Is it a virtue not to disturb others?

In the first episode of Seven Overlords, it is mentioned that the Japanese are a people who don't like to cause trouble to others. Wherever we go, everyone does their own thing and never bothers others. In China, seven aunts and eight aunts, please look after the children for me today, and others will trouble you to bring something for me tomorrow. Although I think Japan is very good, keeping a certain distance between people will seem a bit cold and distant. In China, human feelings are both fetters and temperatures, and people always get along with each other.

I think it is a virtue to disturb others when it is unnecessary. I think there are seven aunts and eight aunts who are the most annoying. I feel completely ungrateful and take it for granted. Don't bother others, just feel that there is not so much in this world for granted.

I will do my best. If not, I'll figure it out myself. If I can't, I will ask for help. Keep other people's busy things in mind, and others will usually help if they need help. Even if you have helped me before, you can't come to me for something bigger, because it is very troublesome. So if something you can't do happens to be mine, just say it and I'll help you!

In today's society, under the premise that most people advocate the principle of "mutual benefit", consciousness is undoubtedly a virtue. It is the basic creed of such people not to cause trouble to others. What is "worry" will not appear in other people's life trajectories and plans, and it is not put forward by the other party. Don't measure it by the standard you think: you are fine anyway, you have money anyway, and you should be fine anyway. On the other hand, although a large part of this self-conscious group promised not to cause trouble to others, they have been accommodating others' troubles: why did they throw away all the packages they bought when traveling and squeeze them into an explosion to apologize for bringing a pack of sanitary napkins to others? Why should the borrower perform with the borrower? You forgot to pay back the money, and so did I. Why do you work overtime more than others because you don't have a boyfriend? Why are freelancers so depressed when they refuse some nutritious dates when they are busy at work? This is the discrimination of most people who advocate "mutual benefit" and your own prejudice as a coward! This can't change what others think "you are not bad" to some extent. What's the point of being strongly recognized as a good person?

China, a human society, does not act according to the rules when making trouble with each other, so the development of small cities lags behind and the big cities are getting farther and farther away. Late at night, I feel that there are really too many people in this world who don't care about other people's affairs, and everything is taken for granted. I thought I would be fine if I didn't refuse, but now I find that I can give others trouble rationally and confidently. Why do people treat you so well, and the whole world is your mother? Why should I spoil you and let you be a little ancestor?

For example, when Kang Geyong greets Lu Yu, the other person says "I have stomach cancer", which is beyond your relationship. However, what if brother Kang Yong, you just heard about a new treatment for gastric cancer a second ago, and this friend just didn't ask, in the future, you will say, "Why don't you ask me?" So maybe you don't have to die. "What a pity! Everything you say is ideal, because everyone's attributes are fixed, and the reality is changing rapidly.

I don't quite agree with Luo Zhenyu. His so-called trouble has two meanings. One is the most commonly used polite expression in China. At this time, "sorry to bother you" is just out of politeness and sociality; The other is that Party A needs Party B's help to complete something, which is often beneficial to both parties. Perhaps Party B benefits less than Party A, and even needs to pay some price in the process of benefiting, but he is still willing. At this time, this is no longer a transaction in which Party A gives Party B trouble, but a transaction in the guise of social feelings. The real trouble is that Party A asks Party B to do something that is unfavorable or even harmful to its interests, or that Party B is unwilling to do it, or that it is difficult for Party B to finish it. It's not you who asks for directions, he shows you the way, or pours a glass of water. So I think it's not necessarily immoral to cause trouble to others, but it must be a virtue not to cause trouble to others. Because now we are too wary of moral kidnapping, but we seem to forget that morality should be a constraint on ourselves. We really can't relax our restraint on ourselves and remain silent about virtue.