Because there are always some disappointments in feelings, there are always some sad accidents in marriage. After all, many people are selfish, and many accidents cannot be predicted in advance.
At the beginning of love, everyone's mood is similar. At the time of first love, they just want to show their best, and they just want to be together forever. However, in marriage, some couples unconsciously find that their feelings have faded and they have lost their original passion.
For many marriages and families, the emotional fragility of husband and wife is not terrible. As long as there is persistence and companionship, they can still grow old. I'm afraid someone in marriage is selfish, find another relationship outside marriage and forget their responsibilities.
Many people's divorce seems to be emotional disharmony, but in fact they have experienced a period of unspeakable pain.
Let me tell you about a woman's marriage experience, a message from a reader. Her experience makes people feel emotional, angry and dramatic.
First, for the sake of divorce, men retreat to advance.
Linlin, 43, has been divorced for more than two years. She has never left home since her divorce from her ex-husband Lei Lei.
The reason for the divorce is that Lei Lei has a mistress outside. He fell in love with a divorced woman and didn't want to live with Linlin. That woman has been pushing Lei Lei for a divorce, and Lei Lei wants to fly with her.
Lei Lei slowly tempted Linlin by innuendo, who mentioned several divorces to Linlin. Linlin thought he was joking and deliberately testing himself. Anyway, he was sitting on the right, so he didn't take it to heart.
Linlin didn't know that Lei Lei had a woman outside, and he didn't believe that he had long wanted to throw himself out. Lei Lei laughs all day, which seems harmless to people and animals. As a matter of fact, he changed his mind long ago.
In the minds of people who change their minds, the world in front of them is cold and cruel. The so-called husband-wife relationship is like a joke. For Lei Lei, 19' s marriage has long been tired, and Linlin is not as gentle as that woman.
In order to divorce smoothly, Lei Lei thought of a way. One day, he told Linlin to buy another house. That shipment is very good. Don't tell anyone about the future.
Under Lei Lei's exaggerated description, Linlin believed and agreed to buy a house. However, they immediately ran into difficulties. They already have 2 suites under their name, 1 shop. If you buy a house again, the down payment ratio is high and there is no discount on interest.
Lei Lei is very "distressed". In those days, he often sighed and beat his chest at home.
Lei Lei told Linlin: I still love you too much, or I will fake a divorce. But if you don't remarry with me in the future, I will lose a lot. No, I'm afraid I'll lose my wife and my soldiers.
Linlin was very moved. It turns out that her husband cares so much about himself. She filed for divorce. I won't leave you. I'll remarry you when I buy a house.
Lei Lei disagreed, said nothing, and kept asking Linlin if he had any other ideas, pretending to be worried. He made Linlin swear again and again to prove that Linlin kept his promise and remarried on time.
Lei Lei gradually gained the trust of Linlin by "retreating for progress". Poor Linlin is so simple. People in their forties are also teased. Can't say she's stupid, because she never thought that Lei Lei was willing to leave her.
Second, the biggest sorrow of marriage is that the person you love the most has to pay for it.
Before the divorce, Lei Lei paid a down payment of 1000 yuan in the name of Linlin to make himself look good. He told Linlin that writing your name in the new house and remarriage in the future are also your pre-marital property.
However, after the divorce, Lei Lei stopped buying. He has been dragging his feet and saying that money can't be turned around. Because the deposit is paid less, it will expire in three weeks, and I can't buy it if I want.
Linlin was very angry and wasted 10000. She asked for remarriage, but Lei Lei said that she lost 1 10,000, and she was under too much pressure. Let's live like this first.
Linlin is also a grumpy person. He got angry on the spot. If he does not remarry, he will not remarry. Who will beg you? 1 000 loss is all your fault. Dare to pay the deposit if you don't arrive! One day you will ask me to remarry. I'll see when you last.
In Linlin, since we still live together, it really doesn't matter if we don't remarry. Lei Lei is a very nice person. Maybe he really regrets it. 10000 yuan is nothing, but it will also make people feel a little distressed.
