There are also some old people who think a person is not bad. They don't have to worry too much and they don't have to participate too much. You can take care of yourself when you can, but you can't hire a nanny or go to a pension fund. It is also a way of providing for the aged.
In fact, there are still great differences between people. Some people think that if they find another wife, they will feel happier with spiritual sustenance in their hearts. Some people think that one more person will bring a lot of trouble, so it is better to simply hire a nanny.
Uncle Jiang, 75, said that I have been with others for half a year, and now I choose to ask a nanny to take care of myself, which is much more worry-free than finding a wife again, and my heart is happier.
Let's listen to the story of Uncle Jiang, which may give some enlightenment to the confused old man.
I am 75 years old and have three children, only my youngest son is around. When my wife is here, we live together and feel very comfortable and happy.
Since my wife left five years ago, I feel very lonely, especially my three meals a day and daily life.
Under the introduction of a friend, I met a woman who is six years younger than me. We both think it's ok, and we have a good impression on each other, so we choose to live together. I live on 3500 yuan a month, and almost two people do housework together.
I also paid the housekeeper to come back to clean every week, but in this way, she still found fault with me and felt that she had lost a lot. Especially when her son's family comes back, he usually cooks some meals, and she feels tired. Every time her son's family leaves, she will nag me endlessly.
I think she is too selfish. Forget it if she doesn't take the money. If she does something, she feels like a nanny. Then let's split up. It is not enough for me to be angry.
After our boarding failure, I think it is unrealistic to find another wife in my later years, because people care too much about each other. Might as well find a nanny. If anything happens, I will contribute to her work, and no one owes anyone.
My partner's wife always wants me to contribute to help her son pay more mortgage, and says in my ear every day, what are you doing with so much money? When the time comes, it will depreciate. Why don't you help your son now, let him know how you feel, and help him in the future?
I have two sons. Who wants your son's? Can I count on her son to support my old age? I really don't know what this woman thinks. She is always as confident as a mystery. I don't think I have sincere feelings, so it's better to live alone and ask a nanny to be comfortable.
At the very least, as long as you do it right, the nanny will take money to do things and will not care about your property. Besides, who hasn't been young? Those men and women are like a mirror in their hearts. Why should they put their reputations and property into it for these reasons?
I am a 58-year-old nanny, diligent, smooth and sweet. I didn't give an order for some things, and people did it when they had jobs in their eyes. Unlike the wife who wants to board, she asks me for money first for everything.
Sometimes it bothers me to think about it. My original wife and I are too poor. I can't accept such a woman who loves money like life. It is right to leave early. I am comfortable and happy.
My brother gave me advice and told me to simply live with the nanny, so that I could take less money from the nanny. I don't think this is authentic. My nanny and I are so different in age, and I don't want to hurt her.
She works for me to earn money, which is aboveboard, reasonable and legal. If I do that, I will really be sorry for my conscience. Even if I leave later, it will make people laugh. How does my child behave?
I think it's better this way. The nanny does what she has to do, and I have to pay every penny. I should respect every job, there should be no distinction between high and low. This is the principle of being a man.
1, the nanny is also conscientious and responsible, and she thinks it is appropriate to pay for herself. Compared with finding another wife, it saves a lot of nagging and all kinds of trivial chores, and subtracts her own troubles and children's worries. Because it is an employment relationship, the nanny works seriously, and will not talk about many conditions with the employer, or attach some conditions, and there are not so many disputes about how much money to do.
It is her job for the nanny to take care of the elderly, help them cook and clean, or walk and turn over with them. When looking for a wife again, she will feel that she has paid so much and why she has got so little. She always puts herself in the position of nanny and doesn't take the nanny's salary. In fact, this is not comparable. Nanny works for money and has no affection, while his wife is sincerely willing to pay for you, and there is spiritual communication between them. If a wife positions herself as a nanny, she will feel that she has lost too much, so she wants more and is not satisfied.
The nanny is better than her new wife in some respects, that is, she is more obedient and does things well. Because the employer is the nanny's financial owner, he must obey the employer's arrangement and will not do anything that makes the employer unhappy at will. Finding another wife will be different. If you talk too much, you will be criticized, even if you don't cook or wash clothes, or leave.
When people reach old age, male elderly people need someone to take care of their lives, help them take care of their lives, do housework and take care of their daily lives.
I don't want to find my wife again. To tell the truth, I am afraid of giving myself and my children trouble and being cheated. Looking for a nanny to take care of you, the responsibilities and obligations are clear and definite, and you can live more comfortably and worry less without calculating each other.
Just like Uncle Jiang said, you don't have to be angry about doing more housework, worry about spending other people's children's money, or be rejected for some trivial things. Hiring a nanny will make you feel comfortable, dignified and more free.
In fact, it is the wish of many elderly people to hire a live-in nanny to take care of the elderly if conditions permit.
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Thank you for reading and wish you peace and success!
About the author: A retired woman who is luxurious and Zen, loves life, practices Tai Chi with her left hand and writes with her right hand, and enjoys the rest of her life happily!