With the in-depth development and popularization of psychological counseling, more and more people are willing to go into the psychological counse
With the in-depth development and popularization of psychological counseling, more and more people are willing to go into the psychological counseling room and accept psychological counseling and treatment with confidence.
But on the whole, most people are still shy and have scruples, unwilling to face their own "psychological problems", and even more unwilling to walk into the psychological counseling room.
This is actually all.
Now, I will give you a basic explanation of "what is psychological counseling". From the perspective of psychological counseling, within the scope of psychology, we can see the clouds and solve the public confusion.
Chinese and foreign scholars have different opinions, but they are similar.
The commonly used definition in counseling practice is that psychological counseling is a process in which psychological counselors help clients solve psychological problems.
C Rogers (1942) put it this way: the process of providing psychological help to individuals through continuous and direct contact and trying to change their behaviors and attitudes.
Chen Chonggeng (1989) said that psychological counseling is to help people explore and study problems and let them decide what they should do. Three questions should be clarified in psychological consultation: (1) the nature of the problem to be solved; (2) the skills of consultants; (3) the goal to be achieved.
There are many more, so I won't list them one by one.
? This process:
A can help B through language, writing and other media.
? A and B can meet face to face or consult and communicate across the screen.
There are two types of counseling.
-Psychologically normal people need to make an ideal choice in real life, such as marriage and family, choosing work and study, and social adaptation. At this time, psychological counselors can provide them with psychological help from the psychological point of view. This kind of consultation is called developmental psychological consultation.
? -When a mentally normal person has emotional problems such as anxiety, nervousness, fear and depression caused by various stimuli, or behavioral problems caused by various setbacks, which affects his normal social function, that is, he finds that his psychological balance has been broken, then this kind of counseling is called healthy psychological counseling.
? In other words, if you are not mentally ill, you can talk to a counselor if you have something on your mind.
Specifically, it is to help normal people solve various psychological problems (including general psychological problems, serious psychological problems and neurotic psychological problems, cognition, emotion, emotion, stress and unsuitable behavior, etc.). ), overcome mild psychological barriers, correct unreasonable thinking patterns and illogical thinking, learn to adjust interpersonal relationships, establish a healthy lifestyle, strengthen adaptability, and so on.
In short, psychological counseling is to solve psychological problems. But it only solves the psychological problem itself, and does not include specific events that cause psychological problems. That is, not to interfere or help the helper solve any specific problems in life. For example, we can solve the psychological problems after divorce, but we can't intervene and solve the problem of the helper's remarriage, because that is a matter for the "matchmaker".
You got it?
A joke: Psychological consultation may solve all the problems of normal people with mental health. I said maybe.
The main objects of psychological counseling can be divided into three categories:
-people who are mentally normal, but ask for help when they encounter practical problems related to psychology. (Reference Development Consulting)
-people with normal mental health, but low mental health level, resulting in psychological obstacles, unable to study, work, live and ask for help normally. (Refer to health consultation)
-Special objects, namely clinically cured or latent mental patients.
This need not be explained too much, as long as it is not a psychopath in the onset period, it is within the scope of psychological counseling.
This is determined by the restrictive view of negotiation. The consultation time is generally set at 50 ~ 60 minutes, which can ensure that both parties can sort out and solve problems in a good state. If the time is too long, both sides will feel tired, thinking, thinking and verbal expression will be affected, and it is difficult to achieve good results in negotiation.
Of course, this is not absolute, and the time of each negotiation can be decided by both parties according to the actual situation.
Don't worry. If you don't understand it once, you can speak it several times.
Let's talk about this briefly. Speak with goals, plans and steps. Have theory, method and technology; There is communication, communication and interaction, and the whole process is serious and rigorous. This is not just a joke.
Psychological counseling is different from the treatment of physical diseases. To treat physical diseases, you only need to take medicine on time according to the doctor's advice, take injections on time, and pay attention to rest or exercise. These are the processes in which patients passively receive treatment. Psychological counseling requires clients to actively participate in it and actively cooperate with counselors for treatment. Inspired, guided, supported and encouraged by counselors, we actively explore our own problems, and with the assistance of counselors, we can understand and solve our own psychological problems.