As for remarriage, Linlin completely ignored it and went on working. It was not until 1 week later that she discovered Lei Lei's secret and saw his car parked in front of a large supermarket.
Linlin was surprised to see Lei Lei standing at the door. He is talking to a woman who sells jewelry. The woman touched Lei Lei's hand and looked at his mobile phone as if she had known him for a long time.
Linlin had a bad feeling in her heart, and she watched from a distance. Intuitively, her husband has second thoughts. She is very sad, but she is afraid to go in and disturb. If I really guess, I'm not dominant and I'm really going to be swept out of the house.
Linlin was going to put up with it first, see if he really changed his mind, slowly get his interests back, and then have a good quarrel with him and teach him a lesson. However, she couldn't restrain her sadness and anger and quarreled in advance.
Linlin said: I asked him who that woman was and he said she was my friend. I asked him if he had slept, and he said he had slept several times. I asked him why he did this to me, and he said that divorced people have the freedom to talk about love.
On that day, the sadness in Linlin's heart was like darkness, and there was a feeling of being knocked to the bottom. Even if she leaves home clean, she is not afraid. She just can't accept her husband's emotional betrayal.
Third, it's hard to stay at home after divorce.
Now that the husband and wife have spoken out, Lei Lei is no longer hiding anything. He asked Linlin to move out and wanted to bring this woman in. Linlin just didn't agree and didn't leave.
Lei Lei has a runny nose and tears. He told Linlin: You'd better move out and give you another house in our house. I am sorry for you, and only the afterlife can repay you. If I don't love her, I don't want to do this. Her ex-husband treated her badly, and I was her savior. I really can't bear to part with her, so I used some means to cheat you into divorce. Please believe that this is a necessity. Help us. I hope you can find a good man as soon as possible and be happy.
Linlin also cried very sadly. She hates Lei Lei, and she hates this scheming woman even more. In order to save the marriage, Linlin never moved out. But a few days later, this woman went home with Lei Lei, and it seems that she wants to stay here.
The more Linlin thought about it, the angrier she got. She threw her suitcase downstairs and beat her up, tearing off a lot of hair.
The woman left in tears and never came back. Lei Lei completely changed the face of Linlin. He would kick Linlin out every day, trying to make room for that woman.
At that time, although Linlin wanted to leave, she didn't believe it and didn't want to give her home away. Those days were very hard for Linlin. Lei Lei threw Linlin's things into the corridor several times. After work, Linlin sat in the corridor and cried several times because he couldn't get into the house.
Because of the noise, both friends know that they are divorced. Someone advised Lei Lei, you are over 40 years old, how can you learn to pretend like a child? I've seen women who sell necklaces. She is not a good person. Please wake up.
Lei Lei didn't believe it, saying that she was a good woman and Linlin had to be driven away. Later, my brother came to fight, and ray stopped.
Linlin once said: He is a weak man, so I have always trusted him. He has a good heart, but he is a little stupid. The fake divorce was that woman's idea. I am willing to forgive him, but he still won't remarry me. Crying and begging me all day, saying that you don't love me anymore, but only love that woman.
After that, Linlin and Lei Lei divorced and never left home. Lei Lei went to see that woman once in a while and didn't want to touch Linlin. Those days were very difficult for Linlin.
Fourth, people who hang upside down have no dignity.
Many times Linlin wants to give up, and sometimes he just wants to leave. But think again, even if you leave, you must break them up first, and you can't let the woman who ruined her marriage feel better.
In Linlin's story, Lei Lei sometimes came home crying and broke plates and bowls. He even knelt down to Linlin and begged Linlin to go out and find someone, so don't stay at home. Lei Lei is a madman and often slaps himself in the face.
Until half a year later, Lei Lei finally unbearable, began to attack Linlin. This is the first time since I got married that I attacked Linlin and broke Linlin's mouth.
