If you have emotional problems, will you go to an emotional expert?

As an expert in marital emotional counseling, I feel more like a "happy restorer". At present, there is a misunderstanding about marital emotional counseling in society, which thinks that marital emotional counseling can't solve practical problems at all, or can only provide a platform to pour out emotions.

Here, I have the responsibility to remind all those who have problems in marriage and love that the marriage emotion experts will not directly provide solutions to the problems, but will solve the problems through the following steps:

1.*** is the same as the problem of mining.

Every marriage and love have different problems. There is no panacea in the world. Marital emotional experts need long-term communication and consultation with help seekers in order to accurately find problems. It is unrealistic for many help-seekers to ask marriage emotional experts to provide a recovery plan immediately.

2. Improve your emotional intelligence.

The problem of marriage and love has never been a problem of one person. Many people have suppressed part of their psychology in different growth experiences and environments. Once the problems of marriage and love appear, they immediately fall into complex emotions such as collapse, closure, depression and pain. Marriage emotion experts should first use psychological knowledge to ease the mood of help seekers, provide positive psychological energy, and let help seekers face marriage problems with a positive attitude.

Face yourself

China people think that "it's a shame to wash one's dirty linen in public", but the marriage emotion expert just wants to face the hidden problems with you, which may be darkness, failure, weakness, betrayal and pain ... If the marriage emotion expert doesn't handle it properly, it will only keep the help-seekers at a respectful distance, and later he said that the marriage emotion expert is useless.

4. Coordination for a long time

Rome was not built in a day. Many marriage and love problems can be traced back to the early childhood of the helper, and many psychological problems we developed in the growing environment eventually became a big problem that plagued our happiness in marriage and love. How can these problems accumulated in decades be easily changed by just a few conversations?

In a word, marital emotional counseling is a highly professional job, which requires professional knowledge in psychology, anthropology, ethics, linguistics and so on. This is not comparable to intimate chat, but also needs the full trust and support of the helper.