he fails, he will destroy and redraw it. The ending of the story can be imagined, but there are often too many truths.
In the wave of market economy, fewer and fewer painters can stick to their inner ideals and loyalty to art. It is true that in today's fiery art investment market, it is difficult to have a place if they refuse to cater to the market's value preference. Maybe after ten years, you will end up with a lonely lamp and run out of youth. However, we are always surprised to find that those works that tend to be kitsch will never become treasures. Only people with extraordinary perseverance can finally reach the peak of art. A well-known painter has studied literature, history and philosophy since childhood, studied painting theory and read a lot of poems. When he became a famous artist and shook the painting world, he said, "I just insisted on the determination of China's traditional pen and ink spirit." Although the outer edge is very hot and the inner edge is very cold, is the residual strength ok? This is the precious calmness and composure of the troubled contemporary painting world, and the dazzling aura of success shines with perseverance.
Being in the middle and being outside is the concentration. According to legend, I rode a green cow to Hanguguan in the west and wrote the Tao Te Ching, which began with "Tao can be Tao, but extraordinary;" The name can be named, which is the nature of Tao, but it is unusual. From this perspective, concentration is also a kind of Tao, which is intangible and indescribable, but it is real from "abstinence" to "wisdom"; Act on the heart and guide behavior; Can be used for steelmaking, can also be used for winding fingers; It can be understood as an inscrutable "meditation" realm, and it can also be understood as a simple attitude towards people. In short, concentration is inseparable from people, exists in people's hearts, and affects people's consciousness and actions; Conversely, different people's knowledge and experience will form different degrees of concentration, and the degree of concentration here refers to the degree and scope.
Plato restored the dialogue between Socrates and Hippophae rhamnoides about beauty in The Great Seabuckthorn. We may know what beauty is, but it is difficult to give an essential answer to "what is beauty". So is the concentration, so it doesn't really matter what the concentration is; What the concentration is, what it can bring and how to cultivate it are all values.
Discipline and wisdom make people busy.
In the real society, we have experienced various processes from stability to turbulence, from average to inequality, from harmony to competition, and from poverty to prosperity. After the changes in each stage have brought different degrees of impact to modern people's minds, we have no choice but to find that the "panic" mentality has invaded our lives like a poisonous fungus, and inadvertently it has become a shadow that goes hand in hand. People panic when they have no money, panic when they have money, and panic even more when they have a lot of money. Sometimes, money brings a luxurious life, but it takes away a sense of security and happiness.
In this special situation, people have to regard safety and happiness as an extravagant hope. Every morning, after the alarm clock rings three times, I reluctantly climb out of the warm nest, make up for half an hour, and run for a cold breakfast on the road to catch the bus for one second; As soon as I saw the boss, I immediately shook off the fatigue of working all night and smiled brightly. After the boss left, fatigue came faster than changing face. Order a simple takeaway at noon. Although American fast food restaurants such as McDonald's and KFC are very sorry for people's stomachs, they will always be packed at lunch time. At the moment of going to work, getting off work, working overtime and pushing open the door, the day is over again, but it seems that the hard work of every day has just begun. Under the tired face is a lonely, insecure and happy heart.
For this reason, timely bestsellers such as Decoding Happiness, The Way to Success, and The Mind Code are quite popular in the book market. This just captures the modern people's desire for security and happiness. However, if we can't see that the spiritual root of this phenomenon is caused by "inattention", then all the preaching can only be scratching one's boots and seeking fish from the edge of the wood. After understanding the "determination" in this book, you will find that the "panic" mentality is not inevitable, it can be completely changed and defended.
First of all, concentration depends on discipline, which is very important for inner control. In the face of complicated society, only without anxiety and impetuousness can we not panic and lose. Learning to control emotions is the premise of freedom; Discipline is to abide by the basic principles of life and prevent mistakes in behavior, language and thought. The so-called "basic principle" is to define an insurmountable bottom line for your life. For example, bad emotions such as not getting angry at will, not malicious abuse, not being negative and decadent are often like drugs. We know it's harmful, but it's still hard to refuse. Once contacted, it will accumulate in the bottom of my heart a little, and unconsciously it will become a "character" that goes deep into the bone marrow. The same is true of "panic" mentality, which often leads to mistakes and makes life and work in an embarrassing situation; For the "flustered person" who has no determination in his heart, the predicament undoubtedly deepens the degree of "panic". In this cycle, life naturally ends in a bleak ending of "one short step makes an everlasting regret." Therefore, in order to break this situation, we must quit the panic mentality and "panic". It is to face the weakness of human nature and expose the wound to the air. It may be very painful, but it is most conducive to treatment. Give yourself an appropriate resistance, slow down the pace of Mercedes-Benz, and slow down the nervous heartbeat, and you will maintain a perfect state in the long-distance running of life. Only when people are busy can they see their own way clearly and constantly adjust their direction and speed in the era of thousands of ships racing. At this point, will you panic?
