I remember the French writer Balzac once said: People always like to show themselves in front of others. They had nothing, but they pretended to have it everywhere.
This is vanity, and it is also what we often say: punch a swollen face and pretend to be fat.
But this kind of fat is puffiness, not real strength, which can be punctured with a needle.
Vanity people don't think so, just think that they should show their abilities for their own face.
For this ability, for this vanity, I will even open my eyes and tell lies regardless of the facts, just wanting to show my talents in front of others. They just want people around them to envy him and make people feel that he has unique skills and abilities.
In fact, it's just an empty shelf.
Such a person is not worth entrusting in marriage.
Some people joke about this kind of person: "It is too difficult to cook at home, and I often stand in front of the door to pick my teeth."
Is it vivid?
Vanity people are too sensitive and have too strong self-esteem, and they should show that they are better off than others everywhere.
Even though family life has been a mess, in his circle of friends, the years are calm, and behind these quiet years, the family is miserable.
Because his life is for others to see, even if the family really can't open the pot, he won't try to improve it or ask others for help, because vanity and face are the most important things for him. How can he bend over to let others find out that he is not happy? He is really incompetent.
This can be bitter for his family, but also for his vanity and face paid the price.
There is no true love in vain people. In order to maintain his poor vanity and face, he can choose marriage for wealth and status, but not for love, but for some benefits.
And the standard of choosing this marriage instead of that marriage is the eyes of others, and regards the praise of others as the highest reward in your life.
On the other hand, the more useless we are, the more obsessed we are with vanity and face. This is why he wants to maintain his sense of insecurity with strong self-esteem, but in fact he is inferior at heart.
The story I shared with you today is related to vanity.
Mao Ningning (pseudonym) is 29 years old this year. She was supposed to get married in May this year. Because she saw her boyfriend's circle of friends on her best friend's mobile phone, she was furious. She asked her boyfriend to break off her marriage directly and said angrily to her boyfriend, "Go away, a peacock like you really doesn't want to get married."
Ning Ning said that she talked with her boyfriend Wei Li (a pseudonym) for more than a year, and she also invested a lot in this relationship. It is a pity to ask for the cancellation of a marriage that has been agreed. However, people like Wei Li really hate themselves more and more. I don't know what he will do for his face in the future. It's shameless.
Mao Ningning and Wei Li met through business relations. At first, Wei Li was not very enthusiastic about Mao Ningning. Because Mao Ningning is an ordinary-looking girl.
At that time, she heard from her colleagues in Wei Li that Wei Li's ex-girlfriend was very beautiful. Wei Li often shows off to his colleagues that the beautiful girl is chasing him, which makes his colleagues envy him.
But later, the two broke up. It was put forward by Wei Li for unknown reasons.
Therefore, although Ningning has a good impression on Li Wei, who is handsome and well-dressed, she is self-aware. With her ordinary appearance, it is difficult to get into Wei Li's eyes.
But strangely, Wei Li is more and more attentive to her, and she is very good to her. She was flattered and slowly accepted Wei Li's feelings.
Ningning cherishes Wei Li's feelings for her, and has nothing to say about Wei Li, which makes Wei Li's colleagues envious and says that Wei Li is a treasure hunt.
Wei Li also often shows off to his friends: "My girlfriend really hasn't said anything to me. She is very obedient and docile. I told her to go east, but she never dared to go west and was dead set on me. "
These words reached her ears, and she didn't take them to heart, because she felt that it was her luck to have a crush on Wei Li's ordinary self with such good conditions. Who doesn't want a handsome boyfriend?
Only when she went to Li Wei's house did she realize that people can't be perfect. Although Wei Li looks handsome, his family is really poor.
His mother, Aunt Li, held Ningning's hand and praised Ningning as a good girl. She didn't expect her family to be poor and treat Wei Li so well.
This made Ningning very moved, and she was so kind to herself in front of her prospective mother-in-law. She has the urge to marry Wei Li.
Because in Ningning's family, money is not a thing. Ningning's parents are in business, and their business is very big. Usually they give Ningning pocket money very generously.
Ningning didn't like the girl she bought in buy buy, so she saved all her money and bought some wealth management products.
So when Wei Li proposed to her, she bought a house with her own money. Wei Li was very happy. He held her in circles.
As soon as they got the key to their new house, they went to it happily. Wei Li took the phone, patted it left and right, and then trimmed the photo. Wei Li updated his circle of friends.
