But in the process of raising children, many parents will find that their efforts often seem to fail. Why?
In fact, the main reason is that parents did not master the laws of children's brain development and did not make matching training at the corresponding stage, which led to this result.
In other words, children have three opportunities to "become smart" before the age of 10, and parents must seize them to help their children grow up better.
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0-3 years old, the first critical period of brain development.
0-3 years old is not only the stage of the fastest growth of brain weight, but also the stage of the most connections between brain neurons (the more connections, the faster the brain develops and the smarter it is).
According to scientific research, babies have more neurons and neural connections than adults, because in the development of the brain, neurons that form connections will "drive away" other neurons.
Therefore, 0-3 years old is the first opportunity to "get smart". So how to be smart?
1, five sensory stimuli
The five senses refer to sight, hearing, smell, taste and touch. All stimuli from the surrounding environment and the outside world will be transmitted to the child's brain through the five senses, which will promote the growth of synapses in the brain.
2. Talk to children more.
Almost without exception, the more conversations parents have with their children, the faster their vocabulary grows, and the higher their IQ will be after they are 3 years old.
Not only that, vocabulary is also related to children's learning ability, success ability and potential:
Since the child was three years old, the area in the brain responsible for thinking and learning has begun to play a role. How much parents say to their children and how to say it to them are the key factors affecting their language development.
3. Establish a secure connection
Children with safe attachment are more willing to explore the unknown, more willing to learn to socialize by observing their mothers' daily behavior, and more patient to observe their mothers' pronunciation when they speak to actively learn the language.
At the same time, even in the absence of mother, children with safe attachment still show stable and happy emotions, concentration and good interaction with other caregivers.
Therefore, if you want to develop your child's brain at this stage, you should provide it to your child from birth, from perception to movement, to language, environment, cognitive sociality and so on.
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5-7 years old, the second critical period of brain development.
The child's right brain development has entered the most rapid period. After the child is 6 years old, the brain development has shifted from the right brain to the left brain. I have caught it at this time, which has benefited the children a lot.
Professor W. Sperry put forward the theory of division of labor between left and right brain through split brain experiment, in which the right brain is called artistic brain and is good at spatial imagination, art, music and other fields.
So artists, scientists, designers and many other creative professions are right-brained people. The right brain development training methods commonly used by children at this stage are:
If you want to develop the right brain, you can let your child remember pictures; Write with both hands; Often use the left side to exercise (the right brain controls the left body and the left brain controls the right body).
1, using pictures
The right brain is the visual brain. Using visual pictures to practice can give full play to the role of the right brain and achieve unexpected results. You can choose pictures, photos or anything.
2. Left-leaning movement
Do things with your left hand, such as washing your face, brushing your teeth, using chopsticks, sweeping the floor, etc. You can also draw paper-cut with your left hand, kick the ball and jump with your left leg, and play badminton, volleyball, tennis and other sports with your left hand.
3. Write with both hands at the same time
At the beginning, you can write the number 1.2.3.4, letters A.B.C.D. D, etc. Easily and gradually transition to writing the names, units and home addresses of yourself and your family; You can write a sentence, a short essay, etc.
You can also draw with your left and right hands, and draw some simple things, such as horizontal lines, vertical lines, diagonal lines, curves and so on. And gradually transition to painting some animals and plants, flowers and trees, some simple portraits, and the characters drawn by your left and right hands. The directions must correspond.
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8- 10 years old, the third critical period of brain development.
8- 10 years old is a critical period for developing children's learning ability, which is extremely critical and has a great influence on the formation of children's future personality.
But at the same time, children are easily tired of learning, and parental discipline sometimes does not help. Moreover, one of the characteristics of children's brains at this age is that the more instructions they receive, the worse they perform.
Therefore, in order to help children learn better at this stage, guidance is the key, not ordering children.
You can change the mode of getting along with children, respect equality, and communicate with children like friends, which will make children feel more comfortable and more willing to accept their parents' teaching.
Parents should try their best to stimulate their children to use the function of self-compensation system, so that children can really learn to play their greatest potential.
Therefore, parents must cherish the opportunity to "be smart" for their children three times before they are 10 years old. This period will get twice the result with half the effort.