As expected, Linlin's younger brother came again, broke Lei Lei's nose and swollen his face.
Lei Lei paused for a moment, but he didn't remember the lesson and began to attack Linlin again. Linlin's brother is here again. Repeated several times, half a year passed. But for Linlin's insistence, he would have left long ago.
After the divorce 1 year, Linlin didn't know how she got through it. She slowly wavered in her insistence. Maybe this man really isn't worth waiting for. It's time to consider his future. Linlin met a divorced classmate, who she knew wanted to pursue herself.
Linlin figured it out and persisted for several months. If Lei Lei is still like this, he should take the initiative to give up and start a new relationship with his classmates. After all, widowed marriage is too difficult.
But one day, Lei Lei went home and knelt down directly. He apologized to Linlin and said that he was confused. Linlin was touched, but her heart was burning.
Linlin said, I forgave him for his sincerity. He said that the woman dumped him and talked about another boyfriend. I felt like a fool, but I was happy and finally got through it. I was a little disappointed that day and I resumed my husband and wife life with him. Looking forward to 1 years, my heart is sour, and tears can't stop flowing downwards.
On that day, Linlin proposed to remarry, but Lei Lei still struggled, saying that he would wait, but he still couldn't forget the woman.
Lei Lei was normal for about three months, and then his face changed. He wants to get rid of Linlin again. He also put down the malicious words. Even if you don't leave, I will register with her. You have no right to live here. Do not push me.
Linlin finally understood that this upside-down man had no dignity. And myself, it seems that I have no dignity.
Fifth, the regret of emotional betrayal always seems redundant.
Linlin gave up slowly and met his classmates. I have lived in my classmate's house for over 1 month, just like husband and wife.
Linlin said: I think it is worthwhile for a woman to stay at home even if she is stupid and bitter. After all, Lei Lei was my first love. But when I was with my classmates, I realized that I had lived in vain for more than 40 years, and I married the wrong person from the beginning! Why didn't I figure it out earlier? If you leave, leave. Who's afraid of who?
Linlin was very happy during that time, but to her surprise, Lei Lei panicked and looked for her everywhere.
When Linlin returned home, Lei Lei knelt down again and begged Linlin to forgive him. It turned out that he was lovelorn again, and that woman was just playing with him.
Linlin refused to forgive him on the spot, and has contacted a car to help him pull things. She told Lei Lei that we were divorced. From then on, you will find your happiness and I will find my life.
Lei Lei didn't want to let go, and said let's get married again. It's been two years. I've wronged you and I've had enough trouble.
Linlin seems to have heard a big joke and turned him down again. It's too late.
Linlin said: I really can't figure out how a man can be so indecent. He asked for a husband and wife life and said that he would only accompany me in the future. I told him that we have been divorced for two years, and you are still not qualified to live as a husband and wife. I'm just your ex-wife, we're not husband and wife!
Lei Lei cried badly that day. He told Linlin: I gave you a husband-and-wife life because I was afraid that you would go out on a date alone. Forgive me, but I've changed. We are still husband and wife, and we will remarry in a few days.
Linlin answered him, I have a date in a few days. By the way, I also have the freedom to talk about love. I'm getting married. Please find a good woman to marry.
Finally, Linlin said: Thinking about those two years is not only ridiculous, but also looks like a joke. If you marry someone, what kind of personality will you have? He is a fool. He makes me stupid. Only when I was with my classmates did I realize how wonderful life is. My classmates and I will take wedding photos as a souvenir in a few days and get married right away.
Sixth, drama life, there are always tragic people.
To tell the truth, Linlin's experience is really absurd, just like a drama. Men have no dignity, their hearts are higher than the sky, their lives are thinner than paper, and women have no courage. They just wanted to compromise and were finally cornered. Both of them have low IQ and lower EQ.
There are always tragedies, big or small, behind the drama life. Fortunately, Linlin finally realized that he had married the wrong man.