I can understand your feeling. First of all, I am ashamed of this kind of thing in our psychological counseling industry. First of all, I am sorry! Counsellors can't have any sexual relations with clients. There are basic principles for psychological counselors to do psychological counseling. There are twelve basic principles. Let me tell you in detail:
The principle of psychological consultation requires psychological counselors and counselors to abide by the following 12 principles in the process of consulting visitors:
Principle of confidentiality-all the consultation contents of visitors shall be kept confidential and shall not be disclosed. If case analysis and further discussion are needed, visitors should be better helped, information should be kept confidential, letters, test materials and other materials should be properly kept, and real names and addresses should be kept to avoid harm to visitors. If visitors are in urgent danger of self-harm or injury to others or are involved in legal cases, the consultation center will break through the principle of confidentiality and take corresponding measures, but also limit the degree of information exposure to a minimum.
Voluntary principle-visitors to the consulting room must be completely voluntary, which is the premise of establishing the relationship between consulting and visiting.
Principles of understanding and trust-counselors should fully understand the language, actions and emotions of visitors and adopt the principle of immoral evaluation to help visitors analyze the reasons and find a way out. A good consulting relationship should be based on trust. Only by mutual trust can we communicate better, which is also necessary to achieve mutual understanding and achieve the consulting goals and intentions.
Respect principle-respect the needs and choices of visitors and allow them to choose to continue or stop consulting. For the situation that needs to be known because of consultation, we should explain the reasons honestly and objectively as far as possible, seek understanding and cooperation, and must not force visitors with the subjective ideas of consultants; Receive visitors with enthusiasm, patience, respect and trust, and create a cordial and natural consulting atmosphere.
The principle of equality-the effect of psychological counseling depends not only on the professional level of the counselor, but also on the consulting relationship between him and the visitors, who should be sincere, patient, enthusiastic and equal. All visitors should be treated equally, without subjective prejudice, and received in order. Kind attitude and warm service. However, if the problem is more serious, such as a more urgent psychological crisis, after explaining the current visitors, priority will be given to reception.
Support principle-psychological support is generally needed in consultation. Pay attention to the psychological problems of visitors, so that visitors can feel and get psychological help;
Suitability principle-select the consulting object suitable for one's own ability, formulate the appropriate consulting scheme, give up the inappropriate scheme decisively, pay attention to the limitations of professional functions, and carry out the work within the scope of responsibilities and abilities. Sincerely and sincerely accept visitors' inquiries, and frankly tell each other what they can't do, ask for forgiveness, and refer them in time. When referring patients, we should be patient and do a good job of visitors, and don't add psychological burden to visitors.
The principle of neutrality-the consultant should remain neutral and not judge the moral issues involved in the visitor's conversation. It is also inappropriate to criticize and accuse tourists' life words and deeds. It is up to the visitor to decide whether to seek or terminate psychological counseling, and the consulting teacher can only make suggestions, not make tough demands. Accordingly, the adverse effects of terminating psychological counseling at will are also borne by the visitors.
Non-guiding principle-Psychological counseling is different from general problem counseling. It does not need more specific direct guidance on psychological problems, but should be indirect inspiration, guidance, help and counseling, so that visitors can understand and think about solutions. Help visitors solve their own problems, not replace them.
Emotional restriction principle: the key to the establishment of the relationship between consultants and visitors and the smooth development of consulting work lies in the psychological communication and closeness between consultants and visitors. But there are limits. Visitors' persuasion and requests, even if they are well-intentioned, should be rejected before terminating the consultation. If personal contact is too close, visitors will not only know too much about the counselor's inner world and private life, but also hinder their self-expression, and the counselor will not be able to say what he should say, thus losing the ability to judge things objectively and fairly.
Principle of postponing major decisions: During psychological consultation, visitors are advised not to make major decisions such as retirement, job-hopping, dropping out of school, transfer, divorce, etc. In principle, it is because their mood is too unstable and shaken. After the consultation, the visitor's mood is settled, and the decision made after the mood is sorted out is often not easy to regret or go back on our word. This should be informed at the beginning of the consultation.
Punctuality principle. The consultant must be in place according to the appointment time, and can't miss the appointment casually, and can't unilaterally change the appointment time without the consent of the other party.