? ? In other words, whether you can get better or not is very important and can be said to be the decisive factor.
Who can help you if you want to stand up but don't work hard?
If you deduct the topic, you must speak confidently and boldly, and speak around your own problems. Don't take it to heart, let alone hide it. We should actively cooperate with consultants, take the initiative to participate in talks, take consultation seriously, be brave in exploring and understanding our own problems, and overcome difficulties until victory. Otherwise, it's useless to talk about it, and it's also invalid in the end.
? Alas! This will not work. Because this is absolutely not allowed by the consultant's "value neutrality principle or neutral attitude".
Neutral attitude means that psychological counselors understand the problems, puzzles and situations of the seekers from the perspective of the seekers, and at the same time do not evaluate or interfere with personal emotions and opinions. A neutral attitude can ensure that the counselor does not bring personal emotions into the consultation. Parents, relatives and friends can't play the role of consultation because their personal emotions hinder the objectivity of judgment. It affects the consulting effect and it is difficult to achieve the consulting goal.
Neutral attitude means that my attitude and emotions stand in the middle and I don't take sides. Doing so can enhance the trust of the help seekers in the psychological counselor (me).
In addition, consultation needs to get to the bottom of it, and sometimes people dig their ancestral graves. Therefore, privacy issues are not easy to deal with. This is also a reason for not consulting acquaintances, and it is also an embarrassing place after consultation.
Just chatting, isn't there a saying in the Jianghu that "it's not good to know too much"
Therefore, you don't discuss with your relatives and friends for the sake of the well-being of both sides and everyone, not for fear that you won't give money, so don't be so narrow-minded, okay?
Well, psychological counseling can be divided into short-term (1 ~ 3 weeks), medium-term (1 ~ 3 months) and long-term (more than 3 months) according to the time course.
That is to say, if it goes well, you can make one or two small trips, maybe three or five difficult trips, and it's hard to say ten or eight difficult trips.
In short, talking about it several times mainly depends on the severity of the problem.
This matter needs mutual consent. There is absolutely no need for one party to force the other party to hold talks at its convenience.
It is best to hold talks when it is convenient for both sides and when both sides are ready. Because before the meeting, the consultant needs to do some basic preparations. Can you get good grades if you rush into battle? People who seek help also need to be prepared to attend every meeting. Emotion, emotion and mental state are all factors that affect the meeting effect.
Therefore, the appointment of the meeting time is to leave enough time for both sides to prepare and brew, and neither side should fight unprepared. So, don't think that whoever holds the shelf is redundant.
Occupation definition says: Psychological counselor is a professional who uses psychological knowledge, follows psychological principles, and helps (assists) clients to relieve psychological problems through psychological counseling techniques and methods.
Black is the point.
Let's just say that when your heart is shrouded in darkness, the counselor is the one who guides you, accompanies you and leads you to see the light again in out of the dark.
Simply put, it is a person who helps you heal your heart wholeheartedly and carefully.
The answer is yes: shameless!
Over the years, misunderstandings about mental illness have always existed, and there is a tendency to talk about mental illness. This is redundant.
In fact, accidentally suffering from mental illness is just like accidentally catching a cold. It has no moral color, and has nothing to do with good or bad personality or mental illness. So there is no need to hide it, for fear of being known by others, and don't feel inferior because of it.
Anyone who laughs at this discrimination is very ignorant and superficial. Mental illness, like physical illness, should be developed early, intervened early, treated early and recovered as soon as possible. Of course, we should also pay more attention to prevention in peacetime.
Mental illness is not terrible, what is terrible is the wrong understanding and treatment failure.
You got it?
I'm finished.
There are still shortcomings, and I hope to correct them.
? Main references:
[1] edited by Guo Nianfeng. Psychological Counselor (Basic Knowledge) .206438+05 Review.
[2] Le Guoan editor. Counseling Psychology, 2002
[3] Zhong Youbin. Modern Psychological Counseling: Theory and Application
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