Thank you, these beautiful girls, for touching me.
-Pearl Krabs
Subtle awareness will inevitably lead to blunt awareness;
Pure flowing energy will inevitably purify stagnant energy;
Quiet energy will inevitably affect restless energy;
Open and powerful energy will inevitably hit tight and closed energy.
-Pearl Krabs
Swallow saliva while sitting still. At this time, saliva can harmonize qi and blood, which is also called home water. Together, these three words are pronounced medicine.
Lu Xun said: People who haven't cried for too long are not enough to talk about life.
Everyone who is growing/practicing will, to a greater or lesser extent, experience the lows and bumps in life, or be reminded of physical symptoms, or be anxious/fixed/painful/depressed mentally. ...............................................................................................................................
Discussion: If you have a daughter, her daughter will ask us one day when she grows up: I like XXX very much, or what am I looking for a boyfriend for?
When a daughter asks her mother this question, how can her mother give her daughter a wiser answer, so that her children can avoid detours and find happiness?
A paper engagement, a lifetime script.
People often say: let time heal everything.
The script is the footprint/family background/family culture edification/knowledge of each of us, and it is influencing everyone's thinking about future marriage and men. These ideas will go deep into everyone's heart. When there is a problem or trauma, your mind will not change, and the trauma will still exist. On the contrary, it will deepen your own inherent concepts and cognition of love, marriage and many aspects of life.
Love has a life cycle,
"Don't use hidden dragon" in the Book of Changes can also be well interpreted: hidden dragon is a hidden meaning. Many modern people know it not long after they get married, and many personality characteristics are still unknown. What they see in love is attracted by the beauty they want to see. The real collision/friction between two people begins with the real marriage. So at this time, we must enter the marriage carefully.
Kang Long has regrets: Kang Zi has extreme meaning. When the dragon reaches a very high level, its trend will inevitably decline, and it will be regretted if you know how to advance and forget to retreat. Many people have been in love for many years, but in fact, they have passed the marriage cycle, which has a far-reaching impact on their later lives and eventually leads to a dead end.
Many of us have our own descriptions and views on marriage and a summary of life in the process of getting married. Are these suggestions enough for our daughter? So how can we become a "temple", pass this wisdom on to children, and give them more comprehensive and all-round suggestions and frameworks.
As parents, we also have the responsibility to remind our children to look at it from all dimensions, otherwise the cost of living will be too high and there will be many congestion/various events to pay the bill. We should have enough wisdom to lead our children to see all dimensions, so that she can get such a framework from you and finally decide to give it to her children.
Wheel theory of love: just like two chariots, they are neck and neck in the carriage formed by marriage. If one dimension goes wrong, life will get stuck.
1/ Happy love
The joy of love is what we often say: the feeling of heartbeat, very comfortable and very happy. These are the basis of love, the starting point, and the basis for two people to go forward through thick and thin in the future. If this principal is insufficient, you will feel that you don't want to go through this hurdle together when you encounter many things in the future.
And this kind of love may be the attraction of face value and the promotion of hormones in the body, which gives us the courage to rush into marriage. Without the last few dimensions, it is difficult to be stable.
2/ Consistency of value judgment
Each of us has different background concepts and different value judgments on life management.
Some people think that you have to do business to make a lot of money and live a good life, while others think that whoever values money first doesn't care how he leaves her.
Some people think that life is rich only when poetry is in the distance and facing the sea. Some people think that daily necessities are plain.
Some people pursue stability and calmness, while others pursue adventure and richness.
If the values are judged differently, there will be contradictions and there will be no big conflicts. We can not oppose each other, belittle each other and trample on each other, and the conflict will be small.
3/ Morality
Asking for a good family, the hidden thing is not to suffer too much, because you will feel but not be poor together like those who know it.
Suitable:
(1) For example, if you find his family, you will meet everyone's needs and you will be very unhappy. "Why do you care about your brother and sister and your family?"
(2) region. One side of the soil and water supports one side of the people, and the customs and cultures of each place are different.
(3) Inconsistency of monetary consumption
Do you have enough mentality and ability to deal with/face/do these differences?
4/ Consistency of beliefs
In the past, because of the protection of traditional culture, karma/three feet above the head has gods, which made many people feel awe and avoided many extreme events.
How to see from the clues whether the other party has strong control, whether the emotions will often get out of control, stay away from the garbage people in marriage, and how to find the boundary?
(1) paranoid
(2) Serious desire for control
(3) Emotions are easily out of control
(4) violence
(5) Remind yourself not to look at how he treats you, but how he treats other irrelevant people.
Close people are far away, close people are far away.
Emotional habitual expression: I feel safe if I dare to express it like this.
The topic of love is regardless of age. The elderly will also face the problem that selective attention will make our vision smaller, enter a semi-blind state, and fall in love with conscious feelings.
Buddhist scriptures say that being born a woman, having defects and original sin will be more troublesome and easy to fall into "emotional obsession." At this time, you will lose consciousness and follow your intuition and feelings, so be conscious and stay awake, so as to make yourself more comprehensive and complete.
By reading the Tao Te Ching, we can know ourselves and others more deeply and subtly, and make our voice return to balance/stability/harmony/righteousness.
Shen Shi: Tai Chi shakes Gong Zhuang.
Summary:
1/ Relax, when you slow down, it's the fastest speed. Let go of all expectations, follow the energy and allow yourself, so that you can become a little wisdom, play yourself and achieve the greatest effect.
2/ When you see yourself, it is an iceberg that has just surfaced. Carrying tens of thousands of bags and driving hundreds of thousands of cars, you can enjoy the happiness of "equivalence". Even 6 yuan can sometimes bring happiness, and life is full of advanced death.
3/ Pay less attention to others, love yourself more, and let your energy come back slowly.
Traditional culture relies on "feeling" rather than "management", and feeling is the best education.
The important thing is to change silently. If you enter the classroom, your body will react, so that you can gradually live and be full of energy. If you leave the track of the past, you will change your life.
Changing the world starts with changing yourself.
4/ Many classes have opened our doors and let our passion burn for a while, while really good teachers and good courses make our hearts more calm, dull, safe and stable after class and closer to the reality and essence of life. Love Actually
5/ For a woman, no matter how old you are, in the process of growing up, you have begun to detoxify physically and mentally. The essence of the course is the process of detoxification, which is earned and the "separation" of body and mind.
6/ Go forward and don't look back.
7/ Touch your true self-be yourself.
8/ Xu Sheng
Don't go back with the teacher's cane. If I give you something, you may not catch it. You should turn them into your own things, keep yourself alive, bring your training back to life, and show your wisdom in life.
Homework:
The four dimensions of the wheel of love derive many things. Use your own life knowledge, life experience and your own way to develop and sort out the details and enrich this framework. What did you see and feel in the mutual comments and support?