Secondly, concentration is a key to open the door of wisdom. People with a certain mind often have great wisdom in life. What is wisdom? A real climber not only stands on the summit, but also collects all the lakes, mountains, birds and flowers. Enjoy the scenery when the road is bumpy, as long as there is a bright future ahead. This is wisdom. Peace of mind, the goal is ahead, go on, no matter how far you will go. So, what are we still flustered about? Isn't this panic imposed on yourself? The same is true of unfortunate feelings. We often see the happiness of others, but seldom realize our own happiness. We cry or exult in other people's stories, but when we turn around, we can only feel that our world is dark and silent, cold and lonely. A wise man never knows what a hurry is, and he is calm and open-minded: even if he is "busy", he can take his time; The more "busy" you are, the more you can "steal leisure from busy" and "take quiet from busy". In other words, a busy life is also a kind of enrichment and struggle. If you are not blind, you will see more beautiful scenery, dreams and happiness while seeing dollars, beautiful women and fine wine.
Actually, the most terrible thing in life is not being busy, but being blind. "Busy" is a fast-paced life rhythm, and "blind" is a state of inner uncertainty. Bi Shumin said in Blindness of Happiness, "Blindness of Happiness is like color blindness, which reduces the gorgeous world to a blurred black-and-white photo. Wipe away the pupil of your happiness, and you will see the hidden, covered and confused happiness, just like a mermaid rising from the deep sea, feeding us. " And this process of polishing eyes is the process of accumulating strength, and it is the process of transforming a strong enough inner strength into life wisdom. Later, you will find that the so-called "sense of security" and "happiness" are a normal state of life rather than extravagant hopes and fantasies; Stick to your own strength, you can be busy or not, you can be busy or not blind!
For people, the external environment acts on consciousness through matter, and consciousness will respond to external things with subjective initiative. In this process of going in and out, it is very important to observe and act under the guidance of inner determination: a thorough and clear understanding of the essence and correct and firm action are the fundamental ways for us to balance all aspects of life and work. "Discipline, determination and wisdom" is a whole system without obvious boundaries, and there is no absolute discipline, determination and wisdom. Only in this complete system can we finally master the "fundamental way" of life.
The way of psychological activity, the ideological power to resist temptation
The most explicit description of human emotions is instinct and desire. Psychologist Freud once suggested that human life instinct includes sexual instinct and individual survival instinct. It can be seen that there is no obvious difference between desire and instinct, and instinct is just a universal desire that is objectively accepted and recognized by us. Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory illustrates this problem well, and when the naked word "desire" evolved into elegant "demand", the concentration of all mankind made a qualitative leap, because we finally realized that desire itself is not shameful, and we learned to face up to the roots of our existence and survival bravely and intelligently.
Another word that accompanies desire is temptation. Temptation is a very strange thing If we simply use derogatory terms to describe it, then many great explosive forces brought by temptation will be mercilessly ignored. The temptation of interests ignited the fuse of colonial oppression. It is true that the modern history of mankind is bloody and tragic, but from today's perspective, the arrival of the era of big machine production is the source of historical change; The lure of gold started the trend of gold digging in the west and abandoned the "money worship", which is undoubtedly the spontaneous promoter of the development of the western United States. It can be said that the temptation side is destructive loss; On the other hand, it is an opportunity for creation.
So, is it destruction or creation? Is it loss or opportunity?
The answer depends on your concentration!
We know that the subject of desire is human, but the object of desire can be everything in the world. As small as a grass and a tree, as big as birth, illness and death, it can be what human beings desire. It's just that once the desire is not satisfied, as the saying goes, "I can't wait, but I think it will suit me." Trouble appeared, and desire escalated into temptation. So the temptation comes from both the heart and the external things. In short, temptation stems from a special psychological state of greed for what people want but can't get. At this time, people's desires are often too strong, and the so-called "greed" is a sense of dissatisfaction.