She looked at Wei Li's update and felt particularly uncomfortable.
In Wei Li's circle of friends, he sent some photos of his new house and took a big photo of himself. Compared with scissors, he wrote: "I'm getting married, buying a new house and preparing to marry my bride."
More importantly, he bought a house in Wei Li. She was very uncomfortable, not only because Wei Li confused the facts, but also because she didn't want to be so ostentatious.
She said to Wei Li, "Don't make friends like this, okay? I don't like it. "
Wei Li was really unhappy to see her and promised that she wouldn't send it again.
After the two families decided to get married, preparations for the wedding were under way.
Wei Li made a request to Ningning, hoping that Ningning could talk to her prospective father-in-law and see if I could use his contacts to mobilize his work. He doesn't want to do hard transfer work any more, but wants to work in an office.
Wei Li has already mentioned this requirement. But Ningning's father never did it, because the relationship between them had not yet been settled. Now that she is a future son-in-law, her father thinks it's the right thing to do.
So he used his relationship to transfer Wei Li to the office and never ran out in the wind and rain again.
On the day of the transfer, Wei Li was very happy. He invited his former colleagues and friends, as well as Ningning and Ningning's friends, to have dinner together to celebrate.
But the next day, Ningning's best friend came to Ningning and asked her face to face: "Are you sure you want to marry someone like Wei Li?"
She handed her mobile phone to Ningning, which opened Wei Li's circle of friends.
She took a look. That's something she can't see in her circle of friends.
The day before, a photo of Li Wei sitting in the office was sent out with inspirational words on it.
"As long as you keep working hard, what you think will come true. At this moment, I thank myself for persisting for many years and never giving up. "
Further on, it is the one that Ningning opposed when buying a house.
Ningning continued to turn forward, and Wei Lifa had a circle of friends when buying a car. Wei Li's selfie sitting in the driver's seat: "Finally becoming the owner, the mountain is high and the road is long."
It turns out that Wei Li's circle of friends is selectively open to himself, giving people the impression that everything he has now is earned by his own efforts, and he has lived his present life by his own ability. Ningning's contribution and the role of prospective father-in-law have all become his own credit.
Look at the messages of friends below each circle of friends, which makes Ningning blush, because all she can see are friends' messages. They know exactly what happened. They have no mercy on Wei Li, and their words are very sharp.
"Don't brag, do you really think we don't know how this house came about?"
"You have to be shameless. You have to rely on your husband. You have to admit that you are really capable."
"A man who eats soft rice thinks he has a breeze."
Ningning looked at the comments of her friend's best friend and trembled with anger. In the past, I would rather not believe what my friend said about Wei Li, but now seeing is believing.
Wei Li's behavior is really shameful. Is this the person who wants to marry himself? Really not worth it!
Besides, it is obvious that Wei Li knows that he hates him for doing this, but he still has to protect himself and continue to flatter his face. If he gets married, he still doesn't know how he will have the cheek to do something that makes him look bad behind his back.
Thinking of this, Ningning also used her girlfriend's mobile phone to leave a message under Wei Li's circle of friends:
"People like you, I really don't want to get married. Go away, peacock. "
Wei Li panicked after seeing the information of Ningning. He immediately called Ningning, but Ningning didn't answer; Send a message instead of returning. When I ran to Ningning's door, Ningning disappeared. I just shouted through the door, "Go away, I don't want to see you. Don't come to me again. It makes me sick to look at such a vain and unproductive person. We are finished. "
"Some people's vanity, more than the need to save lives, for this kind of person, vanity played a bad role! These people try their best to make others unhappy, hoping to arouse others' admiration. They tried to get ahead, but the result was worse. "
This sentence is a famous saying of the French thinker Montesquieu.
Wei Li's behavior just confirms this sentence.
Ningning realized until now that the reason why Wei Li broke up with his beautiful ex-girlfriend was that his ex-girlfriend could no longer bring Wei Li more face benefits and richer conditions to fill his vanity.
The pursuit of Ningning is precisely because Ningning's conditions can make him live a good life as easy as blowing off dust and have a vanity foundation.
Unfortunately, Wei Li just lost his conscience and love because of his extreme vanity.
In life, we are living in a down-to-earth way, instead of indulging in our own big bubble every day. When the foam is blown too much, when it is colorful, it is also the easiest time to burst.
It is better to live simply, or it will be too late to regret!