Before we got married, my mother called me to my room and only said, don't be too good to my mother-in-law. Why?

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been a university question, but as a woman, she will be taught to be diligent when she is very young, and she should not be rejected because she is lazy when she is married. But can a woman be valued if she works hard all her life? Not necessarily, it may be easier to be bullied. My friend Xiao Yuan always told me recently that her grandmother complained that her family didn't provide her with old-age care services, but this was obviously "heartless" from the beginning.

0 1, one is willing to fight and one is willing to get it.

Xiao Yuan's mother temporarily called her Aunt Liu. Her grandmother's surname is Wang. Grandma Wang has always been a strong and unreasonable woman. When she was young, her husband died unexpectedly and raised three children. Widows in the village used to be bullied, which is why grandma Wang has such a character. Aunt Liu's childhood is the character of steamed stuffed bun. When she got married, her family told her to treat her husband and mother-in-law well and not to embarrass her family.

Grandma Wang was startled by the young couple. First: Aunt Liu must do all the work at home alone, and no one else can help. Second: both of them should keep all their income, and the family can spend more than their own hands. Third: we must make our own decisions on major and minor matters at home, and we can't make decisions without authorization.

Aunt Liu has no objection to these overlord clauses. Usually, Grandpa Wang will be scolded by Grandma Wang if he wants to help with some housework. The key is that Aunt Liu didn't let Xiao Yuan rest when she gave birth. Not only did she not have a confinement, but she even had to wait on her mother. She spends more time cooking and washing dishes, holding the child in one hand.

02, the outbreak of infinite tolerance.

Aunt Liu worked hard 16 years. Where is the marriage? Apparently, she became a free nanny. Outsiders see this as an excellent daughter-in-law, and everyone they have met will praise her: "Aunt Wang, it's a blessing to marry such a good daughter-in-law to serve you!" . Aunt Wang is very disdainful: "This is her duty. If you marry my family, you must serve me! Do you still have to wait on the person my family paid to come back? " Aunt Liu was very unhappy when she heard these words, but she was afraid to refute her mother-in-law.

Aunt Liu met an accident when she was a sophomore in Xiao Yuan. She was diagnosed with uterine cancer. Fortunately, it is early, but to remove the uterus, you need surgery. She asked Grandma Wang for money to treat her illness, but was told that she had no money. Grandma Wang said, "If you give me money, it's mine. I'll give you this broken medicine jar. I might as well marry one for my son! " .

Uncle Wang didn't dare to force Grandma Wang to take out the money. He just thought it was unkind of her mother to do so. Later, Aunt Liu also borrowed money from her younger brother to treat her illness, and threatened Uncle Wang to divorce without separating from Grandma Wang.

03. Being kind to mother-in-law does not mean bidding.

After that, the Xiao Yuan family moved to this city. Grandma Wang is old, worried about her future pension, and began to bring local products to please Aunt Liu. Aunt Liu has been extremely disappointed with Grandma Wang for a long time. She has been ignoring her and releasing malicious words: "You don't need to bring these things. If you want to live a better life in your later years, don't do anything too much. " That's the opening scene. Grandma Wang had to complain.

Daughter-in-law is not mother-in-law's nanny. It is proper to take care of her, but she can't handle it. And at the beginning of this incident, we should show such ferocity, otherwise the mother-in-law will think that her daughter-in-law is bullying others and has been stepping on her feet. In fact, there is an important role in this matter, uncle Wang, who grew up under the aura of his mother. He is too timid to take responsibility. He is a complete waver, and he obeys whoever thinks he is good. This is one of the reasons why the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is so bad, so girls should not always fight with their mother-in-law, but also take care of their husbands.