In this world, there are too many temptations in front of us: what do you want from fame, profit, power and color, and how many people can tell you clearly? Tao Yuanming hung the seal, Cao Xueqin took great pains, and Yang Shen shouted out the heartfelt wishes of "Heaven knows, earth knows, you know, I know" to the bribers. They know what they want rather than their noble personality, which is actually the embodiment of "concentration" How difficult it is to have a "determination" in the face of all kinds of temptations! Therefore, the old gentleman in Wu Cheng'en put one beauty after another in front of Pig Bajie in a playful style. Bajie made a lot of gaffes in front of these beautiful women, which attracted readers to laugh. This smile is actually self-deprecating. Compared with Bajie, Tang Priest is divorced from reality, in fact, because he knows what he wants. Huineng said to the monk who was debating whether the wind was moving: it's not the wind, it's not moving, it's your heart moving. This is incredible, and it makes sense to think about it. In secular life, if the mind can "calm down" and want to know what it wants and what it can want, many things are actually very simple.
In daily life, for those who are determined to lose weight, delicious temptations like ice cream are everywhere; For people in the workplace, it is also a temptation for the company to offer a higher salary and let you leave the company that has served for nearly ten years. In the face of an easy-to-get self-interest, it is necessary and a temptation to lose a little collective interest. Sometimes these temptations make people feel really excited! However, in the face of temptation, is it an opportunity or an abyss? This is not a simple question. You need to rely on your inner strength to find out what you want and whether you are sure to get it. Job-hopping may be a good choice; But if you stay, you may get a higher salary and better development prospects.
In the final analysis, we should judge the situation, do what we can and deal with the temptation. First ask yourself whether you really need the so-called temptation, where is the temptation, and what are the benefits and values it brings you? Second, think about the pros and cons of your decision, how deep it will be, how they will bear it, and what you need to do about it. Third, look at the environment, what are the environmental support factors and environmental resistance, and what is the probability of achieving the goal under the current conditions. Finally, you need to consider your own strength and the consequences of making a choice.
Sometimes, temptation often leads people into crisis. But the crisis itself means danger and a turning point. With determination, you will see the situation clearly and seek advantages and avoid disadvantages; You can even use your determination to turn crisis into opportunity and turn Gan Kun around.
The content of this book:
order
Chapter 1 Where does the force come from?
The true face of Dingli Mountain
Discipline and wisdom make people busy.
The way of psychological activity, the ideological power to resist temptation
Behavior and activities are calm as usual in disadvantages.
Not wild, not surprised, not expressionless.
Ordinary and extraordinary, "hidden" charm
The Mystery of "Personal Magnetic Field"
Need to control counter-current driving
Stress and the strange circle of modern people
"Anemia" in the Spiritual World
Chapter two. Intrinsic quality of concentration
On the basic phenomenon of fixed force
The spiritual power to restrain one's emotional fluctuations.
Facing the reality requires firm courage.
Self-salvation in self-exile
Concentration can be cultivated.
Sound and sound are in harmony, and the five "forces" are interlinked.
Correct your mind and keep calm.
Determined to control workplace communication.
Chapter three: the relationship between concentration and personal quality.
Relationship between fixed force and handling stability
The relationship between concentration and diligence
The relationship between concentration and wisdom
The relationship between determination and execution
The relationship between determination and willpower
The performance of concentration in interpersonal relationships
Performance of quality concentration in the workplace
The concentrated expression of personal life happiness index
A way of focusing on life, behavior and spiritual activities.
The trainability of fixed strength
Chapter four. The environment changes with your heart and grasps the "dimension" of concentration.
Everything can be used for yourself.
Facing the reality, adversity turns to prosperity.
Flashy, flashy
Be frank and cautious in your words and deeds.
Aspiring is not in old age, break the age limit.
The mind is set, and the rights and wrongs speak for themselves.
Put yourself in the other's shoes and be open-minded.
People suffer because they pursue the wrong things.
Chapter five. It is difficult to fill this gap. How to control desire with concentration?
The temptation of fame and fortune is driven by instinctive desire.
Haste makes waste, haste makes waste.
It's hard to fill a gap, too many desires.
Don't distract your efforts.
Inaction is "captured" by inertia.
Give up halfway, there is no good beginning and good ending.
Self-willed and self-satisfied.
Weak will requires "caution"
Impulse is the devil.
Chapter six. The golden rule of cultivating concentration
Chapter seven. Clever application of concentration in life
Chapter 8. Wisdom comes from determination, and strength makes the heart stronger.