However, it is often because I don't know my other half that my married life is not so happy.
That's what I did. I didn't recognize his true face and married a phoenix man.
I met him through friends, and they were very loving when they were in love, which once made me feel that he was my prince charming. In my impression, he is honest, filial and careful. But such a man makes me regret marrying him.
His family is not good, but he gradually broke out of his own world through his own efforts. He has a younger brother. Because both parents are farmers, my brother dropped out of school early and has been working outside. He has been subsidizing his family with the money he earned, but he has been very frugal.
Although his family background is not good, I saw many rare qualities from him, so I chose him and would like to face the difficulties in life with him. At first, my family disagreed, because I thought his family was too poor to even have a decent house. But because of my insistence, my parents finally gave in. They couldn't bear to see me rent a house with him, so they married a property and gave us a home of their own.
But after he got married, he already had his own family, but he still had to send some of the money he earned home. I didn't have any problems at first, and I supported it. But I found that the money he sent back was not used to support the elderly, but to subsidize his brother's life. And as our life became more and more difficult, I began to make him understand that we could not send so much back. We have our lives, and we will have our children.
But he rebuffed me, saying that it is not easy for parents to raise themselves, and they must help them more if they have the ability. When I saw that he was so determined, I said nothing more.
Because we are not in a hurry to have children, with our continuous efforts, we finally have some savings in our hands, so we consider buying another property, whether it is self-occupied or sold in the future.
Our house was simply decorated when it came down, but my husband told me that his brother was getting married and the other party wanted a house, or we could transfer the old house to them, just as our new house came down.
At that time, as soon as I heard him say this, I got angry and refused him, saying that the house my parents gave me for marriage at this time was the house they gave us because they saw that we had no place to live. Why did you give it to your brother?
Besides, the two of us had a big fight because we disagreed. I went back to my mother's house. During the time when I went back to my mother's house, I kept asking myself, why did our relationship develop like this? Why did he develop into this situation?
I'm also very upset now. I don't know how to face him and his family. If we divorce him, we think he is fine everywhere, but he cares too much about his family. But if we don't get divorced, he always helps the family too much, and our life will still be a mess.
Later, he also came to me, apologized to me and promised not to help my brothers and sisters too much.
In fact, everything is fine except that he cares too much about his parents, brothers and sisters and thinks that he must help them as long as he can. But they forgot the most important thing. They are no longer living alone, and they are no longer in a state where one person is full and the whole family is not hungry. Now they have their own families and lives.
If you continue to help your brothers and sisters blindly, your family will inevitably be affected. For your brothers and sisters, appropriate help is reasonable, but once it exceeds this level, it will cause some unnecessary troubles to your marriage and even become the fuse of your marriage breakdown.
There is a saying now that people who marry don't marry Phoenix men and those who help their younger brothers don't marry.
For Phoenix men, they may be fine everywhere, but they care too much about their parents, brothers and sisters, which leads them to ignore the family they should pay attention to.